why parents opposing love?

I think they have their reasons. Remember that when we fall in love, we don't really see anything wrong with the person, we are blinded by our emotions. Parents wouldn't want anyone to hurt their son or daughter, right? So maybe they're just trying to protect you. I only see parents not wanting their student daughter/son to have a relationship simply because it will take over the attention or focus. Instead of focusing on studying, the son/daughter will now focus on the relationship (we all know what happens when that happens, right?). But when the son or daughter is already working, I don't see parents opposing to relationship most especially if there's no reason to oppose it. But if the partner is obviously abusing the other, or they'd feel that the other is just there to take advantage (parents have gut-feel for these things), then parents wouldn't really oppose. Always remember that parents know better on what's best for you. Have a great mylot experience ahead!

Many parents are so afraid that their children will suffer; either they will not have enough money, will not be treated with respect, or will be hurt emotionally that they only see the negative in a potential partner and not the positive. This is the way parents can be about many things, but it is most frustrating when they try to prevent their children from following their hearts. Usually it is from a good motivation, though.

Keep in mind each and every parent on this earth wants and likes that their children should choose the right person who is good in all the aspect rather then choose the wrong person as their life partner. This is mainly because there are so many incidence are happening now a days under the pretext of love girls are being cheated and even misused

yes..i understand.. its really sad to hear ur family opposed ur love with ur gf... why is that reason? are u too young? or ur too rich..?

I think some parents feel like they will be losing their daughter or son once they get in a relationship. I think that is the biggest reason for most parents. Also, they might be worried about their child getting hurt or making bad decisions. I am not saying it's right, its not. I am just saying these could be some reasons behind it. My parents did not want me to be with my husband because they wanted me with someone who had more money. They didn't think my husband would make me happy or be able to support me since he didn't have much money. I didn't care what they thought, I am with my soulmate-we have been married for 8 years and together for 9 years now! I made the right choice. =)

Ofcourse many parents dont welcome their children loving and getting married but its not that they dont like their children to be happy.May be..they have their concerns to be worried about. Even my parents restricted and been agree with me in the beginning but i was successful. Got married to the person I loved. I think you shoul make your parents feel tat you will be happy with the girl you chose and you must assure them that this is what you want. Ofcorse let them realize that love is different from career. get settled first then you can proudly and boldly tell them that she is yours and your not going to accept anyonelse. All the best.

Here many parents do not allow their children fall in love with other people in the high school, some even in the college, while after getting the degree, they also want you to get married as soon as possible. They think there is a fixing time for a person to do something, and they try to arrange their children's life. While life can not be arrange, it happens as it is.

Parents would only want what is best for their children. And if they find something odd in their children's partners, they really try to discourage their children from pursuing the relationship.

there are lots of reasons why parents restricted their children to be involved with someone. of course, parents are very keen observers. they do not want that their child will be harmed and laid astray or even get hurt by someone. or else, parents want their children to finish their studies first before falling in love. but their are really parents that are really choosy. they want a good person for their children or there are really parents who are jealous type for they do not want their child to be involved with someone.

they are mature already and they have passed through a lot of challenges at this time. they might be seeing something that you (blinded by love) is not seeing. I mean there should be something in him, that you don't know. some parents are like that also just to think that they are "favoring" the relationship which means they are not tolerating it. some parents think, you need to do more important things at this point than just having a relationship. I am sure if you are stable enough they will not oppose for you having a relationship

it is not that they hate it when they children fall in love. it is just that they are scared and they want to protect their children from pain of being heart broken at their tender age.

This restrictions should have reasons and parents are just acting naturally when it comes to restricting their children on the matters of love. Communication is the best way of dealing with the misunderstanding. Parents do sometimes over react because they might be scared of something. This only shows that they love their children very much.

Let me ask you first, how old are you? If you are still very young, it is just natural for parents to become quite protective of their children. Young people nowadays tend to fall in love so easily that they forget that they should also be accountable for love itself. You should be thankful if they are showing that kind of concern. I donot believe that parents do not want their children to be happy. There must be some reasons and only you can figure them out. Try communication.

Hi all... Actually many parents are afraid since their child life would get spoiled if their decision of love marriage went wrong in some way or the other and mostly worried on the society around and their comments. So the best way is to sit and have friendly talk with parents and explain them the fact and give then confidence and prove and make then proud by making out a valued life.

I think some parents fear that falling in love, especially at an early age, might affect their children's studies. And I feel that this fear isn't unfounded since there are lots of incidents of teenagers sort of neglecting their priorities because of love. Personally, I feel that parents shouldn't impose restrictions on their children when it comes to loving someone. I think falling in love is a very healthy experience. Even getting hurt when relationships fail is still healthy in a sense that it makes the person stronger and wiser from that experience. What parents should do is not to restrict but just to guide their children. But the most important thing is for them to be there if their children become heart-brokern.

I wonder about that as well, because right now I am in a relationship with a guy whose parents don't know about us. They did know about us but we preferred to tell them that we broke up sometime ago even though we're still together until now. I don't know if they don't like me or they just don't want their son to have a girlfriend yet, but we know in ourselves that we did nothing wrong and that we are in the right age to make decisions for ourselves. And now I think that if I have children of my own I'll always be there for them, but not to the point that I'll be stopping them in finding their happiness.

I can't answer this question as a mother since to be honest I never cared about the friends my children had or their partners. To me the most important thing is they feel happy. I also have to admit my children Always accept my friends etc as well. Ofcourse there are plenty of moments/times we discuss the problems we face but we never tell anyone to leave or walk out or their partner is a jerk and we Always new. I think as a parent your job is to make an a great adult out of your child, full of self esteem, ready to face the world, to gather as much as own life experiences. I just want mine to be happy and the only thing I wanted is them to express their feelings and be very creative. Lucky me they all are and it does help them. I assume (since my parents did fight about me and my siblings which one of us would get the same profession as they had, being a doctor) that many parents want their children to live their dream. Mostly the kind of dream they never were able to make come true. Perhaps the way they are raised is a part of their behaviour as well, or the society they live in. Personally I don't care about the society at all. My eldest daughter became 29 years old today. She was my first and I was a teenager mom. She is a great sweet person (too sweet) great model, now also a great stylist asked all over the world. She is still who she is and I am so proud of her. I hope she will Always do what she likes to do most since this is the only way to be and stay happy. Nothing should be forever, people change and this is (according to me) a good thing. No matter if it has to do with a job or partner.

so do my parent , but you can divert there mind by showing them how your lover loves you or how suitable he or she is for you by economically ,socially and emotionally

Hi gowthan728. You're right, some or most of parents are restricting their sons and daughter to fall in love, especially if you feel so happy being in love. I know some, their reason is they want to think of love life not a priority. They keep on telling something that you need to have stable job first,etc. and you must find a professional one too. Is there any requirement to follow, when if it's not ok with them then it's not ok to be in relationship? Lucky are those who at first, their parents will never stop their son/daughter, instead they are happy to see them hapily in love.