it's easy to forgive but it's hard to trust again!!!

yes Raine, I'm deeply hurt although it's not my money I felt betrayed by trusting her and she takes oopportunity since I didnt check all the accounts believing that she is an honest religious person. I give all the responsibility to her. Well just try to be positvie to her that she will change and she promised me that she will do good now. I hope and pray :)

hi markIT it will really take time to trust her again, there's a mess to patch up, and she should clean this up. an incentive was given to them monthly for the performance done but this time i stop it, a lesson should be learned by her. thanks for the comment.

hi sunshine, yes that is true. when you are always with those negative feelings you only hinder youself to move on. even the person who hurt you might have moved on already but you will remain as it is if you do not let go. Prayers will be your guide, and prayers will be by your side. You know you will do well eventually when you no longer feel as much anger for the person anymore. It is sometimes still going to happen, some pain and hurts will be triggered, but that would never be too dangerous for you when you have those and you can use these to do better things, and improve on yourselves and prove all those that turned you down that they were wrong about you. =) May God be with you. Always be blessed, have a good day sunshine.

THANKS CHIYOSAN... you got the points, forgiving them to free ourselves with the bondage of hatred and anger..keeping that two all the time will give us sickness, so by forgiving we released all the negative aura in our body.. and prayer will help us eased the pain, by giving everything to God. thanks for sharing.

hi dandano, forgiving and forgeting can't be taken both.. but we will try to forget in the future we might...hope we can... thanks for the comment.

imsippy forgive and forget your exgf, she was past but if you still love her then forget her mistakes, easy to say but hard to do? I think so, but in spite of everything you still love her, give her a chance but don't give 100% of your love to her because its hard to be hurt again. learn to love yourself also give yourself a break have a new friends and don't focus to her only. remember that an individual had his own identity, have your identity, an asset that fascinates her. have your time and her time... I say this because my bf before did that to me, he had another gf, i forgive him but i don't trust him anymore, so what I did. i go out in the box, i don't focus to him, i create a new world, so when times come that we are not really meant for each other, we ended as friends again. :) and my husband did that also to me, i let him go, let him go free and in the end he grab me to marry him . maybe he realized how lucky he is having me in his life lol... Good luck my friend.

got it internaty, were open for forgeting because it's hard to carry the baggage forever... time will come.. then everything maybe will be forgotten. thanks for sharing.

Hello dainy oh so sorry it coincide with your father, i know what you felt since I remember when I'm young my grandfather arrive at our house because he was sick and my mom his daughter take care of him. My grandparents were separated a long time ago and I was 9 years old when I see him. When my grandfather was already in good health he left again and see him again when I'm already 26years old in a coffin already. He returned to his real family. Maybe my grandparents both have mis understandings I don't know the story what I know is my grandfather stayed a long time to his mistress and my grandmother take care of his 5 siblings. Maybe my grandmother forgive him but he never forgets what happened in their life. I forgive my grandfather for abandoning his family, abandoning my mother but I don't trust/doubt if he really love his family. Will as for you you can still give chance to your father maybe ask whats the reason behind. It hurts to see your mother crying but if your mother needed him if it gives him strength then just give them space to be together. It's hard I know, but try also to be considerate.. ouchhh! it hurts me too.. but we must erase all the heart aches so that positive aura will be with us. Hatred and pain is not good for our health so Lord help us to forgive totally and be with peace of heart. Good luck also my friend... there's a sun shining still ahead to us.