She claims she's innocent!

you're right. She's acting like she's the victim but she's not actually doing anything to correct her mistake. I mean I don't like to take back my ex, but, if she says she's sorry then she might as well get out of his life right?

Totally agree!

She is sorry she is being so selfish. What a sl#t. Make things clear with her that you she can take your cheating husband for all you care but make sure he helps out with your children. I think the mistress is a very pathetic woman.

I like the way you say things. hahaha. You are definitely correct. Yeah, I've just talked to my mom-in-law and she will be talking to his son if ever he shows himself to them.

yeah, that's really one thing I'm thankful of. My in-laws are very good to me and my baby.

That's because i hate those mistresses, and it seems that they are increasing in number and becoming common. It's good that you are in nice relation with your mother-in-law. She can at least help you in getting the support for your kid.

Big thanks. Your points are right. Hushgal, you are right about forgiving people. It would be better to spend the rest of my life happy and contented rather than imprison myself with anger and regrets about what happened. I believe that by forgiving, I'll be happy. Though of course, we need to accept the fact that forgiveness needs time. I'm trying my best to forgive and forget in order to move forward.

Well said squallming. Not just the mistress is to be blamed but the husband is the core culprit too. I feel sorry for what she is going through, i just do not understand where mistresses get the nerve to call a wife of somebody? She should be ignored because she is not worth at all. Now that there is a child involved, i think the children law could help ensure that the father offers support. For the lady, move forward, i believe that we should forgive people who are sincerely remorseful about their offense and willing to change; but the husband is not interested. we can only use our energy fighting for someone who is showing the same compassion, empathy and commitment; but if fighting alone, it is a lost battle. The mistress does not seem to care how hurtful this has been to the mom and her kid but then again, seems the husband did not give a damn about his wife's feelings and the well being of their child. I think the child will be happier in a healthy relationship and environment with the mom. And who knows, in future the lady may meet a guy who will love the child as his and be fully committed in marriage.

Yeah, I believe in Karma too. I'm praying that God will continue to lead me since I really don't know what will happen in the future. I just trust His hands.

That is the ironic part because she continue living with him after all. Hahahaha. Sorry, i just can't stop myself from laughing. Its just like, you've known that its a trash but you still want to eat it. I don't understand why she's doing these things. I'm not even taking back my husband from her.

haist! really! so they are living in one roof, i presumed. that is odd. it is really hard to forgive like that. nah, you are right, they are trashes! maybe, there is something that may happened along the way for you. or maybe you can talk with your husband and decide things what to do pertaining to you marriage. maybe it can be settled down for your child and marriage. but if not, i guess, you deserve to be happy and forget and forgive. just pray :)

it's really hard so I continue praying because I believe that only God can help me go through this. I'm also praying that my child would understand me in the future for letting go of his dad.

I totally agree with you. She's just making excuses but its not me whom she's playing with, its her own conscience.

you're right. When trust is broken, it can't be restored 100% because there will always be doubts. I don't want to live with someone whom I don't trust anymore.

Actually, she's already starting to cry.

That's my point jenny1015. If she is sincere, she wouldn't claim that she's innocent. How can you forgive someone who doesn't even know how to accept her mistakes? Anyhow, forgiveness anyway is my choice right? If I want to be affected by this things, then i won't forgive but if I want to get rid of all the hurts, then I'll give my forgiveness.

right! I think her karma is starting already.

yes, and she should not make any excuses about being innocent.

True. I believe that "once a cheater is always a cheater, once a liar is always a liar". Thank you. I think I've conquered the pain and I'm moving on.

Yeah, I didn't actually respond to her messages. She called and I just listened. She was crying but what could I tell her. I can't tell her that I agree of what she claims to be so I told her to just accept the fact because it was her choice of getting into this kind of relationship. It wasn't me who ruined her life, it was her.

Thank you for the very nice idea. Yeah, I'm trying my best not to forget to pray because above all these things, I know and I believe that only GOD can help me go through it. Things are hard but God has His own way.

right! I totally agree with you. It's not worthy living my life trying to fight for a family that can't be made whole again.