What is the right choice?

Noone can be sure beforehand whether things are going to come out perfect and whether we will be capable of raising a family in the best way. We do what we can and the mistakes we make are not so bad if we love our spouse and children. I had a good husband for 40 years and I think that, looking back, when romantic love is past, generosity and respect are so very important. We were good partners for a long time. There no preparation for marriage, but good will.

Nobody can prepare him-/herself to be a good husband or wife or parent. It's nonsense to believe that. Being married is different as being bf and gf. Also.. nobody can tell how a pregnancy will be, how it will effect you, if the child(eren) born are the ones you have in mind. I think as long as you both are sure about eachother and you do understand what "in good ánd bad times" do mean it's enough to go on for it. There is no quarantee, no matter how long you two do know each other or how much you prepare or practise you will be the perfect husband and father. Better discuss/ask your partner what her expectations are and tell her yours.

I believe that you sound ready for marriage and its commitment plus parenthood once your lady gets pregnant. I am sure you will be able to raise a family. You can be an excellent husband and a very good parent to your children. You could soon become engaged to be married. Good luck.

Hi Afunnyman and welcome to my lot. If you are sure you love this woman and know in your heart that you want to marry her my best suggestion to you is go for it and ask God in your lives so that you can learn from Gods word how to be a good husband and father to your children. I have been listening to a man that teaches Gods word the way I believe with all my heart that he can teach anyone how to do what is Gods will the right way that God wanted it to be taught. Go listen to this man he can help you understand Gods plan for you http://www.shepherdschapel.com/index.htm . I have listened to this man for many years and have become a better person I believe with all my heart. Let God be your guide to become who God wants you to be and you will feel in your heart that you are a great person because God created you and God thinks that is a great thing that HE created you. Keep the faith and God will always be with you in what ever you decide.

I think that 4 years are long enough to realize if you really want to live with this girl for the rest of your life,so you should seriously think about getting married;i don't consider too much preparation is needed,you will learn from your direct experiences after getting married.After all,marriage is not a science or a theory you can learn in advance and then put into practice;there are no courses to teach you before how to have a happy marriage,you can only experience it directly.

if she is with you for 4years then she knows that your the best person for him so dont be sad thinking whether your the best person for your girl. and most of us bachelors wont know whether we would make a good dad unless we are one so that question is inappropriate either. If you love kinds and care for them so dearly then yes Your qualified to be a perfect dad. and i dont know what kinda occupation you do but supporting a family is really really hard to do and with the increasing prices its really hard you know? but if your earning is legit and is better compared to others then GO AHEAD! :D your all right!

Talk to her. Ask her about kids and marriage. Never assume she wants them. If she is the One , you have time to figure out what you both want. Good Luck.

It's nice to hear your good news,then to be with her if you feel that she the one you want to look for.Cuz it's really not easy to find such person who understands you and take care of you.To be a decent and caring man,make her feel about your love.You guys are meant to be each other.Good luck to you and show a real you.

I believe you would never be able to perfectly that you're ready for being a parent or a husband. You may prepare financially but you could never do enough preparations that would make you feel you're totally ready for the responsibility. Though this may be the case, I can say that you are ready for it. I have read your previous post earlier and I've seen that you have already done financial preparations. As for emotional preparations, I believe you are ready because as early as now you are already thinking of what's gonna happen in the future. I think you are just a bit too anxious and nervous at the same time. Nevertheless you are ready.

Hi, Congratulations for that you found the girl that you want to marry. I think you an handle all the responsibilities after marriage as you are thinking about future you are very emotional responsible person. Don't worry. If you have well settled financially to raise your family then you don't have to worry. Go ahead. Take the permission of your parents. Our blessings are with you.

if your girlfriend knows this im sure, she is very happy for it, you have a good point and your girlfriend is lucky because she met a guy like you who is thinking for the future of their family. for me four years is enough to measure yourself on how you can able to enter and handle being a husband and daddy. some of my friends dont plan what happen for the future of their child.. they dont mind on how many they can make, besides they mind the money on how do they handle their kids.

Congrats Afunnyman, you're already thinking of that, and I believe you will be a good husband and dad because right now, as what you're thinking is a great responsibility that you're unsure if you can handle it or not. I'm not yet married but same with you, I'm planning of that few years from now. Because we know that marriage is not like a hot of spoon of rice that once we realized it's hot, we will just spit it out. Planning doesn't guarantee you forever that everything will be ok during your marriage life, because there will always a time within your marriage you will encounter difficulties and challenges, but what I believe, everything can be taking care of, if there will be open mindedness, communication, solving issues and not sleeping with it, and most of all, guidance and pray will help a lot. Have enough time to reflect and think about it bro, and I know you can, and after this, you, yourself alone can really tell, if you are ready, take time, or take the challenge of the next stage of your life. Keep the love alive and good luck. My best wishes and prayer for you.