to criticize is better than ignoring?

Hi Mat! I didn't see your topic but I have seen it now and the responses too and I guess that those who were negative about your topic also gave you negative ratings. MyLot is an international community and not everyone can accept that there is an interest here for that type of topic. On top of that MANY do not use the rating system correctly either Continue as before and try and accept that some are earning here just by critising. Do your own thing and there will be others who will rate you correctly like they did before

In an open forum people do have the right to criticize a discussion if they dislike or disagree with it, but they need to do it in a polite way. However, the fact that someone dislikes or disagrees with something does not mean that they should rate it negatively ... and it plainly states this in the FAQS.

Well I think everybody is just trying to be honest, besides maybe your asking for opinion that's why they are just giving what you want. But I do understand you we are working really hard in here and we just want to gain a good reputation. All I can say is don't take it personally, I think they don't really mean to hurt your feelings. Although sometimes we can encounter those really annoying people, well in that case I think it is much better to stay away than to make it longer.

Matpunk85 Wow 8 points seems harsh...are you sure it was over just one discussion? I droopped 2 points over a short period of time and still haven't figured out why It is disappointing for sure. I hope posters aren't calling something negative just because they disagree. In my opinion the negative should only be used if the post is rude or obnoxious.

I know what discussion your talking about and I think people should ignore the discussion if they don't like what is being talked about. It is much better to find another topic than to put someone down for asking something. Don't let it bother you. Me personally, if I don't like something that is being talked about I just won't respond. I won't rate anyone negative or be mean... There is no reason for all of that here. I hope you don't let it discourage you and don't let others keep you from being here.

I think sometimes it's better to ignore than to criticize, but it depends of the situation. For example, if someone has made a big mistake and somehow it's worried about this or it's ashamed, it should be better for people to ignore that person if they can't give a good advice. But sometimes to criticize it's good: it's good for building our personality. If no one would ever criticize us, we will persist in some mistakes, or we will think that we are the best of the best/the center of the world/etc. But again, it depends how this criticizing it's made. I know you've worked hard for that reputation, but I think if you'll explain them, maybe some people will give you reputation back... I'm sorry that I don't know what happened to help you more and I'm sorry that I don't know very much about reputation from myLot to help you more :(. I wish you: good luck in increasing your reputation!

I think it is better to ignore rather than criticism. I think depend upon the situation both in life and also in the discussion. I try to just avoid the discussions rather than criticism them.

hi matpunk you are so right. If more well really all would just read in the guidelines where it says do not minus somones post simply because you disagree or you dislike the person.that is not what the minus sign is for. Nert time you get an insulting response simply hit the exclamation point and report the insult. MyLot does not want people doing this to each other.I am truly sorryh someones been doing this to you.

It seems some or many people here wants to manipulate how the other members do their activities here..

Hi Matpunk: It's sad to say this but you are probably are right. This happens because when people disagree with your point of view they usually take it personal and their response is to give a negative review- something that is simply unfair because there must be a reason why you do this not only because one disagree with someone's opinion. I hope your rate will improve. I gave you a positive feedback because I consider you a good user since we have shared discussions on the site. ALVARO

I guess I missed that discussion. I should go look for it. I think that people have a right to their opinion. But I for one never gave a negative rating to any of my friends here. Even if the discussions were bad. I think everything we do here is an effort to learn more and move forward. So I look at every discussion as a building block. I like criticism, but to knock down someones rating I think is wrong. An opinion should be good enough.

Well, I receive by email all threads written by my friends. I usually comment the most. If, however, a discussion I do not like, or is not in my interest, I ignore and I do not give answer. However, I never had someone criticize me so much to come to lower my "star of reputation." I am convinced of the opinion that it is better not ignore threads not interesting, rather than criticize them in a negative way!

hahaha.. everyone here is entitled to her/his opinion. so it just happen that you posted it on the time when those oppositions were still awake. I hope you were able to express yourself fully and told these people about your point of view very well. FOR ME: .. earning is more important than reputation here in mylot.

I know how you feel . Just look at my star. Not cool since I + rate alot of people to help them.