Lonely Night

While it is too sweet to miss your wife and son, it may also be a time to reflect on other matters. Experiencing something different takes you on to an adventure. Think of the things you longed to do alone. Things as simple as watch television the whole night and browse all the channels that interests you, anyway nobody's around to stop you from turning from one channel to another. Read a book. Eat your childhood favorite ice cream flavor. Maybe create something out of mud, sculpture, or draw anything, then give it to your wife and son when they get back. Do something that will surprise them like a new paint on your garage walls. Be creative. Oh and when they get back, place a big welcome banner on your door!

totally agree.. i am lonely and sad because my husband is in the province.. he was assigned there due to his work.. though i am with our son still i miss him specially at night when i see the place where he sleeps.. i miss our chatting and his presence.. its been two weeks already i hope this week he will get a chance to see us..anyways your being lonely will be over soon because your wife and son will be back soon..

Thanks for this discussion, yes i feel how you feel, for married persons, the day passes easily but not the night for evident reasons lol.

I completely understand how you feel because tonight I am alone without my kids and my husband. My husband is working and my kids are at their grandparents house. It is tough. I miss them like crazy. This is the first night I have been without them in 4 years (since I was in the hospital having our youngest daughter). That was the last time I have been without them. It is very strange to say the least. I am glad it is only tonight and I cannot wait to have them all back home tomorrow with me. =) I hope time goes fast for you as well and they will be home soon with you!

I know the feeling, i'm not yet married but i live with my parents and my younger sister.In january i was 2 nights alone ... 2 lonely long nights ... i think it's sad but in the same time it's good to have these moments so that we'll cherish the moments when we're with our family.

Hey jearl, I can understand your feeling of being alone. But I would like to ask you that is it the only night that you have spent alone prior to or even after marriage? If yes then you definetly need to make some friends and spend a gala time with them during the times like these. If no then why are you feeling now like this?

I know that it is very hard to take new changes after all time when you have been together. You need find something to do while you are waiting them back so time will go faster. It is only one day so they will be back soon. Maybe make them surprise and cook something for them.

Ohhh you are sad because your wife is not with you but dont worry cell phone is with you so talk with her and then sleep with God name. Hmmmm this feeling may came only wife is not together but wife is there then no kader(means fighting) heheheh...just joking my danger and sweet hubby says ohhh you want to go mother's house then go at least two to three days I will sleep silently hehehe....they says this word because I am talkative Indian married women and my hubby is Shy Indian married man ehehehe....

Absence really does makes the heart grow fonder, doesn't it? I hope you will appreciate them twice the amount as before when they get back. I am sure they miss your presence too. You should be thankful you are apart only for a short while. Imagine those on distant relationships. It really takes lots of determination and perseverance to maintain the relation.

I understand your feeling when you was alone at home. and i know you will love more time that your spent with your wife and your son, right?

That is so sweet to read, that you missed your wife. it's very very important to have someone in your life, living with you. As many famous people can attest, having thousands cheer you, or watch your every move is ok, but you need someone close to live with and sleep with and be with. in a way, you are fortunate you had this experience, you know how much she means to you :)

Yes, I agree with that, most especially me. I hate being alone all the time. When I was in college, I lived in an apartment which I stayed with my fellow students. Everyday is a fun and i did not feel any boredom before but now that I am working and living alone, it seems that it changed a lot. I am not use into this kind of life. I used to have a companion always.

Though I've been Singapore studying for 4 months, I still feel nothing different just as I am still at home. But I think it is because I was always not with my parents when I was in my own country since sec 1. Maybe the first time when I left my family I had the same feeling as you. But as I experienced more, I have been used to this kind of feeling already.

hey jearl02 just enjoy the moment you are alone make the best of it be creative and try to do the things that you missed since you got married.. I hope this will help you.

The bonding time together since marriage and having your son bring so much warmth to the hearts and the home. So when they are away, you can really felt the emptiness - the loneliness. So, the saying is true ... absence makes the hearts grows fonder. So hugs them once they are back!

I think that is normal when you are away from your family because they are part of your routine everyday, but I believe that sometimes we have to teach ourselves to live alone because nothing is permanent in this world.

Staying alone at least after marriage is definitely a big punishment. In my last two decades of married life, i have not encountered such situation. Of course, when i am out of the city, i m to stay in hotel and sometime alone. But that again not more than 10 times in my marriage life. After marriage, my wife doesnt want to go her home without me. I have told her sometime to go with our kid, but finally the plans are cancelled. Like you, i too dont want to stay alone and it is bitter at night. But i think after coming back of your wife, you shall be delighted with some romantic time with her as if everything is new in your life. So wait for the best to come.

It is really strange to change your routine. Sometimes it's a good thing. It sounds that you have forgoten what is like to have some time for yourself. But it is great that you miss them that makes you great father and husband.

good! what a wonderful and lovely family. What happened is now added to your experience in life, that life is not just one line movement, by then you will then know and appreciate your family more than before.Well, it do happen like that, you can stop her to visit her family but not just to stay long because of her family lovely family. keep on. May God up hold you.

I understand your loneliness; however, you have to learn to separate from your family once and while because it breaks the monotony of your routine and perhaps gives you the opportunity to do other things such as adding on a new hobby, finding a niche, volunteering for a cause or just learning to sit in quietness on your own. Believe me your going to need a break when life gets hectic but don't get me wrong, you should spend as much time with your family because your family is priority over everything. Trying something different is healthy as long as it doesn't compromise your relationships.