sibling rivalry

As kids I never felt that my siblings would be jealous of me as although I was the preferred one they all went along with it. But later when we had our own lives that is when I noticed that there was resentment as I was doing well. This has affected our relationship to a great extent.

Sorry to hear that but why did you say that your parents has taken you for granted? Maybe that is what you feel only but you can voice it out tot them so that they can clear things out. But don't think that they don't love you since you are their legitimate child and now that you are married, I guess they will now anticipate to have their own grand sons or grand daughters. Just be thankful everyday that you have parents who loves you and I pray that you can also be the same with them, love them in any circumstance especially they are already of old age. Just be more considerate and understanding to them, think less of yourself and love others more like others are more important to consider.

Family relationships are better in paper than in real life, I`m afraid. Even if we come from the best families, with parents that love us, we want more or something different. I have thought a lot about this because I hold some grudges too even though I`m not young at all. I have learned to deal with it up to some extent accepting that what I don`t like is so little when compared with so many people that have never been loved at all or have been abused or neglected. Think a bit about what you really have instead of centering your feelings in waht you don`t have.

I think it's really hard if parents adopt a baby after they have a real one (if they are your biological parents), because most of them would think in the back of their minds that they have to make up for the fact that they are not the real mom and dad, so they shower the adopted kid with all goodness, and kind of think that the biological kid has the "privilege" of being their own, so it's fair. But it happens with parents with more biological kids as well. I know for a 100% that my brother is my parents' favorite... of course they don't wanna admit it, so they even come up with the filthiest lie to show that I'm wrong... but I know he's the favorite. I mean, what I do, is never enough for them, and never good enough, even when I was a straight A student... and my brother was glorified even if he didn't strive 1/8th as much for their acceptance as I did...

Hi Sheilla, maybe your jealous. And I understand what you feel for your sister, you can tell to your parents about what you feel. maybe they can answer you back to make you understand. Maybe your parents full trust in you because you can protect yourself. It can be help if you love your sister and accept her trully in your heart.

Trust me your parent love you and care about you a great deal.I think its because they know you are mature and understanding and they know that you can do just fine on your own.Adopted kids in most circumstances need more attention for them to feel like they fit in and your parents are just trying to do that.

oh, I'm sorry you still feel the pain until now. You were very jealous of the attention she got. Your parents didn't love you less but because your sister was ten years younger than you so she needed more caring. Your parents have been loving and caring for you tens years already before she came. Learn to love your sister and take away the jealousy so you'll enjoy the joy she has added to you family.

In my opinion, they adopted a baby after 10 years because at that time, they know that they will not have a kid anymore that they can just hug and play with whenever they feel like doing it. Thus, when the new baby arrived their attention was focused on her but not necessarily taking you for granted. I think, they don't love you less than your sister, but they became closer to her since when you were growing up a part of you is little by little not that close anymore, because teenagers are like that. And now that you are married, making yourself far from them, would bring them closer to your adopted sister, if she is residing closer to them. Don't worry, they love you. You are after all their real daughter. You just have to once more bring yourself closer to them.

Sorry to hear that you have these kind of feelings with your younger sister. Have you thought that maybe your parents have full trust in your ability to protect yourself that is why they have to be extra attentive to your sister? You are after all the older one and is supposed to be more experienced and wiser than her. Instead of harboring these feelings, maybe you can get to know your sister once again, maybe you will find out for yourself that she needs more guidance after all.

Hi sheila, dont worry so much. We always think that our parents love our brothers or sisters more than they love us it happens mostly with all of us and more with the elder children but the fact is for parents all their children are equal. Your parents did a very good thing by adopting a little girl surely they love you more but in our mind its alredy fixed that they care for your sister more. Now you are not a kid u can talk to your parents regarding this tell them how you feel hope they can clear your mind.

i have an old sister and an old brother ,they love me so much that i can't stand for if i were the only child in my family.why dont you try to love your little sister as your parents too.it would be fun.and you may learn from this a lot.