Like Advice: How Long Does It Take For An Older Pet To Accept A New Pet?

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Hi folks. Sure has been a long time since I've been here, but could use some advice about pets, that is, when one adopts a new cat. Many of my friends will remember that my black cat Pyewacket (my avatar photo) passed away on April 19, 2010. It was devastating to say the least, as it happened so suddenly and he literally died in my arms that early Monday morning (yes, I remember what day it happened). Well, time passed, and I knew that somewhere along the line, I would adopt another cat, specifically another black cat as I've had black cats throughout my life, ever since I was five years old. Well during this time, my remaining cat, Kissy, a tiger-strped cat, now 13 years old, sort of had basked in the glory of being the numero uno only cat. While Pyewacket was alive, she didn't get much attention, only due to the fact that Pyewacket was the attention grabber. Every time I tried to pay attention to Kissy, he'd come running over and virtually push her aside, so she didn't get the same attention as he did. I kind of put off then getting/adopting a new kitty that is until recently. Over at Facebook, I got involved with a "Halloween" type auction with the Grayson County Humane Shelter in Kentucky...among the "items" were cats up for sponsorship, and I picked one out and sent money to sponsor "Dot", a young male black cat. Some time passed and I thought to myself, why just "sponsor" him when I could perhaps adopt him? Many shelters DO transport pets from one state to another, since here I am in the NYC area. So I filled out the application to adopt him....it took a month in the making, but low and behold on December 1st (of 2012) Dot arrived at my home. From get go he made himself quite at home as if he had been with me all his young life. He's the most friendly cat going, about a year old, yet has kitten kind of energy, and follows me around like a puppy. Here's the problem though.....My older cat Kissy still hasn't completely accepted him. No thankfully it hasn't been WWIII here and no major fighting, but she still continues to hiss and growl at him if he gets near her, and will on occasion hit him on his head with her paw. Ironically, I will catch them eating side by side, and sometimes from the same plate with no problem. Also, Kissy's personality has changed, in fact, I have a new nickname for her...grumpy cat. LOL. Before Dot came along she used to like to cuddle on my bed with me while I slept....she doesn't do that now, since "Dot" does so now. I'm kind of realizing that perhaps she may never fully accept him, but I'm still hoping!! Anyway, could use some thoughts and advice from fellow pet owners in general, not just cat owners...if YOU have introduced a newcomer, has your older, established pet ever accepted them? Oh and by the way, I renamed "Dot" and changed his name to Ouija...here's a photo of him...taken on his very first day here and which he already took over my bed.