My friend is very insecure and afraid of losing our friendship

Most likely, your friend fears that you might find other friends which might lessen your time with her/him. There are people who feels so domineering over their friends and would not allow their friends to be close to other people.

Maybe she just has a mental illness of some kind like OCD or something where she needs to always ask and reassure herself. If this is someone you are really good friends with, I would not let it bother you, and just reassure her every time she asks unless she is being annoying. You would not want to loose a Good friend just because you did not want to answer them would you?

I see that she is indeed very insecure about your relationship. I think it is really more about her experiences and what she went through before that made her this way. She could be having trust issues, not believing in what people are telling her because she was fooled before. Mabee of she was a friend I would talk to her and tell her that I do consider her as a good friend and nothing can change that. Id let her know that i would always be there for her and will tell her that she needs to feel secure that I am always just here. That she can stop worrying about us and about my sincerity too.

Hi, It is very surprising behavior. She has no friend without you. So I think as per the response of our mylot friend viju, you should give information about mylot. She can add more friends and share her feelings with them. It will help her to reduce her insecure feeling.

If she is truly my friend, then I will be straight with her. I will tell her that as much as I treasure our friendship, I am getting uncomfortable whenever she seems like she is so insecure with my friendship. That only means that she's not sure of my friendship and it bothers me. I will also encourage her to try to befriend other people. That doesn't mean of course that we will no longer be friends. Then we can talk about her new friends and compare notes. That will be better to talk about rather than for her to keep on asking me about us being friends, being best friends forever, etc. And I will also request her to be honest and open with me, what's her feelings about the whole friendship. What happened that made her that way. If she really is a friend to me, she will be open and understand that I only have her best intentions at heart.

I know how you are feeling, I have been in your situation, and in your friend's situation before. Loosing touch with your friends, that has been your friends for years, is a hard thought. I finally realized that we had just become two different people, so I just had to let them go. Also I would try to comfort your friend, and maybe put yourself in her shoes. It is hard to be lonely, but maybe you could bring her out of her shell and encourage her to make new friends where she is. I hope this helps!

My guess is her actions of insecurity is what has left her with no friends. Maybe if you just say to her that you cherish all friendships hers included and because she is your friend that you need to be honest with her. Tell her how you see her acting and that comments like that are what push friends away. Assure her not to worry that you are not leaving her but that you need her to work on her security issues so that your friendship can grow even more. I have found that if you don't she will get even worse and the under lying insecurity is not something you can cure and she needs more help then just you. Maybe suggest that she see someone and find out why she is so insecure so that she can be happier and make even more friends. It is sad when someone feels this way about themselves. It always breaks my heart to see someone with such low self esteem. I hope you being honest with her will encourage her to get some help and become happier with herself. No one deserves to feel that way all the time. I know it must be very frustrating to you but just by sticking by her it shows what a wonderful person you are. The world needs more people like you in it!!

I'm afraid that you'll be tired if you and her don't change. I know that friendship is good. However, it's doesn't mean that you must binding with a person all day.

Hi, Why is she feeling insecured and lose your friendship. Tell her that both of you are friends and you always free to communicate anything with her. If she's not having friends, why not you introduce mylot to her? She will also feel motivated as well as her confidence level increase by reading/posting and learning about other people / their life.