Choices...

The husband on the show I was watching was military, so his job had to come first before hers. She quit her dream job to be a military wife but she misses what she used to do. Eventually it took a toll on her. I am glad you were able to be a nurse like you wanted to be. =)

I am glad you got to have the career you wanted even though you are a wife and a mother. =) It is good that nothing held you back from what you wanted to do. Sometimes I wonder in my own life if I have made the right choices...

I think we are secret sisters. I am pretty much full time right now, but with the type of job that allows me to sit and crochet or bring my computer and write. Not too shabby. I would rather not work at all, and if offered full time status I think I may turn it down, as I know how to get time off with this job if I am not full time and using PTO.

Some people just never have a burning desire to be a CEO of a company . Part time, contract, or on call type things appeal to me because then I could just choose when I felt like working or cater it to when I had time each day or each week. Anything I have REALLY wanted to do I make sure I figure out a way, so if I did ever have some strange burning desire for a career, I'm sure I would make it work without sabotaging my desire to not work full time lol.

I think I am different from both of you. I do have this burning desire to be the financial controller for a company and/or open up a firm one day. I even have some business cards as well. My passion is in accounting and thankfully my husband is very supportive of me and my dreams. Of course, he'd rather stay home, cook, and clean which is perfectly fine with me. I hate staying at home.

That is how I felt later on. Life sure would of been easier had I made some different choices but ya know what...you can't take it back, hon. You did what was the best thing for you at the time. Is there any way that you could take some classes now?

Yeah, family and love come first. I am pretty much questioning everything I have done in the last 9 years of my life... Not sure if I have done anything right. I just wish I finished college first so I could give my family a better life now...

Yeah, our life would be fun right now if only I stayed put in college... I got pregnant and dropped out, like an idiot. I could take some classes, I just don't have the same energy I had then for school and I have 3 kids and a childcare business now so I am not sure if I would have the time for it to do well. That is my biggest concern. I wish I could take things back, have a do over. Lol.

I know you were talking about the show.. I meant the general "you". So they moved around a lot and that's why she couldn't get a job? That I can understand.. you're moving so much that you can't plant roots with a normal job. But still.. if she wanted the job that bad she could have made it work.

Gotcha, lol. Stupid me. Anyway, yeah they were always moving so she couldn't stay at a certain place long enough to keep the job... And he wasn't crazy about her working at all as well, so that had something to do with it too.

Well I wasn't talking about me here, I was talking about the show. But the husband was in the military, so his career was first and she was second always...

Many people combine a job with family (unless the cost of daycare and other help offsets the benefit of having a second job) so it's not something you couldn't do if you wanted . My advice is to ignore his relatives and maybe have HIM say something to them about their attitudes. It's not their business what you do and the sooner both of you tell them that, and then ignore their jabs, the faster they might grow up if they find out they won't see much of you until they change their tune.

Easier said than done, really. My husband isn' that supportive as well. He thinks that everything I do or think is just not worth it. Even me having Mylot is a big deal for him. I just don'tknow how ge could think of me that way when I was thr reason why he passed all his subjects in college! I don't want to be a brag but I,reallt did good in College. And there were times that almost half of the class depended on me. Either they find ways on cipying my answers everytime we had tests or they have,all my notes ohotocopued coz they are sure that I took down all notes.

My husband is supportive BUT his family is not so I understand where you are coming from a bit. My husband has no issues at all with my schooling except for the fact he feels I don't have enough time to myself and it is slowly driving me insane. I am reading for school now and multi-tasking. lol. His family however is so torn especially his mother. She gets mad at me for not being the perfect housewife (as if I ever could be) and having dinner done when he gets home or before he goes to work. Then she says I should get off my lazy behind and go to work and that my schooling shouldn't be so important and other things. Just the other day, I said I was close to graduating and she said in the morning "Good you can finally get a job" and six hours later "So what.. you need to stay at home taking care of your son." Most of the jobs for my field are morning jobs so he wouldn't even be in daycare more than a few short hours. On top of that, my husband and I decided, if I work full time, then he will work part-time and go back to pursue his dreams of working with animals. I would say, you could go back to work and balance it out. Even part time work in your field might help you to work towards your dream career and once your child is a teenager (like 14-16) maybe you could do more with it. Good Luck.

Well, it may not pay All my bills but I love it! I'm glad you have a great hubby. I think I'm the Only person that sees marriage as the end of free will.

Well, not every marriage is like that but I know what your saying... I worked for a while and my husband stayed home, at the time I made more money so it worked for us. But not every husband is supportive like that. You are lucky to have love and a good job. =)

You're right and I knew that too back then. The problem was that I didn't know he'd be like this after we were married. He was fine until we got married. I was invited to a writing seminar in Arizona for a few days and that's when he started. I don't think he wanted me to ever make more money than him. I should have figured that out then, not later.

Oh, I wish you never listened. I am sure you would have been wonderful at that! I know I have learned one very important lesson, we should do what we feel in our hearts to be right. If anyone tries to talk us out of it they are just jealous of what we are doing.

I think that is a healthy relationship.

I agree, I think partners should support each other's goals and not hold them back from anything they want to do...

That's a sign of a great relationship lol!

That's good that your husband is so supportive of anything you want to do. =) That is a great quality for a spouse to have! So you balance each other out, that's good.

Oh, it would be nice to have that extra income but not enough to want to have a career lol. Whenever I think about full time careers I'd spend all day wishing I wasn't at work lol.

Yeah I am a stay at home wife and mother as well with a childcare business. I love what I do. I left a job 2 years ago to stay home with my kids. =) It wasn't a career though, just a job I enjoyed being at. I hope we will both see success as well. =)

I do not know exactly what the husband is thinking but I guess that he maybe thinking that being in a military is a risky job. You can't even tell what's going to happen next. Your life is always at stake. Being a police officer is the same. You also risk your life to perform your duty. The husband maybe thinking that what if something happened to both of them because of their jobs, who will take care of their children? Well, just my thoughts.

Oh yeah I agree-it was just a show on TV. That is the right thing to do, putting our children and husband first. The husband in the show was in the military so his career always came first. The wife quit her job as a police officer which she really enjoyed to be with him and to be able to travel with him in the army. Her love for her career, missing it and other things were involved as well. He wanted his career so it was hard for both of them to have a career and be there for their kids...

I am glad that you are doing what makes you happy. =) I am too with my Childcare Business. I am happy that I can stay home with my kids and do something I enjoy doing. My only regret is that I gave up on college because I got pregnant, I just wish I finished first... I am very happy though that I have my family, because I would miss them more if I didn't have them in my life.

It's not fair for people to expect others to just drop everything they want to do in life. We all have goals and dreams and we should be able to achieve them or at least try to.

It's not, and if it's the right person they will want you to do what you want, and allow you to take those leaps. If they don't they obviously, not the right person for you, and want you to fail.

Lol. People should be more supportive of each other.

Oh not wanting children is a major thing that can break a relationship. Before my husband, one guy wanted to be with me, he was a great guy, with a great job and had everything going for him except one thing. He told me he never wanted children because their all little brats! That shocked me and I told him sorry I could not be with him since he felt that way... Weird way to end a second date! Lol. Children are how you raise them to be (which apparently he failed to understand) if you raise them to be brats yes they will be that way but if you raise them to be polite and respectful that is how they will be... Yeah, in every relationship both partners should support the other one.

Yeah, I know the most important thing is my husband and kids. I would miss them more than I miss not going back to school and being what I wanted to be.

It is really sad that not all spouses support what the other one wants to do. We all have our dreams and goals, and we should be able to accomplish them or at least try to. We cannot put our own happiness aside because eventually it does come back and haunt us every minute of the day. So much so that we might not be able to handle it after a while like this wife in the show...

She did divorce her husband because he was military so his career came before hers. She missed her career and wanted to go back to it but never had the chance because she was a wife and mother. She divorced him and became a police officer again like she wanted to do.

Yeah, some people are young though when they find love and they don't think about certain things until they become older and wiser...