Friendship with insecurities..?
By indiramarie
@indiramarie (61)
Bahrain
March 4, 2013 6:57am CST
Hello mylotters..
Have you ever experience that your friend is insecure to you or whatever it is she/he' up to. My friend and I, we're friends for a very long time but in this long time of frienship i keep on noticng that everytym I like this or I like someone, she would tell me " No, it's not good for you or he don't like or he would not like to see those things, etcetera etcetera". Sometimes it is so irritating and annoying that my head will burst and confront her that she's like this and that. But I can't do such thing because I don't want her to get hurt. I don't know what's into her that she's like that.
What do you think mylotters? Thank you. Have a nice day.
5 responses
@elenaliu (149)
• China
4 Mar 13
Hi,indiramarie,what is friendship?I think friendship is established on mutual trust,mutual share,mutual understanding,mutual tolerance.I have a good friend,we become friends for seven years,eventhough we have different character,sometimes we would quarrel,but it wouldn't hurt our friendship,because we cherish each other so much,we don't want to lose the good friend of our life.SO,just learn to tolerate he/her shortcoming.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
4 Mar 13
Nice advice. =) You're right, every individual has its own differences, I'm always trying to understand her and like what you said tolerate her shrotcomings.
Thank you elenaliu. Have a nice day. =)
@teotimoponcerosacena (1551)
• Philippines
4 Mar 13
There are only two things to feel insecure in front of someone it is either you've done something wrong and you feel guilty of what you've done and or your not ready to face your audience.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
4 Mar 13
hi there..
You're right, your thought about it already happened to us.
Thank you for the response.
@checkmail (2039)
• India
4 Mar 13
Hello indiramarie this is checkmail and think insecure friends are those poles form whom we should stay away.It depends upon our definition of insecure, as life insecurity is simply out of question.Less the danger less the risk and more growth and gains.
Even too much risks are also like addiction to live life dangerously, which should not be encouraged.
@indiramarie (61)
• Bahrain
4 Mar 13
hi there checkmail..
Thanks for the comment, I don't know, i really still feel that we are friends, its just some time, I can't understand why she's like that to me.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
Haven't you ask her why she thinks differently about your decisions everytime? Of course we have difference in opinions, and she should be able to respect yours. being a friend, we want to make sure that our friend is always in good hands,won't get hurt and makes good decision. But they can only do so much. We still need to make our won decision at the end of the day which is not solely dependent on hers.
I suggest you have a good talk with her about what is bothering you. Tell her that you love her and that you never intended to hurt her in any way, but it is driving you nuts when all she says just makes you feel bad.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
5 Mar 13
Well, maybe you shouldn't tell her a lot of stuff or confide on her some stuff about your personal affairs. It is bad enough that we face problems everyday, but having a friend who did nothing but dampen your spirit is not deserving of the title "friend" in the first place.
