Keeping in touch

Hi, For the sake of being in touch i don't call my friends. I write / text/call them to ask how they are doig if they are not in my touch. People who know me are very sweet as they don't fight with me for not calling them or writing mails to them including few mylot friends.

To be very honest I am losing that quality recently. I was not like that earlier. In fact I was very particular on keeping in touch with people. Many of my friends told me when I call them, just thinking about you and you called up. But I am lost somewhere these days.

This is an aspect which I have got almost fed up of.I am a person who keeps on 'keeping in touch' and I get thoroughly disillusioned when people don't reciprocate.Now I have stopped this.I do unto others what they do to me. Few months ago I called up my friend [she was a tenant in my house and we were great friends--in fact I went all the way from Mumbai to Salem to attend her son's wedding. SHe had not attended my son's wedding but I did not mind it]to keep in touch and of course we had a long chat.There were some very valid reasons for her not to have called me and so we had plenty to talk .

Keeping in touch just when you need something means profiting off people and I for one don't associate that with friendship - more like taking advantage of people. With true friends one should be able to talk normally even after a long period of silence, and be able to ask for advice about almost anything.

I am guilty of not being able to keep in touch with my friends. I had been to occupied with work and for the past months with preparing for the coming of my baby. Now I am trying to keep in touch with them with ways I can do. I don't want to lose them. The usual means I use to keep in touch with is thru email or chat via Skype or yahoo.

To keep the relationship alive, i feel we should call up people for the sake of keeping in touch. Otherwise it becomes a materialistic relation if you call up people only when you need them.

Guilty...as charged!!!! Most times, it's cause our paths have taken different courses...the commonality bond is no longer there. The things/issues that once bonded us..don't anymore and neither does the relating of day-to-day activities. A mutual drifting apart...and re-uniting does not seem to reproduce that "shangri-la" place we were in when connected! I am same with my half=sister and Brother...connecting at times and events when respectful to do so!

I actually do call people for the sake of keeping in touch, even when I do not want or need anything from them. Unfortunately, I do know some people that seem to only contact me when they want or need something, and I do not really appreciate this sort of "friend", which is why I try my best not to be like that to others.

Those years when I was not in touch with my close friends, I felt so alone.Although my family was always there as well as my husband's relatives, still it was not the same not having friends to talk to once in a while. And so,when I was able to get in touch again with them,I try to send a message in any way possible. At least once I week we communicate through Facebook.

I think it depends on the kind of relationship you have with someone already. There are people who know you think and care about them. There are periods my daughters and I do keep in touch only if we "need" something from eachtother but also periods we daily share nearly everything. I would not keep friends if they would only approach me if they need something from me. Been there for years and to me these kind of people are just abusers, not friends. There should be a personal/close relationship also. If so you also understand that their might be times you or the other person are just too busy or sich or ... to have a lot of contact about ... and nothing. Just because it takes too much energy at that time. BTW If I am abroad I Always sent mails to close people about how we are doing etc. Those who are not able to visit the internet I tekst. It works fine for us.

I agree.We have become self centered.Nobody has time to visit others unless it serves their own interests.Some ten years back I would see people visiting each other almost everyday.They used to keep in contact with each other.As time passed the tradition went on dying.Now festivals come and go,nobody visits us,nor do we visit them.We have a society that does not seem to be a society.

Hi, You are right. We should at least make call to keep in touch with our relative, friends, our closed ones. We can not personally always but in modern age we can keep touch by phone call or email or fax etc. Which need very short time. In olden days we have to write the letter, then post it and then they reach to the destination after some days. Now we can come into contact within only few minutes.