can lovers become good friends?

Lovers can be good friends. But when once they are broken-up I dont think they can continue the feeling of friendship between them. Perhaps, it depends on the situations lead to breakup. Whatever it may be..some cultures dont allow such friendships. Like, they would be misunderstood and to avoid all this mess it would be better if they dont continue their friendship. If they could be so friendly after their breakup, what would be the necessity to breakup in the first?

I know a few friends who manage to keep friendship with their ex's and they are doing good at it. they even introduce their present wife/gf to their ex at some point. Remembering the old sweet days will unavoidably provoke a feeling of "trying again" but they say its all just a matter of self control.

My ex-husband and I are better friends now than we were before or during or marriage. I definitely think it is possible. I think as people get older and smarter we learn to appreciate people more for who they are and on levels other than sexually.

I believe that lovers can become good friends. Some loers may even start their relationships together as friends. The bonds strengthen and so does the elationship, Now if the lovers part on bad terms, the bonds of friendship may weaken. it is still possible to be friends but it would not be the same relatinship.

It is possible only when both the person have good understanding about their past relationship and what they are today. Not only this both the person must be open minded too.

Nopes. It matters as per the situation. If lovers were to become good friends then why the feeling of love between them? But if somehow they break up, then the friendship might come. That too depends on how they break apart from each other. But then again, can it be called friendship as they were formerly in love? Good post and makes people think about this fact. Thanks for sharing :)

I think that lovers can become good friends. I think it depends on people to people. I think it is good to have partners who can be good friends.

My ex husband and I werre married 35 years, when all of a sudden on christmas Eve, 2005, he said that we weren;t compatible anymore. That was so devastating to hear, that I cried for a long time, as I just couldn't believe that he would think about gettign a divorce after all those years. I wanted to talk things through to find out why he said what he said, but he never told me a thing, as he said there was nothi9ng to work out. Well, once i realized that he wasn't willing to work on our marriage, then I felt that maybe we should get a divorce. We have been divorced 6 years, and we are now better friends than we were husband and wife. It is ironic, but things happen that way sometimes. I have come to acept things the way they are, as I have to, as we will never get married again, and not to each other either. He calls me every day, and we talk for a bit, and i guess it makes me feel good that he does think of me as a good friend even though we can't be married anymore. So, yes lovers can become good friends. Take care, and have a great day.

Some people think it's possible, others don't. I think it's possible only when their relationship has really ended and both understand that they can't be lovers anymore.If one of them still has feelings i think it'll be hard to remain friends.