Update on my friend Friedrich......

Lippstadt, Germany
March 2, 2013 5:25pm CST
Hi friends first of all thanks from the bottom of my heart for all the loving caring thoughts and prayers for my old friend Friedrich who is in hospital with heart problems. He will be out of there Monday, the heartbeat is a bit more stable, so thats good for him and he wont need a pacemaker. But his daughter told me he is at the beginning of living with dementia. He cant get back to her place where he lived since his lovely wife died of cancer in 2011 but now he has to get into a senior citizens home. I know one thing for sure, he has helped me immensely in my times of confusion and need and even if the day comes where he wont recognize me any more I will continue to visit him, just hold his worn out hands and tell him how much I love him.
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
3 Mar 13
I am so glad to hear of the good news, and glad that I was able to add him to our prayer list. I am glad that he has a daughter to take care of him and dear friend like you to ask for prayer for him.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
thank you so much my dear friend for your comment. But I am scared of that dementia. It will be rough when he wont recognize us........ He has another daughter and two sons but they all live too far away to spend much time with him now. I am only about two hours by train from him so thats reasonable to get there every second Saturday or Sunday.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
I know and I am so determined to help him through his last years here on earth till God calls him home.
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@Pegasus72 (1898)
4 Mar 13
Well good luck and keep us posted.
@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
2 Mar 13
It is great to hear Friedrich will be getting out of the hospital on Monday. Having to go into a senior citizens home might be hard to get used to at first but it is best. Dementia can come on quickly and cause some bizarre behavior. Glad all is well for now though.
• Lippstadt, Germany
2 Mar 13
dear celticeagle thanks so much for your caring assertive words. I am scared when I realize he might not recognize me one day, but I know one thing about him he will always be grateful for visits and attention so then I will do my best to make him happy.
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@celticeagle (168126)
• Boise, Idaho
3 Mar 13
And you have sweet memories of a better time too.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
thats so true but it will break my heart to see him in this condition.
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@AmbiePam (93739)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I'm so sorry for the diagnosis of dementia. Will the home be anywhere near enough for you to visit more often?
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@AmbiePam (93739)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I know you would. Your own father missed out because you would have been such a good daughter to him.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
exactly dear Ambie. I kind of adopted Friedrich as Dad and that means I do the things daughters should do for their dad as much as I am allowed by his biological children. Maybe I will move to the same town where he is and where I will hopefully be transferred for work anyways so I can then pitch in during the week and take care of him.
• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
hi dear Ambie problem is that his daughter and family just learned in the week he spent at that heart clinic that he cant get back home. They had already decided on which senior citizens home it could possibly be if its necessary and now they hope this single room in there still is available. Another family has to decide whether they want this one or not and if they dont want it Friedrich will get it. Its close to the family and his daughter will sure explain to me how to get there. I have already spoken with her about it cause I dont want Friedrichs four kids to think I steal their father from them but I want to be of help too. And you bet I will make time to visit him every second weekend or so as often as I can.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
3 Mar 13
Dearest Ritter...Your good news is like a warm breath of spring air, this morning...but it is so sad, that it had to be accompanied with some that is not pleasant. Dementia is such a heart-wrenching condition, and I do hope that the Senior's home is a lovely and secure place. May your soul be at peace in the knowledge that you have shared and cared to the utmost of your ability! I so hate, what you know is lying ahead and he doesn't! Dementia so robs a beautiful person of their senses..and it is just so hard for us to conceive....and he is blessed to have you!
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
oh dear Pergammano, thats what I think as well. It will be sad to see him sort of wither away. More so as he was a great preacher and encourager to many. Not only for me. I consider it as a personal honor to be able to do something for him now in his old age. Even if he wont recognise me any more I can still hold his hands and tell him I love him. I know it will be heartbreaking and I will cry a lot seeing him like this. Likd you said he maybe will not notice, and I know one thing for sure.He has always been a content and thankful person and he will be a happy old man inspite of his dementia thankful for every visit even when he wont remember who this person is. He will be a light in this world to his very end. I am so fortunate as I call him friend since 1986 now......... and he really means more to me than any other person in this world.
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
I am so glad that your friends is now doing great. Being in a senior citizen's home might be the best for him coz he will be taken cared very well. You are such a good friend to him. May God bless you for your good heart.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
yes it will be good for him to be in that senior citizens home as he is cared for well....... and I hope I can see him more often then.
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• United States
2 Mar 13
That is beautiful Ritter. Your love for Frederich is something like a rare and lovely flower. You are truly an instrument of Zgod's living heart in so many ways.
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• United States
3 Mar 13
I know you will Ritter because that is the loving person you are. You know he loves you, even when he can no longer remember that love. That's what a daughter does. God is so good to give us the parents we need even if we weren't born to them. I am the same way with Mama Jo.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
I am very determined to face him failing and maybe not recognizing me any more. Will shed bucketfuls of tears but thats life......
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• Lippstadt, Germany
2 Mar 13
thanks so much for your kind words. You can imagine how shattered I was when I read the word dementia when his daughter texted me. And as he is like a father to me I will react and behave as if I was his daughter carrying his burdens and confusion when the day comes as well as I can.
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@GardenGerty (160879)
• United States
3 Mar 13
There will always be a part of him that will remember you. I am glad he is doing better with his heart issues.
• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
oh dear GG I hope so..... but even if he doesnt remember me I will be there for him till God calls him home to heaven.
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@chiyosan (30183)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
I am glad that he is now okay. I guess die to his old she that he is suffering from a dementia. It is good for you though to think of him b and to go visit him as soon as you are able to.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
hi chiyosan it will sure break my heart to see him suffer but I will see him more often, hopefully.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
6 Mar 13
That's very good of you R and let's hope that the progression of the disease is a slow one.
• Lippstadt, Germany
8 Mar 13
guess what he is in that senior Citizens Home now and today I got my first letter from him he sent from his new home..... seems to be happy and content and that makes things much easier for me.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
3 Mar 13
Oh that is wonderful news, about his heart that is. I am sorry he is showing signs of dementia though.
• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
yes dear Carmelanirel, I was crying my heart out when I read what his daughter texted me but I am very determined to make this last part of his life here on earth as special as I can so he knows he is cared for and loved.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
4 Mar 13
I'm soooo glad he is better. Dementia is sooooo sad & there is sooo much of it. I know u will do everything u can for him. He is blessed to have u in his life.
• Lippstadt, Germany
4 Mar 13
hi my dearest friend, its quite the other way round. I am honored to be able to call him my friend and I am so blessed........
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
4 Mar 13
You really are such a great friend. I know that there will be times that it will become very difficult for you to spend time with him as his dementia gets worse and he really won't remember who you are. However, it does show what a great friend that you are in declaring that you will continue to visit him and to let him know how much that you do love him. People like you that really are true friends are a breed that is few and far between.
• Lippstadt, Germany
4 Mar 13
thank you so much dear dorannmwin. Even if he lived another 10 years the bit I could do for him would never ever compare to what he did for me. I am knee deep indebted to him and I am blessed to be able to enjoy this friendship.
@ET28LV (1890)
• Latvia
3 Mar 13
Hello, I come back here before two days so I bet I have missed your previously discussions. Nice to hear that your friend will come back from hospital tomorrow. It is always a hard time in our life's when our friends have heath problems. I hope he will feel better after leaving hospital and he can be proud that he have so good friend who always visit him and helps. And your last sentence make me cry. I want to add you to my friend list so I can follow to your future discussions about your friend Friedrich.
• Lippstadt, Germany
4 Mar 13
thank you for your kind words. I have sent a private message to you directing you to the first discussion. Have a blessed day.
@mariaperalta (19073)
• Mexico
3 Mar 13
great idea, he need a friend like you. Make sure he is comfortable there. As best you can.
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• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
thank you for your encouraging words. Yes I will do the best I can to be of help to him. He is such a wonderful person, a real gem.
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@dragon54u (31634)
• United States
3 Mar 13
I'm so sorry about his dementia. It's a horrible thing. My father in law is now in a care facility because of Alzheimer's and it is so very sad. I think it is awful for us to live so long only to be empty shells for the last years of our lives. I hope Friedrich does not have a bad case of it and that God takes him home before it gets too bad. You are so blessed to have such a good friend, and he is blessed that you will be with him to the very end.
• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
Learning the diagnosis was such a hard blow for me cause I never thought it could hit him. But I am determined to stand by him till God calls him Home. Even if he will be like an empty shell I will still visit him and hold his old hands which blessed so many people including me of course and I am honored that I can do something now for him in his old age as he did so much for me. i
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Mar 13
hi rittersport oh that is good and also sad. I am glad hs heart is better but senile dementia is a bear. I live with my roomie's every day. Now some days she can almost remember somethings but other days she will go downstairs to tell the front desk something and has forgotten what she went down to tell them. I have asked her to tell me her problem so if that happened and she gets back up here I can tell her what she wanted to tell them if Iam making sensel lol All the time I have to tell her what time we eat meals or she will just not go down. sometimes in the evening she will tell me: "oh dont forget to shut off that thing:"pointing to my computer. I will say I never forget as I d not want it on all night.But again the next bnght the same thing.,Or she seed me making a snack fo late evening and ask"are you still hungry?" and again I will tell her "Its not for now its my diabetes bedtime snack." okay so she goes as usual :"I did not know you had diabetes." But really ins some ways I feel useful in helpiing her it helps me to be needed.
• Lippstadt, Germany
3 Mar 13
Dear Hatley I fear that bear for sure but I will cope with it. As long as its only asking what time is it every five minutes or such I dont have a problem with it. I just fear that one day he wont recognise his kids and grandkids let alone me and then it will be very hard. But I will try my best to be of help to him till God takes him Home.