Would it be better to be kind than to be right, or right than to be kind?
By obe212003
@obe212003 (2299)
Philippines
March 5, 2013 1:34am CST
This was the phrase my online boss asked me a couple of days ago. It was related to a work request that I think does not exist in the company rules and policy, and based from that, the request was granted as opposed to his other colleagues. I know his strict adherence to rules and all those sort as part of establishing a well organized team of myself being a part of it. But when I asked him why he granted my request, the sincerity in his words made me so overwhelmed as he brought up, "Being kind is far better than being right." Would you agree?
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7 responses
@free_man (7330)
• United States
5 Mar 13
Hi Obe. I do believe you are right it is better to be kind then right. However I know a bunch of people that think they are right about stuff they don't even have a clue as to what really is going on around them. I can't stand a know it all kind of person sometimes it is better to not speak to them at all. But God loves us all and we can always show kindness to others. It is better to show people you are a person that is a Christian and believes Gods word. And Gods word says do unto others as you would have them do unto yourself. Good discussion brings out the good in all of us.
@free_man (7330)
• United States
12 Mar 13
That is the way God would want us to be to all that we come in contact with. But there are people no matter how kind you are to them the worse they treat you to those my teacher of Gods word he says that is when you need to use tough love. Sometimes it will turn them around to the right way of thinking Gods way.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
I guess one should bread if one threw stones at you, that way it would continue as a cycle, of spreading the good deeds as what He would want us to do to one another.
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@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
I grew up believing and adhering to doing good unto others as I would want others do unto me. The fact that you extend your kindness is a way of showing that we as humans are created with much likeness of Him and by that of being kind has significant effect on people's lives.
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@redvakaurvaki (4216)
• Indonesia
12 Mar 13
I will choose to be kind than to be right. the words of "kind" is abstract, but this will make you feel like you have to do the good thing than do the right thing but then feel guilt and couldn't sleep. "kind" it self must be "kind" in smart way, which mean: kind but don't be too kind. we have to be wise, but clever in read situation to know what to do
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
Yes, you're right to be kind enough to clearly do a good thing that would in a way would make things right, right? And with that, i guess i would say being kind in a right way to to do good to be right is a very motivating factor in our life's existence.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
I know I am kind by nature but of course there would be times I would want my actions v to be backed up by policies of the office. It is right to be kind and being kind is a right thing to do. I have been a supervisor myself and often when you trust your employee you would v want to support what they need from you and once in a while make them feel happy so they would v feel that they are not restricted all the time.
Of course there are just scenarios or circumstances that would need To decide accordingly.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
There should be balance between kindness and adhering to the rules especially in a company where rules needs to be in place and goals are to be achieved. But definitely for every rule there is an exception which i think where a broad spectrum of understanding including that kind thought is much needed.
@silverfox09 (4708)
• United States
6 Mar 13
It would all depend on the situation for me , I cant be cold all the time that is not human . I think kindness is important for us human but being right can also help .
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
13 Mar 13
Being kind could trigger the warmth of affection and the overwhelming unexplained emotion of happiness within us as we see right then and there the effects of being kind. Being right is centered on doing it by the rules, sticking to it and not minding the consequences either good or bad.
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
6 Mar 13
Those words are weighing heavy on me. I was all ready for a different response but this was kind of a great reminder.
What this is saying to me is we need to give a little sometimes. Which brings about another saying "give a little, gain a lot".
It really is a hard question to answer. I think we all 'want to be right' in one form or another and it's hard to give an inch when we stand strong on something. From a business stand point can see where things need be done, even outside of the normal procedures, for the better of a company.
As for our personal lives it's hard to give to a person non deserving of it, but it also might be healthy to not give into a person's attitude and peacefully walk away with kindness over resentment towards them.
Very thought provoking.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
The word maybe quite heavy, but the act would surely lift you up spiritually and i guess humanely. Rules are meant to be broken, lol, but seriously, it the end justifies the means then then better to be kind than to be right, right?
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
5 Mar 13
I am sorry but I do not agree with it. I still feel that the right thing should always be done regardless of how one might not accept the truth. we owe everyone the truth about certain things.
Being kind is fine, but this tends to get to be abused.
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
Don't be sorry, you were kind enough to respond to my discussion and that's the truth. The act of kindness sometimes could be so overwhelming on others that it defies logic to go overboard and just do something that would make you feel good inside even to the extent of not doing the right thing. Kindness could not be abused as it soften the hearts of the recipient hoping to realize the goodness and the sincerity within you, and i think it's one way of realizing of what is good and what is not.
@urbandekay (18278)
•
5 Mar 13
There is kindness that can kill and kindness without being right is a dangerous thing, likewise being right without compassion is also dangerous
all the best, urban
@obe212003 (2299)
• Philippines
6 Mar 13
I guess the kindness shown to me is much more on the basis of empathy coupled maybe with the strong attachment more than the regular employer-employee relationship, and i'm very much overwhelmed by the expression of kindness being shown to me.
