I am doing everything for her sake, doesn't she get it?
By squallming
@squallming (1775)
Malaysia
March 11, 2013 8:55am CST
My girlfriend has had this appendectomy surgery to cure her appendicitis last Wednesday. I was worried about her condition and I searched through the web for something that is good for her and can help her recover faster.
So based on what I found, some medical website recommends more fruits with amino acids and foods high in fiber such as cereal which according to them would be able to boost her recovery. These food is generally pretty easy to be digested since her digestive system is weaken after the surgery and having her appendix removed. Most Asian also believed that taking essence of black fish or Channa Striatus would be able to cure her wound after surgery.
Because of that, I bought her a lot of fruits, cereal, bread so that she can eat as her main meal for breakfast and dinner. As for lunch, I started to buy rice and vegetables on the 4th day after her surgery as I reckon that she should be able to digest them by then.
The problem is, just now she called saying that she is hungry. I have her stayed in her dormitory this week as I don't want anything goes wrong with her incision. I told her that she can take the fruits I bought and cereal as well. It's already evening and she may not be able to digest a hotly cooked meal from the campus cafes. But she accused me of not letting her eat. She refused to listen to all my advises despite my concern on her health.
7 responses
@lampar (7584)
• United States
12 Mar 13
She is accusing of you not letting her eat, despite the fact that you bought so many fruits ; cereal and bread for her meal that are suitable for her stomach after the surgery, obviously she did not appreciate all that you had done for her so far and is not grateful of the personal love n attention you placed on her. In this scenario, you might well spend your time on more productive tasks for your own self or your family instead of wasting it on her, let her decide for herself where and what she want to eat, no more worry too much over her since she doesn't get it. It is just sad she even go to this extra length to accuse you of something that is so silly despite your good intention. Such a great girl friend you have get for yourself! I am totally speechless now!!! I think i am going to bed now. Sigh!!
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
I am sure she just wanted you to take care of her and she was not really mad at you. You know how girls would always want to be pampered.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
11 Mar 13
Deep down I am sure that she really appreciates your commitment to her and making sure she is eating the right things, but after her operation she might be feeling frustrated and very sore, sometimes we take out our frustrations on the ones closest to us, don't take it personally, just be patient with her. I know you have her best interests at heart.
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
12 Mar 13
What's her problem?
I don't see anything wrong in what you did. Just try to be patient. Maybe the pain is making her cranky. Give her time to cool down and think more about the things that are going on.
@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
11 Mar 13
Just be a it more patient with her. She's jut recovering and I'm sure that her operation is still giving her discomforts if not pains. She may not be trying to be really difficult, she's just sick and needing more care and understanding. Give her time to recuperate and feel better. I'm sure she will be back to being sensible and thankful for everything that you did for her.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
11 Mar 13
Just remember that being ill often results in being short tempered. And if she is hungry on top of that all you attention may not have the result you want. I don't really know what the restrictions in diet are after this type of surgury, but surly she must have gotten some instructions from the health people. All in all just take this time period for healing as difficult and forgive. Soon thing will return to normal. Blessings