What would you do?

I would make it a joke. Like you think he is just kidding. That is what I would do. Poor guy. Sounds he is still willing even if the parts don't work anymore. If it gets too bad maybe you could just leave the food outside his door or have your son take it over to him.

here is what I may have said..Sir I am trying to be kind to you by giving you some items you may need. I would like very much for you to stop talking about my body for it offends me and I want to be kind in a christain like way. It would be great with just a thank you or be a friend but in a nice way. for I care for you as a friend ok. will you be just a friend..if he gets aggesive or angry ..then maybe just smile and say I am sorry if you are angry I was just wanting to be just friends and show my kindness by offering you a few items I have in food...we can talk and so forth by lets talk in a nice way ..ok.. or just adnore his words by going on and being kind..and tell him no and just do not ask for you are not that kind of person that wants to talk about that way.. change the subject and talk about something else...like where ya from? where ya live? have family? do you like animals and etc.. some people just like to be known and talking..or even read to as a good book like the Bible if he is interested. and other stuff just to be kind...(and I think you are a kindhearted person and wanting to help another and it is great in what you do..thanks for helping another in need..you are blessed...)

I would stay away from him that vey inapropreate for him but then I dont care how old he is or in a wheel chair he still acting like he would if he was whole and able to walk if he could he could be dangerous and also being in a wheel chair his upper body could be real strong

Hi Winter, Do you get the sense that he was kind of joking or do you feel he really was wanting to touch you. Its so hard to say without knowing the man. I have some older customers that will make all sorts of off-color comments. One man in particular could barely get around. He was always trying to get me to "step out in his van" with him. One day I decided to mess with him back and I went along with it. We got all the way out and to his van and I could see him growing ever more awkward. He looked up at me from his wheelchair and said, "Look, I'm married and I love my wife" It was pretty funny. And then there are those that use their disability to gain your sympathy and as a cover-up to be rude. If you are uncomfortable with him then just stay away from him, Winter. There are plenty of agencies to help someone in his situation.

He's a dirty old man that knows he is being inappropriate. He may feel you are available because you approach him with the food. He may misunderstand your intentions. I would tell him that if he continues to talk that way I will stop coming by to bring him food.

I think you are a fine and good hearted woman and no matter if he is handicapped or old he should respect you. You tried to ignore his attitude so I doubt making jokes about it will help. Tell him straight you don't appreciate his behaviour and you won't come back if he doesn't treat you in a good way.

You are probably glad that he is in a wheelchair, as this does not sound like one of the Best situations to be in. Yes, it is good that you are concerned and wanting to help him like this, and help him with food, but next time you might want to consider having someone else go with you to help do this just for your own safety, Because in reality this would not be something I would want to encounter again by myself.

it could be that he's beginning to have some dementia... There was a man at mom's place who had dementia. He had used to be a doctor and a well respected member of the community, but by the time I met him, you'd've thought he was just a dirty old man. He'd inappropriately touch the ladies and they'd scold him. He didn't mean to be inappropriate, but he had lost his barriers. I'm wondering if this isn't the case for this fellow...

Wear your parka next time you visit him?

He stepped over the line when he requested to touch a very personal part of your body. He may be old and possibly getting a little senile, but I'd certainly stay out of his reach. If you do decide to brighten his day by your friendship, I'd make sure that he understand that there will be no touching and no conversation about anything of that personal nature. Between you and me, I think that I'd limit m conversation to ,"Good morning. Nice day, isn't it", out in the hallway or vestibule.

I definitely would be like you and I wouldn't allow him to touch them because I feel like doing something like that would not only be disrespecting myself, but also disrespecting him. However, I don't think that the fact that this man said something that was out of line to me would be a reason that I would not continue to help him out when I could. The reason that I would be this way is because of the fact that I'm a giving person and I can't stand to see a person suffering and lonely.

Bless your heart for being kind. I am curious if this guy has a family that visits him. He might be out of reality that could impair his judgement including his manner.

It is beyond me why he was in the mood to talk about that, when he has been in such a difficult situation .And that this behaviour didn't become a 73 year old man.You are kind-hearted,but you had better keep him at arm's length.You don't know what further action he would take.

Wether its a joke or not, its still rude especially if you say it to someone who was giving you a helping hand. I wouldn't tolerate them if they continued what they were doing. I respect them so they have to respect me too,

That is such an awkward position to be in...trying to help someone but hen feeling uncomfortable at the same time. I guess I would ignore it for a while but if it really started to bother me I would tell him that I don't like that he says those things. I would tell him I am not comfortable and I might have stop coming around him. At the age of 73 he should be able to understand or if he doesn't, then maybe he has some sort of dementia setting in. Apparently he is harmless but if you feel uncomfortable with his comments then I would let him know.

its sad that they get like that and dont realise that its a bad way to approach or appreciate a good kind woman that may not be interested in that way. id do like a few has suggested. tell him hes more like an uncle to you and you dont see him in that way and if he cant be decent with you you will stop coming by. send your son if he dosent believe that. thats how my one client started treating me and even went so far as asking marriage! he caused both of us problems because his daughter let me go because of that kind of behavior. tho it was no fault of mine.

I would tell him, Yes it's obvious I'm well endowed, but his comments are unwanted and if he continues you won't give him care packages anymore. It's his choice, be a gentleman or you will keep away from him.Just because his legs are wonky doesn't give him free range to act like a pervert and a predator.

Oh my. It's nice that you reached out to help this handicapped man, but geez, he shouldn't be saying those things - just like any other man with "working" legs shouldn't! Very inappropriate no matter who says it. Just a thought - maybe he actually thinks you are attracted to him, so he may think that's why you're bringing over food? (You know, when someone is that lonely, they can easily misinterpret things). Me, I tend to joke these situations off (though others may not agree to doing that), particularly if I have to see this person where I go out of no choice. But, I will back off a bit and not go out of my way to talk to (or be friendly to) this person anymore. Talk is talk, but I cut the line when it comes to an actual attempt to touch - that's a complete no-no. Wow - someone stole bread you left for him at the door???

I would also want to extend help to such person. However, if he is being a bit disrespectful to me, I don't think i would be ever seeing him again. I couldn't handle a person with that attitude.

No matter how nice in other aspects is a man, but if he starts making such disgusting comments at me, disrespecting me as a woman, the least I would do is tell him a piece of my mind and not helping them again, and avoid them... if I'm in a worse mood, I would slap him for asking such an atrocious thing, no matter how wheelchair-bounded he is. Everyone has their pet peeves that they really can't stand, for me it's when a man is making his advances at me in such a rude way when I tell him no.