What your opinion about Exotic Love? Is it romantic or just unrealistic?

China
March 3, 2013 8:45am CST
About one year ago, I had a relationship with a guy who come from Australia. he came to China and study chinese at my city. by introduced of my friend we start to seeing each other. He is a nice guy and treat me very well,however, because of some culture differences we ended this a year-long relationship. I was very sad but have no choice to make this decision. Thinking about this exotic relationship after a year we broken up,I realize those happiness that he gaves to me is outweigh hurts. So what do you think about exotic love? Are you going to accept it when it comes to you?
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@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
Some long distance relationships work out because both work hard to keep the relationship despite having less time to be together. And I guess, what you had wasn't that strong enough that you just had to let it go that easy. Maybe it was just good for the time he was there and extending it really does not work for him.
• China
5 Mar 13
love is complicated at the first place, maybe you'r right! we just didn't love each other deeply. but, it's ok to being wrong when we'r still young. and we'll meet the one at an unpredictable time.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
That's true! You should just take it as an experience that will help you improve yourself on your next relationship.....he wasn't just the right person for you. You deserve someone better.
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
4 Mar 13
The only concern I have about exotic or international love is whether both understand that they come from different cultures, and they have to get used to the culture of the other, what their families would say... where they are going to live. If they are mature enough, there's nothing wrong with it. I myself would be cautious with people from certain cultures (I don't wanna call names, not to offend anyone here... but as a woman, I have a lot to lose, if I marry a guy, who is tricking me into marriage just for the perks of getting citizenship, a green card, or better chances to get a nice job, or someone who would act appropriate for our culture, but later, after marriage he would abuse me, take me to his country, boss me around and not let me bring up my own children... some people for certain cultures are notorious for that), but otherwise, I would be open.
• China
5 Mar 13
your analysis is very true and accurate. romantic relationship maybe just between two person while marriage involve two families. it's very different~maybe it wasn't a right time to meet the right one for my experience. no matter where are we come from or which country we stay at, as long as we choose the right person, we can be happy last forever. otherwise, no matter where we are, we'll probably have unlucky chance to meet those people you described.
@machatago (385)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
I don't really know what to say about exotic love since I haven't been in your situation. But I think there will be cultural differences if you have a relationship with someone outside the country. But a lot of couples adapt to each of their culture and is going strong, I think you two weren't meant to be in the first place or else the two of you would be still together.
• China
4 Mar 13
Hi~ dear~ if my guess is right you must be a Chinese pretty~lol~ nice to meet you here. yeah~ someone just a passager in your life. they might stop for a while but will leave you eventually. it do have some successful cases about exotic love. in my opinion, the feeling of love is all the same in the whole world. if i'm guessing wrong please don't mind! lol~
@checkmail (2039)
• India
3 Mar 13
Hello Landyree this is checkmaila nd feel sorry for your loss, though me too haven't decided if want an exotic love mate.Our life flows continuously without stopping, so we don have much choice in it, but can try for it. According to facts yup our simple love would do it as less threat of break off chances. But anyways anything can happen who knows, wish you good luck with mylot.
• China
4 Mar 13
You can immaging if you have a chance to facing this problem~ who knows what's going to happen in the future. maybe someday in the future you will meet someone like this ~lol
@WakeUpKitty (8694)
• Netherlands
3 Mar 13
What exactly is exotic about someone from Australia? That is not what we would call the exotic kind of people (to us these are people living in tropical countries). I assume you mean someone from abroad? I am married to someone in Africa. I think one should give it a chance, if it doesn't work at least you can say you did try. It's wrong to say no to everything without knowing if it can work. Every relationship has it's difficulties also the ones with your own fellow people. And if that doesn't work what kind of excuse you will use then? We mostly regret those things we never tries, seldom what we did try but did not work out the way we wanted (and if so it's mostly because we were not really wanted to make it work).
• China
4 Mar 13
it means the love that is apart from different countries, shortly, exotic love. yeah~ life is short and it's good to have such experience. best wishes for your marriage~O(n_n)O~
@kenshin2143 (1880)
• Philippines
3 Mar 13
Could you define exotic love for me because I cannot really assess and give some decent opinion with regards to your situation because I cannot understand how are you using such word. But personally, I am almost open to everything making me accept such.
• China
4 Mar 13
well, i'll explain what this word mean. exotic love means the love that is apart from different counties or the love by long distance. understand now? or maybe you can give a more accurate explaination to us. O(n_n)O~
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
3 Mar 13
Some people like to have a holiday romance that lasts weeks and is soon over. When studying overseas a year long relationship is different. It is challenging to maintain a long distance relationship. These day we have mobile phones and emails that are sent by the Internet connection. When I was aged 21 years old traveling in Australia I met a wonderful man. He and I began a relationship. The phone bill was huge once I got back to my home country. Letters took one week in those days to travel from the UK to Australia. He sold his car in order to come over to the UK. He arrived in June which is in summer. He thought the weather was very cold compared to what he was used to in Queensland. We got married and our relationship lasted six years before we got divorced. Funnily enough this Australian man, my ex husband, is living in China working as an English language teacher. He has a Chinese girlfriend. I am not going to accept another relationship that would be very long distance relationship. I got divorced in 2000. In 2005 on a vegan walk I met a man from Lancashire and I came from Kent. We began a relationship and saw each other once a fortnight. That was lovely in the summer but the winter was a different matter. Our relationship lasted just eight months. The train fare was a lot of money. I went up to on a Friday after work and home again on a Sunday afternoon. So even having a same country long distance relationship does not seem to work out.
• China
4 Mar 13
Maximax8~ Thank you for sharing your story to me~ yeah~ it's true. a long distance relationship is very hard to keep. the difference in spirit is even harder to coalesce.But maybe this problem between you and your ex husband is not that obvious or even doesn't exist at all, because you two can share almost same common sence. You come from UK~great! nice to meet you here~ i'm a new to mylot. haha~ this discussion is my first one and you are the first member to reply me~ seems very special to me~ and thank you for sharing your impressive story to all of us. hope you and i can find the right one in the near future!