Does your impression change towards them when you see their house?

Well I myself wouldn't want to be caught with a messy house by anybody, it will feel awkward and a little embarassing. If I don't know the person that well yet, maybe my impression will change a little especially if the person is kind of cocky and likes to show off. As far as I can remember, once I get acquainted with a person or get close with him/her, their house didn't matter to me at all. I have friends with small hut houses but it didn't bother me, I actually preferred to hung out there because it's so fresh and I feel more comfortable, compared to big houses where you have to be prim and proper. But then again, I think it's the person that will matter and not the size of their house.

Judging people is not good, though sometimes you can't resist it, but you should minimize it. Yes, their are some people treat you very nicely, if they ever found out that you have a big/clean house and that is so called "manggagamit" in our language or "users", its just because you are wealthy. Having a friend whether he/she is wealthy in living or not is not a big deal as long as you have a true friend that comforts you every time you need them.

I have to say there have been times where a house has surprised me. Someone I was working with who was a neat freak at work, though her house was dilapidated. I had always worried about her coming to my own home because she seemed like an obsessive clean freak and my home, at times, could become quite a mess. It was like hoarders at her place though. She seemed completely fine with it. Someone I thought I kind of knew seemed like a puzzle to me after that. Another person, also from work, was not a very good worker but a friendly person. He seemed lazy and I dreaded working with him. He was a good person outside of work though, as was usually the case. I have known people who did not work well or much that would have immaculate homes. This guys house was pretty trashed, horrible smelling, covered in animal feces and caving in at some parts. I had a new outlook on working with him. At least he was consistent.

I don't judge people based on their houses and the things that they own. I don't care if the house is a little messy, but of course there is a difference between a home that is a little messy and a house which belongs to a hoarder who has so many things that you can't walk around inside the house or can't clean the house. A house that is a little messy doesn't bother me at all, but a house of a hoarder would be a different situation and I would find it hard to deal with that. I wouldn't end the friendship because the other person was a hoarder, but I would find a different place to meet.

Let me say off the bat that I have OCD when it comes to a house being clean. I like my house in order and clean at all times. So for me if I go to someones home I don't care what they have I do care about how clean it is. Because you don't have to have the best of things in life but you should be able to keep a home clean. Especially if you are a stay at home mom. So if I go to someone home and the place is dirty and messy well I'm not going back there again. That is why I always call before I go to visit someone. I don't like to be surprised and I don't want to surprise anyone else with a unplanned visit. How you keep your home shows alot into the person you truly are, in my opinion.

Sad but true people can be like this, for me growing up my parents did not have a lot of fancy things we were not poor but many of my friends had "nicer" houses and as a teenager I had a very wealthy friend who I had invited to my house. My mother had made a shelf from plywood and bricks,to store books on and my friend went back to school and told all our classmates I was heartbroken. What a lesson for me I never had anyone back (which I know was wrong) I am now an adult and I always say people should go to visit you and not your house,anyone can have a house but not many have a home!

Hi. If am befriending a person, his house or its size least matters to me. Suppose someone lives in a very big house and he does not attend his friends with warmth and closeness, the way he should, nobody would like to go to his house again and again. I prefer friendly and warm persons even if they live in small houses.

When I was learning to drive my driving instructor always came into his customers houses to look at what they are like. He asks to use the toilet so he gets away with doing that. He made comments about the people's houses. Some houses are minimal style and some are very cluttered. I see the person's personality more than what their home is like.

you are not wrong for making that assumption. a person's house does tell alot about them. not to say that if you have a wealthy type house you better than anyone else.

yes, nowadays the houses are a symbol of wealth status. That's why everyone spend huge amount to make their home look good and shiny. That shows most of the people judge them by how good their house are.Nowadays many people are spending millions of amount on their houses.

To be quite honest,maybe the impression would had a little changed cuz i also know it's not right to do that,but i just can't help with that.The room can show its owner's characters.But i won't change all from the friend cuz we still need to understand each other through time.Good for you.

My house is Always the same, I don't care about "messy" a bit more or less. People know me as a person and they know I am (probably way more) clean as they are. I have rules and they respect mine and I respect theirs. I am not more friendly if their house is just cleaned up. I never made friends with someone because of the furniture or the car they drive. I find it a bit weird to read that some friends became nicer to other friend once they found out that... How can anyone ONCE find out about the house??? I mean.. you meet someone, you get closer and after a longer period you find out you are close/good friends. Being a friend, good friend takes time and before that you already visited eachother many times or?

so my own perception about this house thing if it will reflects your wealth or whatsoever is not reliable all the time. i guess the messiness of the house does not reflect your over all personality because sometimes things happened for a reason. there are really times that we feel tired or we are too busy to clean the house. but if the house is really dirty all through the years, well that thing says that you are somewhat really different well, for whatever reason, i really tried not to judge people at all stake because above all - i do not have the right to do it so and i do not like others to judge me as well because by heart, soul, mind and personality they do not know who am i really :) so thanks for sharing this :)

Yeah, I agree with you. Sometimes, our friends reflects our capacity in life in our houses. When they see a huge and luxury house, they would consider you as a rich kid but when they see your house otherwise then they will conclude that you are a poor one. Me, as a friend, are not after the look and size of my friend's house. No matter what their houses are if they are very true and always there for me than that is more important.

I think that's a hard call. I know several people that don't have the nicest of homes but they have money. It just isn't their priority to have the latest or greatest of newer things. (probably why they have the $ in the bank). The only thing that I really take notice about a person's home is if it's picked up outside. Not inside. I think can tell more about a person by the outside of their home then their inside because a well kept yard (picked up, mowed, etc) shows a sign of pride to me. The inside...well, I have kids so my home is "lived in". I tell my boyfriend if he doesn't like something cleaning produces are under the sink in the bathroom.

Hi ! Don't judge the people by its house ! There are those living in mansions but you can't even spend a night with them and there are those who's house is just made out of debris but you are so welcome. The house is not important , it's the people living on it who is the most important one but cleanliness and orderliness of the house reflects the people living on it!There is some truth on this , if person got a clean house expect that this person is an organized and systematic person . How your house appear would reflect the personality of the people living on it.

True, home reflects the character of the persons who resides inside. Let it be money or messy point of view, it attracts or detracts people. In fact, i dont feel comfortable with homes having lots of money involved and not messy at all. I love the little messy rooms. It looks lively to me.