My wife become very emotional in this house.
By roshigo58
@roshigo58 (4859)
Pune, India
March 2, 2013 8:44am CST
We shifted to Pune last month and now we are together with our son. We all are happy. But my wife has some problem of standing here. she can not walk here. We have servant in house to prepare food. But she comes in the morning and prepares food. But my son feels hungry and tells her that he wants something to eat she stats crying. She feels very sad. She tries daily to stand but our tiles are so smooth that she can not has the grip to stand firmly on her legs. But she doesn't lose her hope. She is very positive. My son is kidding and tell her to go and make something to eat. He also feel sorry when mom starts to cry. He said sorry to her.
15 responses
@allknowing (136418)
• India
2 Mar 13
This can be solved easily. You should put some cotton,woolen or coir mats where she needs to stand.
http://www.gelpro.com/ This link just shows you a sample but these type of mats are available anywhere in India. I use them.
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@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Mar 13
great idea, so neat to see mylotters trying to help someone here. I salute you there.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
2 Mar 13
I don't understand, are her feet very bad? If so can't you get her what we call a walker? This helps one stand and walk, it has rubber on the four feet and this makes it quite stable. I think your Son is mean to make his Mother cry, she must be afraid and yet she is still trying to be hopefull. You can also put special rugs on the floor that makes them less slippery. Please try to help this woman.
@alottodo (3056)
• Australia
3 Mar 13
I Am sorry to barge into your conversation but if your wife suffer from muscular dystrophy she should not be expected to do any thing and if her son is hungry he can make himself something to eat after all he was living on his own before was not he? and your son may have good intentions but he should not in any way tease his mother this way and he should be serving his mother food and drink no the other way around after all he is not a baby.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
5 Mar 13
Hi,
My son is very caring. He also prepares food for himself. But sometimes after coming back from office he feels tired. I also give him to eat. My wife is so emotional that small small things make her cry because she wants to go in the kitchen and prepare something for us. My son loves his mom very much and always try to make her happy. Thank you for the response.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
My wife is suffering from muscular dystrophy. So her muscles are very weak. She has to stand up by applying all the strength she has. We have made sofa higher than the normal size. but now in this house the flooring is smooth and her feet can not get grip to stand. After standing firmly she can walk with walker. but now she can not stand so how can she walk? My son is very caring and not mean. He takes care of his mother very lovingly. But my wife feels that she can not cook for her son when he is hungry.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 13
I can imagine she is crying in frustration, it must be extremely frustrating for her not being able to do things, and she feels she is not looking after her family and feels a failure because of her disability. I think the suggestions are right as small measures to help her, by placing mats on the floor to ease the pain off the tiles and give her some added grip.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
5 Mar 13
Hi,
You are right. She is crying in frustration. Because of her disability she is not able to do anything for us. She likes to prepare many favorite dishes to us and serve us happily. But now she is helpless. I have received many suggestions from mylot friends and I will try them. Thank you for response.
@celticeagle (166970)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Mar 13
Tiles are so smooth she slips? The mother is upset. Why? Doesn't she like the new situation? Maybe she goes barefoot she won't have the problem on the tiles. Or maybe she needs to wear different shoes.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
My wife is suffering from muscular dystrophy and she walks with the help of walker. But she can not lift her and can not stand as the flooring is smooth. She can not get grip and so she can not walk. Thank you for the response.
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@celticeagle (166970)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Mar 13
But you can help her to get around if she needs to. Like to the bathroom or whatever.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
3 Mar 13
Hi friend, good to hear about your shifting. Hope you are enjoying in the new place, sad to know about your wife problem, tell the servant to come for her job early to avoid this problem. Wish you to solve this issue soon
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
5 Mar 13
Hi,
thank you for the good suggestion. My servant comes very soon and prepares only chapati and vegetable and no other food. My wife keep cut vegetables before servant comes. We can not afford servant for full cooking. It is very costly. My wife can not stand with the help of other people. She has very low power in her muscles. She is trying to daily but yet she can not stand. I wish our problem can solved soon.
@randomarts09 (1405)
• Indonesia
14 Mar 13
I know and understand, not being able to do anything which seems so simple for most people are very frustrating. So she has become sensitive and cries easily. But I say if she has a problem with the footing you can try the walker so the floor won’t be too smooth for her. Please be patient with her, and I can understand that she feels so hurt because she can’t make something for her son which for normal person without illness is very simple.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
15 Mar 13
Hi,
Walker is not comfortable for her. She used to walk with the help of plastic chair. She has to bend on the chair and has to take full body support. But now she has difficulty in standing on her foot. So she can not walk. She is trying every day. I think she will get success. thank you for the response.
@sylvia13 (1850)
• Nelson Bay, Australia
3 Mar 13
I would just like to ask to have some more patience with your wife. She might feel kind of out to place where you have shifted to, but maybe it will get better once she finds friends there. However, I would also like to caution you that her problems are not medical, as I used to have a disease that did not let me walk much and even today, I also have problems with balance. Good luck and cheers to you and your family
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
You are right. Her mind is not ready to accept new things in the house. She has muscular dystrophy so her muscles are very weak. So it is more difficult for her to adjust with new things. We should have some patience. Thank you for the response.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 13
I think this problem could be solved by buying some non slip floor mats. Then your wife we be able to walk and stand in your new house. This might stop her feeling upset and crying. She could also try to buy a new supportive and well gripping pair of shoes. These two ideas would not turn out all that expensive. Good luck to your wife, you and your son.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
5 Mar 13
Hi,
Thank you for the good suggestion. I will buy some gripping pair of shoes for her so that she can stand firmly and can try to walk again as before. Thank you for the response.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
3 Mar 13
Hi, You may buy some anti-slip sandals for your wife to wear at home. These anti-slip sandals can hold onto the slippery smooth tiles. They are easily available at any big hypermarkets. Besides they are inexpensive.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
Thank you for good suggestion. I will try this besides they are expensive. no problem.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
Maybe she should use slippers that has a rubber sole so that she can prevent herself from slipping on the floor. My mom's kitchen also has slippery tiles. And so sometimes, i would just take off my slippers so that I am sure I am able to cook without worrying of having a injury.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
My wife don't like to wear slippers. She feels uncomfortable with slippers. Her muscles are very weak because she is suffering from muscular dystrophy. Her muscular strength is very poor. She can not get grip while lifting her from sofa and to stand. Lets hope everything goes well. Thank you for the response.
@alberello (4752)
• Italy
2 Mar 13
Well, in essence, after reading your thread, I naturally do to you this question: In this new house, you were there willingly or not?
From what I have read it would seem that you are not very satisfied. However I can not give a personal prejudice just reading the discussion.
You talked about your wife became very emotional, since you live there, often crying then, in my opinion, is not positive.
In this regard, you have any idea to do something to improve this situation?
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
You are right. We have to change our own house and have to shift here for some unavoidable reason. We have planned to come here after 3 or 4 years after purchasing our own house and live happily with our son. But we have to live here in rented house here and sell our own house. My wife is suffering from muscular dystrophy and she has difficulty in lifting her to stand because the flooring here is very smoother then our previous house. She is trying again and again and I hope she will be successful in standing and walking again and prepare some favorite dish for our son.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
My wife feels that she can not cook for me and my son. so small things makes her cry. We always try to make her happy but sometimes unwillingly we hurt her. Thank you for the response.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Mar 13
Sorry to hear this. your son maybe is playing to hard with his mom. How old is he? Hope things get better there for your wife.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
3 Mar 13
Hi,
My son is 24 years old. He is very loving and caring for his mom. My wife thinks that she can not cook anything for me and her son. So she feels very sad. So she becomes sad with very small things.My wife is actually positive but she can not adjust with sudden change. Thank you for the response.
@lvchloe (49)
• China
3 Mar 13
sorry to hear that. we should be considerate and caring to our families who have suffered from diseases. patients are fragile emotionally. it is not your son's fault who didn't mean to. all you have is more time to adjust yourselves to meet new situation and learn to be more considerate to your wife.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
5 Mar 13
Hi,
She tries not to trouble us as far as possible. But sometimes in frustration I also lose my control and speak rudely with her. So she feels helpless sometimes. My son and I try to not to hurt her emotionally as far as possible. Thank you for the response.
@louievill (28851)
• Philippines
2 Mar 13
sorry friend but I can't seem to have a grasp of the whole discussion, does you wife have some sort of illness? Are the tiles the only problem being slippery? If so then by all means have them replaced, that is if you own the house, simply have them taken out, they would make nice and attractive pieces in your garden, I had our old tiles in the kitchen sink hammered and scattered all over the garden, have them replaced with something that offers more traction! The tiles in our kitchen are quality ones, made in Italy and had been installed since the 80's and my 81 year old mother never had a problem with them since she still cooks for us in the kitchen most of the time, interchanging with my wife
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
2 Mar 13
Hi,
My wife is suffering from muscular dystrophy. Her muscles are very weak. So she can not lift her and stand if she can not get grip by her feet. She can not accept any change easily. She is trying daily to stand up but she can not. thank you for the response.