would you like to tell your family problems or personal problems to others?

Hello jfol. I agree with you that it is our own business to be responsible for our own problems. I do not like to tell my family problems to others unless it is my best friend because I know that it is usually ourselves who will have to face the problems and slove them eventually. Thanks for the discussion. Take care.

Same goes with me. I'd rather try to solve my problems than call on anyone to tell them what is bothering me. But sometimes, if I feel like my chest is about to burst, I really have to take it out. But I always tell a family member about it rather than other people.

Sometimes people need to vent. They need to talk even if it doesn't help the situation, it helps the individual. People vent about family problems here in mylot. It's like therapy. Keeps us from going stark raving mad!

jobfindonlIine, that was also my stand before. There are some who knew what we've been through with my family and I am always requested to share my life, but I always say "My life is not for public consumption". But lately, I realize that by sharing, it could lessen your baggage and can be set as an example by others that they may have our kind of problem but they will take it lightly because they knew they are not alone.

I could tell people if they are anonymous and i dont know them and we don't share the same history or the same environment together. That way they can look at things more objectively if you tell your story exactly as you know it. And also sometimes when were down, we dont really need someone who will solve our problems fr us, we need someone who will listen. And the intentions of listening are purer when you are unbiased, sometimes when you open up to a person who knows a lot about you, you don't know what their real intentions are, some people just want information from you that they can gossip about with other people. That's not nice.

yes.it is right.absolutely. i think any person who lives in the world has privet life.some children have family problem.as a result of above reason it has mentally problem

Sometimes it's good to hear the views and opinions of people who are not involved in the problems. If I had to keep everything I am going through to myself I think my head would explode. That's one of the things I like about mylot...my family isn't here to see what I really think and I'll never meet any of mylot members so I wouldn't be embarrassed. This is just my opinion.

I do not like to tell my family problems to other people. If I tell the problems, I know I can get some useful suggestion from other people, but at the same time, people will judge you by your privacy. Family problems are usually different from common problems, you should take the feeling into consider, your partner may be hurt by the privacy over spread.

Those who are close to me are aware of my problems. I don't hide them. I'm very open about what is going on in my life. The only time I reach out further is when the problems seem beyond my control and I need support. This happens, and I don't feel ashamed. I think everyone needs to talk about what is going on in their life when things get very tough.

Depending on what the problem is. Some I will share, some nope. While they might be able to help or give advise, some stuff, it is better leave unsaid.

I am a private person when I was at a workplace or somewhere like that, or when I am in a room with people I don't really know well. But here, I do come here to have discussions, to get and give advice. If no one talked about personal things here we would not have half the discussions to participate in... And that is how we get to know each other here. Plus it is nice sometimes to get opinions or advice on things. I come here sometimes to vent and its nice to have someone to listen when I need it. I don't have a problem with being personal here. =) I have many friends to help!

I also don't like to tell to other about my problems, i will tell them if i need any help from them. I generally don't like to talk about my problems with others. Some people share each a every thing with others. They can't hide any thing. Sharing with others is not a bad thing but not good if we share always.

I am the kind of person that will keep in myself what problems I have because I am not the expressive type. But sometimes sharing problems with people you trust like your friends can lighten the burden of the problems you are going through. In my point of view, if you share it to others they might help us to solve our problems. Yes we are responsible to our own problem but sometimes it is okay to ask someones help.

If i really can't find the answer to my personal/family problem, i share it to somebody i think i can trust in hopes to find some help.. other than that intention, i know i'm just seeking attention.

I have my problems that i can share with people i am close with. But the personal problems, or problems with boyfriend or family and even finances, i am not comfortable to share them with my friends. i manage to share those before with my ex but only him... so now i don't i think there are really some problems only worth keeping to yourselves. Some times i share them here in mylot, but in the form of a discussion where i share an experience, usually its already done and over with.

Telling family problems to others is a same thing with you give the others a chance to look down your family. I think it's not a good idea. For personal problems, i think it depends on what is the problem itself and to whom you will tell. If you have personal problem regarding to your own feeling to someone, maybe you can tell it to your best friend and ask for suggestion if that person can help you. But if your problem is something bad which can harm your relationship with other people, i think you better keep it alone. We won't know if someone we knew already could become our future enemy some day. So better manage our own problem wisely. Have a nice day and happy mylotting.

No I don't like to discuss any of my family problems with other outsider. And why I should disclosed my family problems to other and make myself laugh or give the chance to other to talk about my family.

Keeping problems inside is wrong. It will eat you. I am not saying you have to ventilate it to everybody or tell the whole world. But I do advice you to do something with these problems, the thoughts, feelings you have about it. A diary for example, or find someone (depending on the kind of problems) who might help you out. This can only be by just being that listener. Many people do know how to solve their problems, in most cases the time is not ready or they just need to tell it to someone and after that moment they can go for it. To some it's easier to talk to familiar people to others to a stranger because they will probably never meet that stranger in real life.

for me whatever the problem that i or my family face, is not logic to telling other. they don't understand it or lending help other than critic and add more idiot suggestion. if i don't have money, i won't borrow it from my friend. why i say like that? i just not want them to know my problem.i would rather keep it silent and eat nothing but drink water to fill the empty stomach.

it depends on how close i am with my friends.i really have some close friends.i think i could share some family problems with them.but i will not tell them all.after all they can not help me solve the problems.