worried for my father

Hi SIMPLYD, yes i agree that prevention is better than cure. Whenever we found something is amiss, we need to get a check up in detail especially the doctor has notified that his prostate is enlarged and a bit blocking the ureter. Many thinks that when they feel better means they are recovering and nothing is wrong with them anymore. That is not true, as some illness just strike by itself without any early notification. Hence, taking care our health and have proper check up is a good prevention. Hope your dad will go for further check up and wish him well.

I think you have to leave everything to your old man's decision. I think most men who have prostate problem are shy and embarrassed of this kind of illness. It is more on "manhood" thing. but still encourage him to go and see doctor.

My father is just as stubborn as ur father is. I don't know why those fathers don't care about their own health and just want to wait to die if they indeed have been examined something wrong. I'm fret about my father as well, hope our father will be able to listen some of the kind words from the ones who love him.

My 84 year old husband was getting weaker by the day. He was living on Ensure and would not eat solid food. I finally got him to the right doctor who did an endoscopy. It was determined that there was a blockage, and he couldn't swallow a normal size bite of solid food. After that was repaired, he started eating again and is slowly gaining some weight. I doubt that is your father's problem, but the "no appetite" i what my husband usee to say when he didn't (could't) eat. My guess is that your father is depressed, a frequent problem in the elderly.

Sad to hear about your father's health. I will pray for his recovery, as you mentioned prevention is always better, hope your father will realize this fact soon and change his attitude.

Recently, my father admitted to the hospital because his blood pressure raise and that we didn't know that he actually have a blood clot in hi brain already for about 5 days and that he seems to be ok in the past days. Unfortunately, my father always keep secrets every time he felt bad in hi health, he don't want to be told also, and that's why i'm worrying now. Though he is ok right now and that he is already out in the hospital but he still need to have an assistant in walking, I hope that he will learn his lesson to take his daily meds.

SIMPLYD, I am so sorry. I will pray for him. Please keep us posted on his condition.

Hello, SIMPLYD! Any development with your father's condition? Has he agreed to have further check ups? I do hope that he would atleast think of how you would all feel about his condition. My prayers are with you.

You are right.It can't be neglected.My father in law ,who is 86,was admitted to the hospital suffering from hematurial about one month ago.The cause of illness was hypertrophy of the prostate,then he underwent plasma cutting operation.Now He feels much better as a result of the treatment.

dont worry it is just a matter of time and with regular check ups you can be in control and dont feel bad for him

I am so sorry to hear that about your father, I hope that he will be alright soon.

Sorry to hear that. My father is same as yours. Very hardheaded he don't want to be told on what he will do. We don't want him to work but still he did it. And every time he is sick he will take medicines without doctors' prescription. Oh my God...it really brought headache to us. We want to take care of him but it seems like he don't want it.

I think that your father is sad and little scared. Give him a few days to calm down and try to talk to him again. I hope everything is fine

Its good to know you care so much about your father's health. It is natural for men to reject advice especially if its coming from a junior (in this case children). Since he agreed to go for the first one, you can tell the doctor that did the first test to personally invite him for another check, I'm sure he will oblige.

My father is the same way. I was at his house once and saw a letter from his doctor that was not good. It upset me a great deal. So I told my father that my daughters had already lost two grandparents and it was not fair for him to ignore his health to the point that my girls would lose another (my dad really loves his grandchildren) He tried to laugh it off but found I was not in a joking mood after reading the report. He too said he didn't need a doctor. I told him to take a good look at my girls and did he really want to break their hearts because he was so stubborn? He did go to the doctor after that and now is on meds to help him keep his sugars under control. He is going strong and I pray it continues. I will keep your dad in my prayers that he sees that doctors can help him and get him better. Just to let you know guilt can be a good thing lol

I'm sorry to hear about your father's health. I didn't grow old with a father so I don't have the experience of how hard headed he could be. He is a man and for sure he doesn't want his family to worry. I'll pray for his health and don't give up in getting the heart of your father. Don't force him but talk to him more often not about his health but spend more time with him. Make him realize he needs to live longer because there are people who still want him to be around for a long time.

I really hope he will allow you guys to take him to the doctor and have a check up before it is too late simplyd

I'm sorry about your dad and his situation.also you need to insist he go to the doctor. if he won't go then just tell him get in the car your going for a drive then drive him to the doctor because he needs to. tel him you want him to go to the doctor because you want to prevent him from being sick because you love him and want him to live longer. If you have to call his doctor and see what you can do or have the doctor talk to him.

Hi, When he already done the check up, you should not force/ tell him to go for check up again. But you can encourage him and motivate him to be healthy soon by taking the proper medicines and diet as dictated by the Doctor. It is due to their aging that makes him a little upset when the routine gets changed. he must be worrying more about your mom, family etc rather than his health issues. Wish him speedy recovery.

I'm sorry to hear that.Wish your father will get better soon!!