living with inlaws

... is not a good idea. Just my two cents and my end of the sentence - living with inlaws is not a good idea. My MIL lived with us for awhile and in some ways acted like we were living with her. Almost killed my plants, rearranged my kitchen, started cooking things when I already had a meal planned, tried telling my kids what to do, etc etc. She almost dropped a pot of coffee on my baby when she was crawling on the floor. One time she woke us up by pounding on our door, wondering if we were going to work. Um, if we are both still home at 9 AM, probably not. Oh and thanks for waking up the baby.... Short term suggestions - put a lock on your door to your room, the kind with a key. Have your husband talk to her and explain that neither of you need her 'suggestions'. Also, let her know you have a date in mind when you plan to move out and it will be sooner if she continues to act like this. Ignore her behavior. I know that sounds hard but when my MIL was driving me nuts, I started just avoiding her and ignoring. Sometimes people get mad when you ignore them, but if you keep ignoring them, eventually they stop trying and sooner or later, they WILL stop trying to interact with you or insert their two cents when you never asked for it. Long term - the best solution is to move out, or if they are in YOUR home, try to point them towards another living arrangement, with a friend or roommate, senior housing, and try to get them involved in something where they can meet other people so they have less time to bother you, be at the house, and be nosy. If you have children, it's even MORE important as it was really frustrating to have her tell our kids no about something WE had already said yes to. I finally had to tell the kids bottom line, whatever mom and dad said, just do it. Don't worry about her, or any other person, she or they could answer to US, period, and I didn't care if they liked it or not. Our kids, OUR rules.

It isn't easy to stay with in-laws. Had to do that after an apartment that was supposed to be ready for us wasn't, so we had to stay with them for a few weeks. It drove me nuts as well. Partly because I just wanted a place of our own and always felt like a guest there. If it's your room there really needs to be some boundries there. Perhaps your husband could suggest to her that you will keep you guy's room clean and there is not need for the 'added' work from her. I agree with what was said about making the best out of the situation instead of creating an enemy. She might just be suggesting things to you because she wants to be helpful. Help her around the house, show her you are capable of living there and pitching in as well. Maybe that will help her see that you can do things and she doesn't have to direct you all the time. I'll be honest I was in my 20's when was married and lived on my own since I was 17, yet my mother-in-law felt I knew nothing about anything because of my age. . Hopefully you'll be out and in your own home with your own family soon. Until then, make as much peace as possible because bad mojo in a home effects everyone else too.

Do you know the difference between inlaws and outlaws?? Outlaws are wanted!! I'm seeing similarities in my world. This is how I'm handling it. I avoid those who are just not my cup of tea. Being around someone you've just described will not only bring you down but it can have serious consequenses on your personal health. Ask yourself - Is being around the inlaw you described upbuilding to you or are you weighed down with an emotional termoil that affects your everyday life? I've been there. I know what it's like. I keep the lines of communication open with the people that need to hear how I feel and what is going on. The bottom line is that I, too, have reached the peak of my patience and it is not worth it for me to be around that type of person.

I don`t think that she is being nosy, but it is very difficult to live in someone else`s house. She feels it is her house (and her son) and you feel she is snooping in what is yours and private. Relax and ask for her help instead of having her as an enemy. After all, she is the boss. And try to get a place of your own as soon as possible. I am sure that your husband has no idea of your problems.

I do not stay with my in laws but I can relate what you mentioned. My mum is staying with me, my husband is the one that have to tolerate her. She is quite nosy and do not like anyone to be at the kitchen when she is there. She have her rules and everyone must follow it. I at times told her not to imposed her values on others but she said her values is 'right. Truly tough but in your case is tougher because it is not easy for a lady to tolerate another one. Do discuss with your husband and plan to buy your own home. That way, no misunderstanding ... and absence makes the hearts grow fonder. Your parents-in-law will be more easy that way, I guess! Btw, is your husband is the only child?

I can't stand nosey people. I guess that's why I've always stayed on my own even before I have my own family. Even if it is only a small room, I'd take it as long as I have my complete privacy of that room. Welcome to myLot, by the way! I hope you'll enjoy your stay here...

It is quite awkward at the beginning and after some time you will get adapted with it and you will find it okay and going always along with good bonding

I don't know, but I'm afraid in advance, because it seems like I'm gonna live together with my mother-in-law. She thinks she knows everything better and tries to tell us what to do... she even criticises us for not having lunch exactly at noon... gah.

I think you should control yourself for a while since your still living with your in laws house, i know it hard to live with in law i've there, the only difference my MIL was passed away many years ago and my FIL is very kind to me. The problem was my brother-in-law wife who is very noisy, annoying and selfish. Most of the time I cant stand here because of here bad attitude, in order not to cross her I used to stay inside our room and cry. Good thing after a few months my husband and I found a job here in the city far away from her.

And that is why it's really not a good thing to live with in-laws or your parents when you're already married or have a family of your own. My mom always say that there can only be one king and queen in a household. And she is right. Technically speaking, since it is her place, she gets to have a say in everything under her own roof. But when it comes to your personal space and your own kid, she must step back and intervene only when asked or requested to. I hope that you get to move into your own place, the sooner the better for your sanity.

I also experienced that one. It really gives me a headache and it leads to quarrel with my hubby. At first since I was new to their policies and rules I had to obey it. I'm a flexible person so it's not hard for me to make an adjustment to my surroundings. But as the days , months go by I can no longer take her attitude. She always had her eyes on me. And I really got irritated with it. And there came the day, that I told my husband that we have to separate with them. I told that I can manage our own family without the help of his parents. He didn't want to but I think he can felt what I have inside so we decide to move on. And now, less stress. But since she's the mother of my husband I still gained respect for her.