do you wish to spend or travel sometime alone?
By cherigucchi
@cherigucchi (14876)
Philippines
March 11, 2013 5:22am CST
i do sometimes feel like spending sometime alone. Wish I can travel to a place where I can do some soul searching. Most of the times I have been very busy with my work and my hands have been tied up at home. I think it ain't bad wanting to be alone sometimes when you can relax and enjoy the silence and beauty of nature.
It is not that I want to escape from the responsibilities that i have at hand. It is just sometimes things get too much and I get the feeling of wanting to stay away from things that cause me stress lately.
Am I wishing too much?
What about you my friends, have you ever tried having at least a short vacation or taking a leave with only you and your luggage alone?
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25 responses
@redtesha (1773)
• Indonesia
31 Mar 13
Sometimes I traveling by myself .. It will be happen if I feel bad mood and dont wanna have somebody else beside me ..
Just traveling another city and bring some clothes and hearing music from my ipod .. and when I feeling better, I am back to my community ..
That's not bad if traveling alone, it's good for balance your life too .. sometimes you need your alone day, alone without anybody else ..
But remember to more careful because traveling alone is more dangerous .. That' why when I traveling alone, I never go to far from my city, usually I went to another city and it just put only 3 hours from my original city ..
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
1 Apr 13
In as much that i want to travel alone, I am quite scared doing that because I have not tried it even once in my life. Deciding on that would take me a lot of time.
@jlsf0210 (26)
• Philippines
20 Apr 13
YES! I'm proud to say that I have done what you wanted to do (actually a couple of times already - i'm more of an introvert). And if I may just say this, you have to do the same (even if you're not an introvert like me). Because once you feel the feeling of "too much-ness of things" that's your cue that you need a "break".
Try to squeeze even just one day, yes even just one day, to go out of town (its better of course if its 2 days or more). Or if out of town is too much for you, maybe you can't leave for a whole day or you're kinda short of budget or something like that, try searching for places which have nature-like in your neighborhood. I said this because in my case I'm so prone to being burn out that I need to always take a "break" every now and then but then again doing those out of towns will make me broke at the end of the day. So I improvised. You see, I watch a lot of movies. And I observed that most often than not, the protagonist(s) have this kinda "special spot/place" where they can just be alone, just enjoying the beautiful view around/in front of them. And then after spending some time there, they seem to be recharged or something like that. That's what I tried to do. I looked for a place in my neighborhood where I can do my "me-time". Believe it or not, I found it in a cemetery. Now, don't get me wrong, the only reason why I liked it there is because of the beautiful landscape - you know, those big trees which are good for shade and grass where I can sit on; and of course its the only place where I can just be alone and cry if I want to cry or jump or dance or just something I can't do if somebody is around.
So even if its kinda weird to be hanging out there, I still do, because that's the only place where I can just breathe and set aside the burdens I carry and just simply enjoy the little things that in my usual "busy" schedule I tend to ignore or fail to notice and appreciate.
But if you're kinda scared to be in a place like that, no worries you can find a different place like a park nearby or any place where you can do your "you-time" just like in the movies.
You see, in my area we don't have parks where you can just sit down and enjoy a beautiful view like a sunset or a mini lake. Its just not really conducive for a "me-time".
Just to add this, its also good if you can ride a bike(bicycle). Riding a bike is another practical way to "take a break".
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
21 Apr 13
I do envy people like you who are never afraid to do the things that I am scared to do. I guess I have to be more brave to do the things that I am afraid doing like traveling alone.
Thanks for your response.
@cttolledo (5454)
• Legaspi, Philippines
12 Mar 13
I want to do that also..but 1 day is enough for me to be alone.. I can't do it more than 1 day.. LOL.. I think we need also to have a self realization....
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
That's my plan. Just a day...cannot do that more than a day too knowing you are all alone with no one around you.
@blaqwynter (218)
• Canada
13 Mar 13
After 13 years of solo travelling, I would say that I want to have a travel partner to go and see the world with me. I had been too and seen much of it, but it was done alone either because none of my friends could get the time off work, had no passport, wasn't motivated enough to tag along, no money, or were stuck home with the kids and couldn't escape. Travelling alone is actually probably more fun in a way because you don't have to listen to the other person whine, complain, or not want to do things with you. I shant complain then huh? lol
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
So this is another side of the coin. I usually travel with a companion so I am very much wanting to travel alone which is not your case. You do really have a point, when you are with someone you have to make sure that you agree on the itineraries of your travel because you would always end up in debates most of the time...so you're right...don't complain, don't whine, ok?
@Landyree (19)
• China
13 Mar 13
I'll definitely willing to spend some time to travel alone, because I think it's necessary to have some private time to travel by ourselves. during the time we don't need to respond anyone about any problem;don't need to follow the group decision. all we need to do is just follow our heart to get a fully view of the place which we want to spend time by ourselves.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
If you feel like you need this and you have the luxury of time and money, then take your luggage with you and travel.
@celleDJ406 (196)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Go take your retreat, it seems that you really need one! Makes you reflect about everything and also brings you back on focus and in the right perspective. We need to rest once in a while, you know.
I did went to a vacation alone, once, about three days and two nights with just my luggage, and that 13-hr flight. And have done many retreats alone too. Once a quarter I would go on a retreat place in the mountain where it is cooler and away from the city. I would spend the whole day just reading books and the Bible and write journals, just de-stress from the busy city life.
You need an alone time, it does not have to be expensive, you just need to relax and straighten up the screws on your head and heart :)
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I wish I can do that too! Thanks for encouraging me. I do really want it but sometimes I do have second thoughts of doing it because I am not used to it. You know when we get used to our comfort zone it's kinda scary for us to try new things on our own. But soon, I will.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
10 Apr 13
I've been with my husband for over eleven years now and because of that there are times that I do fantasize about having some time away from my husband and my children.
I've talked about going away on a scrapbookers weekend and almost did a couple years ago but changed my mind at the last minute. I'm actually glad that I did because it was when I would have been away that my husband received his cancer diagnosis.
He is doing a lot better now and since he is healthier now, I would really like to take a weekend away from home so that I could explore those things that I'm interested in without always having someone seeming to breathe down my shoulder.
@sarah77yuan (81)
• Sweden
11 Mar 13
trust me, it's really a nice and impressive experience to travel alone sometime. i tried several times. no school, no book, no family , no work and no any burden. it's just a comfortable and relaxed vacation to enjoy the happiness of live, to entertain yourself. you know, yolo, you only live once. yield yourself up once, just do it
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Reading your response, makes my desire more intensed! True we only live once and we have to take cahnces doing what we want to do in this lifetime.
Thanks sarah!
@Angelpink (4034)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Hi ! That is my wish also but it remain as a dream only . Never it happen that i traveled alone , some part of the family is always with me. How beautiful to be alone in the a place where very far from from crowd and your companion are the sunset and the waves of the sea. I want to see also nature by myself only and i want to ride an elephant in Thailand. I want to witness that floating market . I want to experienced it alone. Someday , have still hope while still alive.
@chocolatejoy (2)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
i have 3 kids and a working mom at home..sometimes i think of going out alone and never worry for anything or anyone else, except for myself just for an hour.. but then at the end i can't do it, it just my life is settled into a family woman that need to be dependent by my family, and so i accepted this life that i have now it's not just that i have no choice but this is me now and i am happy what i am now...
@jamieclavero (187)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
yes! i wish i do. i need time to unwind, relax and escape from all the stress im having at home, and at work. i need some quiet place on where i can meditate and forget all my stress and freshen up my mind.
@Adval2013 (436)
•
12 Mar 13
Just when I thought I was the only one who would desire such a thing, your post came up. Thanks for this now I know I am not the only one planning to do this. I may do this but only for a day or two when I need to be alone praying, finishing all the books that I have so wanted to finish and preparing to go back to the normal "things" of life, refreshed and well-rested. If and when I succeed to make my husband grant the desire of my heart to be alone, I would definitely have my guitar, books and gadgets with me..and of course, food. :)
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
Goodluck to both of us then. I'm quite unsure whether my husband would allow me too to be alone. You know, he's a worrier. He always wants to make sure that I am all right which I find sweet sometimes and sometimes suffocating...hahaha
@bluebutterfly20 (462)
• United States
11 Mar 13
I have never thought of having a vacation alone. I don't think I will do it. I dont like being alone. I always want a companion whenever I go somewhere.
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
That sounds scary may be especially if we have not tried it yet. But sometimes it is kinda inviting to have it a try just do not go too far from home and make sure that your friends or family know ehre you are.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I have never had the chance to travel on my own, and i'd say i really wanted to try this. I would plan for this and i will do this, believe me i will. I think I needed to do this anyway and hopefully before the end of this year i will. I am still thinking of where or what i will do but i think its where my bf don't want to go so he would not come!
I need to get away from my life right now and i need to take a breather and just do not think of anyone. Its really a much needed thing to do, travel alone and not think of what my companions would want because i am just doing it for myself. =)
@Iriene88 (5343)
• Malaysia
12 Mar 13
I have not try it traveling alone. However, during the family vacation
where my husband and my son went to the pool, I do enjoyed myself alone
at the beach admiring the beauty of the nature. A quite dip in the bath
tub is really fresh and refreshing. I have time to do my own thinking
and it is really a good feeling once in awhile. However if going for
holiday, I prefer to travel with my son so that I can share the wonderful
moments together.
@bjc66bjc (6730)
• United States
12 Mar 13
Hi cheri, I have not attempted to take a vacation alone
but I certainily have felt like it I am poeitive..But it
just never occurred...I do however think that every human
needs some mental health days away from work and even home
if its constantly hectic.. Its not that your are running
away from your responsibilities but just a little time for
you to get a new prespective on life and kinda clear your
head crom all the stress..
Good luck whatever you decide..
@Mavic123456 (21893)
• Thailand
12 Mar 13
i did and until now I am far from home having my soul search.
I travel alone (the goodness in being single) and have my soul search as ever. I started when I retire from job and studied abroad (from my retirement money) Now I am working where I studied. LOL