…will I be a bad friend?

What were the coeditions under which you made the loan? Maybe it is time to gently remind your friend of them.

well it is up to you I would not make a demand for for payment in full even though you gave it to him in full but as nice as you can say you know I loan you money and if you can't pay it all can you make a few payment to clear up the bill

how will you be a bad friend if in the first you lent him money? you have every right to ask about it especially that it has been years.

The sad part of lending money is you have to ask for it back. I've had that happen before and it sickened me that a person would let it ride when they are able to pay back their debt. You are not a bad friend. I would think the opposite, they are. I don't think there is anything wrong with a reminder. If you have to do several reminders, well then you know never to lend money to this person again. It's hard not to care for our friends, but when it comes to money that is when you know who your true friends are. I had this happen last year where a person needed a place to live so offered - rent free mind you - them my farm house. All they had to do was pay their own gas, electricity. This person had more than enough monthly income. I found out the electricity was shut off because of lack of payment. They not only stuck me with 4 months of electricity bill but then also told everyone in the community that I shut it off on him. . Had to track this person down and at my 3rd request for the electrical payment asked him if he wanted it to go through court. He is making payments to me but know he could pay it all off in one shot because I know what he makes in a month. It's hard lessons like that, that makes us realize that our 'friends' aren't really our friends when it comes to money. It is a sad fact but it's true.

I would bring it up while talking that you could really use the money he owes you and maybe if he doesn't have it all he could make payments so at least you have some of it.

Indeed you are a good friend because in times that he had a problem you are their to lend a hand but in some other ways if money will be in the center sometimes it will have changes between the two of you because it depends on how your friend will pay it or never at all. Before you help your friend, i hope that he tell you something when he will pay you back at least a contract. Just talk to your friend about the money, he will understand if you really need the money.

i hate to tell it to you, but if you didn't want to go through this, you should have never have let him borrow the money. anytime i let money be borrowed (once in a million years), i never expect to get it back. that's because i know how people are. i would say just count it as a lose. if he doesn't pay you back, just don't have any dealings with him again. i bet you that will make him remember that he owes you.

When I lend my my to a friend, I have to make sure before that she/he will pay me back before I need the money, because I hate to run after them for my money. If someone wants/needs my help by lending them some money they have to follow my rule, I don't ask for interest from the money cos it will be mean from myself.

It's not an evil thing if you ask the money back. When he borrowed it, he should have known that sometime he's gonna (or should, at least :D) pay it back. It doesn't hurt asking. You could tell that you need that money asap. You just ask for what is truthfully yours... and also, it depends on how long he hasn't paid... I mean, if it's over half a year, it's definitely your right to ask it back... earlier isn't rude, either... especially as he has a new job.

If I badly need my money back, then I will ask him if this is a good time for him to give it back to me. But if I can still spare him a little bit more time, then I will give him some time until he gets everything on track. Did he make a promise as to when he will pay it back? I usually ask a friend when they will pay it so I know when to expect it. Those who have the initiative to be true to their word can still borrow from me. But those who just forget about it cannot expect me to lend them any money again.

if he was your very close friend, i think you can talk with him about your vexation,i hope that he can understand your situation and mind,i think some misunderstandings is exist in friends,then we need one heart-to-heart talk.

if you are really financially in need, then i guess there is nothing wrong with politely asking your friend if he could pay back what he owes with you. but if you are not really financially unstable, then just let him pay it back when he is ready.

there are ways of getting back the money and still not spoiling the friendship. see to it that you and your friend have spent some quite time together and ask him about his financial situation that way you show that you care about his pocket before you ask something out of it. then slowly bring up the topic as casually as possible tell him you want it back but he can give it to you in any instalments he likes and do not leave until you make sure he understands your context completely. I would suggest you to take the money back because it might build up repulsive feelings inside you even without your knowledge and might wreck your relation. You must be able to speak anything thing with a friend and he will understand. do not worry, just go for it.

It depends on how close you are as a friend. If you think its okay if you just ask him politely about it or just remind him of what he owes you. You would never know until you try. If he makes excuses, you better think it, my friend whether to bug him over and over about it.

Nothing bad when you have to get the money that he owed you, but as you have said so yourself you have seen that he had somehow gotten over his financial issues. =) I'd say you can contact him and ask how things are going first before you do go to him and directly ask for the money you lend him.

It is easy to lend money to help your friends, but it is not easy to get the money back. The financial situation is hard to judge, some people have to ask friends give them some money when they are hard, even when their situation become much better, they still do not have enough ability to pay the money back, while someone forget to pay the money back. And in most cases, money may become the very reason for the brokendown of the friendship.

no not at all ,if you have the conscience and the good attitude you will surely strike a chord and move higher

If he will pay you, you don't need to push him. But if he don't want to pay, no matter what you say or do, he will not pay you.

Hi friend, There is nothing wrong in asking our own money, as you give it to him in his necessary, it is his duty to repay your money in time. I think he completely forget about the debt, so only he don't repaid it.You are not a bad friend for asking your money from him, but it is really hard to ask the debt from our friend, what to do? you must ask it from him. Don't hesitate to ask your own money

by all means, it is your right to claim a debt lend by someone from you. you can say it in a nicer way if you are looking or considering your relationship with them. what is bad nowadays is that, you the lender is the one who became awkward in terms of payment and that those debtor is not ashamed to face the lender that is why it seems they do not owe any money from anyone. or worst, they pretend that they do now borrowed any amount. so it is your right to get the money back.