friends have their won life too
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
March 9, 2013 8:17am CST
I had made so many friends in my entire lifetime, some left and some stayed. Friends do not always mean to be there anytime you need them. Just like all of us, they also have their own priorities in life, problems to deal with whether internal or external that only means you just cannot ask them to run to your side each time you need them.
Friends are those who remain friends without space and time. The connection seems so magical that no matter how long you have never seen and talked to each other, it is as if that they do not matter at all. Though I have so many friends, there are only few i do consider the best. They are the ones who lift up my spirits each time I am facing tough situations. No matter what happens our friendship will last for a lifetime.
6 responses
@vidhyaprakash_2 (7116)
• India
14 Mar 13
You are right. Our friends also have their own life and wish, we don't force anyone to be with us forever. Also it is not a good thing to expect them to stay with us forever. Wet must think about their own life and allow them to be apart.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
30 Mar 13
If we do that...demanding their time whenever we need them, it would only result to misunderstanding. You are right that we must also respect their own time.
@nanayangel (7879)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Hi there Cherigucchi!
You are right. Just about a year after I had my own family, we moved to the province away from my friends and family so I had less and lesser communication with them. Then, a lot of people became active in Friendster and then in Facebook, and just then, I regained contact with some of my old friends, but definitely not all. It is kind of sad when you can't find some of your friends anymore but I just think of it from their perspective as well. Like me, I started to have my own priorities and I know some of my friends would like to be with me as well in times that I just can't.
I also understand what you are saying about the magic in real friendship. When I got in touch of some of my old friends even just on social networking sites or phone, I felt that. Especially when we moved back here to Manila and I got chances to really spend time with them, the magic is always there.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
That happens to me when I got married. You know, we take more responsibilities than our partner. We got tied up with the home thing and it became our priorities. Nevertheless, we still want to keep in touch with them at least through phones and social networks. Their lives as well change and we might somehow share the same sentiments as well.
@beamer88 (4259)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
I totally agree with you on this. And I think a lot of people haven't realized this. Some expect too much from their friends, expecting them to always be there when they're having problems. Although true friends really make time or go out of their way to help, there might be times that they may not be able to do it simply because they too have their own life to live. They too might be experiencing difficulties. Real friends should always know this. 
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Yes, although time is of essence in building friendships, one should not forget to take into account that friendship also needs space. We have to realize that they are also burdened with problems like us and they also need friends that understand.
@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
9 Mar 13
Hi,
you are right. Friends also have their own life. If sometimes they don't come when you call then you should not feel bad about it or get annoyed without understanding the reason behind it. Friends should understand each other and support each other.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
9 Mar 13
Definitely true. Sorry for the error on my heading. We should take friends as our possession. If we want to keep them we should also respect their life apart fro the friendship.
@missjahn (4574)
• Philippines
10 Mar 13
of course, each of us has different lives to tend to. that is why sometimes we cannot blame them if we need them they are not around to comfort or to be with us. sometimes we need to understand them for any reason as well and that it is not only they should understand.
@merylpan (37)
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30 Mar 13
it's difficult to have friends who know you well and have similar spirits or life goal, and can help you when you are in bad situation. everyone has his/her own life, so it need spend time and sincere heart to build such good friendship, I admire who already have such friendship,one or two such friends lasts for a lifetime, it's enough.
