I love my family BUT.....
@TheDemonicAngel (699)
United States
March 3, 2013 9:23pm CST
They make me mad at times.
I know they mean well but I am tired of being treated like a child. I am an adult; I have a disability and I have coped with it, I just want them to let me live my life but apparently that is way too much to ask. Everyone in my family calls me there baby; my uncles, my aunts, most of my older cousins, my mother (of course), and although he doesn't want to admit it my step dad feels that way as well (not really my step dad, he has just been there my entire life).
I'm far from being the baby but I do understand that I was the first child that was BORN with a disability in the family (I have an aunt that went blind later on in life).
Do you ever feel like your family is smothering you?
I know I sure do, but I am not sure how I am going to convince them that I can take care of myself without being shunned by them (I'm sure they won't go that far).
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@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
5 Mar 13
I can see that the members of your family are smothering you and you can't stand being treated like a child. You are an adult with a disability and you would appreciate some independence.
My 5 year old son is disabled with spina Bifida and hydrocephalus. Today he said he wants to go to the skate board park to watch the kids on bikes and skate boards. He is in a wheelchair and he so wishes he could do that sort of thing.
The nearest I could get is a special needs bike with hand controls. Good luck with showing your family you can live with less help.
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
5 Mar 13
Good to know that all your family members like you. Don't care about the disability. A lot of special children acheived a lot in their life.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
my mom is like that to me, i sometimes feel that she thinks i am still a teenager. And I am 30 for God's sake. haha My mom always does that, she tells me stories and tells me all about anything she wants me to do, and some thing he wants me to do for me, and so on. I think in the eyes of our parents, we are always their baby; and we never grow old to them haha :D
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
4 Mar 13
You may have to just go out there and do what's best for you, they be damned. Let them see that you are fully capable and don't need babying. Your disabilities don't define you, and they shouldn't let those disabilities define you either.
@checkmail (2039)
• India
4 Mar 13
Hello DemonicAngel this is checkmail and same here mine family too take me easily for granted, keep on taking mine decision every now and than.Me too think am an enough adult but do require a little support of mine family members but they overdo it, by almost taking whole control on mine moments.sometimes also get bullied by mine elders on simple issues.
Even mine cousins also tease me to be an infant when it comes to jobs and earnings.
@Raine38 (12250)
• United States
5 Mar 13
I can understand what you're saying. My family was like that as well, and they didn't even let me move out. Finally, when I am already 25, I put my foot down and told them I am accepting a job offer abroad and whether they like it or not, I will have to move and live on my own. At first of course they tried to talk me out of it but I already told them that I have spent enough time proving to them that I can take care of myself, that I must learn to live on my own now. I have done what they want me to do, now its their turn to "keep their end of the deal". We have to compromise. And they have to trust he kind of person that they have raised. They eventually let me and my mom cried buckets of tears at the airport when they send me off. A couple of years after, I got married and now have to be far from them again since my husband lives in another country.
