How do I feel?

You have to open your heart, move on and don't look back at your last relationship. You deserve to start new relationship. May be this girl is mean to you. Give your heart a chance. Why would you scare her? come on, open your heart

I think since you know her from work, you can start by reaching out to her, trying to be where she is at times, say when she is getting a glass of water to drink, chat her up a bit, in the photocopier or printer, and have a few chat as well. Then you can try to start "befriending" her this way and eventually try to have lunch outs with her group, and or ask her to come with your group during lunch. There is no need to rush, get her to know you, and you to know her as well. =) I am glad that you have found someone that is interesting and you thought of opening up and be sociable again. This is a good start, do not think that you will scare her, just know that you can be her friend and go from there.

hello salemwitch! you would have to go through the long process of healing for you to be able to recognize your feelings again. its a long and painful process and their are no shortcuts. it takes a lot of courage, humility and strength to be able to go through this process and survive!

I know it's hard to open up to someone after feeling disappointed in someone, but you should just try :). It's a good sign that there IS someone who sparked your interest. Just try to get to know her, ask her out on a date, and let things just flow.

You can't stay that way forever and i hope you can open up with this person, just be sure that you are already ready to love again. Fall on love when you are ready and not when you are lonely. Take care.

It is your choice, relation come and go and all of them will just be part of your history right so keep it up just think and do what is right who knows I am already besides you.

hi there, salemwitch! i can relate with how you feel. back in 2004, my boyfriend of 5 yrs broke up with me and it hurt me big time. God sent someone as a sort of 'rebound guy' which didn't work out as well and I got hurt again. So I decided to just enjoy being single, improve myself and get to know God more intimately instead. today i am married and it's one of the greatest blessings that God has given me so far. :) it's good that you're getting back on track. i suggest that you go easy on yourself. try to check your motives first as to why you'd like to get to know this cute girl at work. would you like to pursue her for a possible marriage relationship or just to date her? if you're not ready to get married, then i suggest just be friends with her and not to court her or pursue her romantically. if you're not confident enough yet, then don't make a move at all. give yourself more time alone. learn a new skill. run a marathon. paint, or whatever it takes to express your inner angst in a productive - not destructive - way. also, try to make an objective evaluation of your previous relationship so that you won't make the same mistakes again. the last thing you'd want to happen is carry your 'baggage' or 'garbage' from your previous relationship, right? so don't hurry yourself. if you're in the Philippines, i can send you an invitation to a cool recovery group that helps people deal with their hurts and hang-ups. :) happy myLotting!

If you like her, then just go out at first by being just friends. Of course don't rush into things. Now that you were in a long term relationship before, and the break up is traumatic. Just take your time now and slowly open up to her. It might even be a better relationship just take your time.

I had that kind of experience in the past. 5 long years then he just disappeared without giving me explanations of what had happened. Just to feel better I sent him a break up note which he did not even responded. It was really a total heart breaker. I became so scared to start for another serious relationship then. I think you need more time before you jump to another relationship. If you think that you will scare her away then you must give her a time too. Enjoy whatever relationship you have with her at the moment and time will come that you will feel that you are ready for another plunge. God bless you!