Understanding
By deine86
@deine86 (115)
Philippines
March 6, 2013 8:11pm CST
Hello there guys, I just want to share my experience being a mother. I have a 7 year old son now, like kids of his age, he's very active, always wants to play here, there and everywhere.
One day, after he arrived from school, he just left his school bag on our door and run outside to play. I called him and asked him to put his things into place and made his home works, but instead of obeying me, he ignored me. They said that being a mother is a tough job, but I didn't know that this is going to be very hard for me. Well being a mother, ignoring by our kids makes us mad leading to shouting them or sometimes we hurt them. But in my case I only talked to my son whenever I want him to understand what I want him to do or realize. But I admit that sometimes I punish him because he do what he wants to do and not listening to what I am telling him. I don't give him time to play and made his home work and study the whole day (all smile). I hope he will not disobey me again.
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8 responses
@lelin1123 (15595)
• Puerto Rico
7 Mar 13
I have a seven year old granddaughter and she is very active and does not always listen to her parents either. I believe they are in their own little world wanting to do what they want to do. My daughter will tell her daughter something the first time in a nice tone of voice but when she has to repeat herself three or four times then she starts to yell. I think when a child comes home from school he needs to have a break from school. I would let my kids have a snack and relax for an hour or so. Then homework is started while I'm cooking dinner. On a good night the homework would be done before dinnertime. You have to sometimes compromise with them to get what you want done. Its a give and take type relationship and you need to stay in control though. Good luck!
@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
Oh yes, it is a common attitude among youngsters. Your son is 7 years old? Well that exactly is the age of my twin grandnephews and if allowed they also behave that way. But of course, we don't allow them to get away with such kind of attitude. Naughtiness is bound in the heart of a child but the parent can always do something to correct the child. Sometimes if needed, we can always use the rod of correction. Some parents don't believe in spanking but I do believe in it. It is a biblical thing anyway. There is always a right way in spanking the child. It is meant not to hurt the child but to correct him.
@maximax8 (31046)
• United Kingdom
7 Mar 13
Your 7 years old son sounds very active. It is a shame he ignored your authority. Sometimes I clap my hands to get full attention. Then I do the talking about respecting what I say. I have a time out discipline strategy. My son gets 5 minutes and my daughter gets 3 minutes. It is one minute pet year of their life so far. Then he or she says sorry when they return from time out. Good luck.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
7 Mar 13
I do think that children should listen to their parents, but I also know that it is true that there are going to be times that our children don't listen to us. It is natural because they are only learning about the world when they are young and they do not fully understand that there are consequences to all of the actions that a child makes in their lives.
That said, I do agree with you that there are times that our children are going to need to be punished.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
I have always implemented this rule to my kids: STUDY NOW, PLAY LATER. So they are aware that right after taking their meal or snacks, they need to sit beside me and start doing their homework otherwise, there would be no playing with cousins the next day.
@danix1982 (593)
• Philippines
8 Mar 13
being a mother it is really a tough job, you need to understand them all the time and give them the proper discipline when they need but enjoying sometimes because you can be a kid for your children to play with them and to understand what they are need.
@sharonercastillo (888)
• Philippines
7 Mar 13
That sometimes work, but in my experience, instead of making it as a punishment, we compromise, reward system. By the way, I take care of my 14 years old niece, 11 years old nephew, seven and two years old daughter. You can imagine how it woulkd be like in the house if they will not obey me. lol...
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
7 Mar 13
Bringing up kids is not easy and but it is worth it.
Children who are hyper active and restless needs more
attention. I have a a grand nephew who are very playful
even he has just turned 3 years old. Her mother complained
that she do not have any time to rest. The boy only sleeps
for about two and half hours in the afternoon. She will use
that free time to cook and do washing. Children need to be
thought to be obedient when needed. All the best!
