hurting the ones we love

Yeah, you are right. For me, I know I've hurt my father's feelings for the wrong decisions I made. Of course, I didn't do it intentionally because it was my personal decision. The thing is, I wasn't wise enough to see both sides of the coin before I made my decisions. That's what I'm regretting now and I know that my dad feels bad about it too but he can't do anything. I just wish things were different but they're not so I have to accept the consequences of my own decisions. With regards to teaching my kid, indeed, sometimes, she needs to be spank or given consequences of her mistakes because I wanted to teach her to be more responsible and wise. She won't learn if I just give in to all her demands. This is life and this is the reality. Sometimes, we need to get hurt to learn and we also need to hurt other people's feelings for them to learn. We are all instrumental to other people's lives so we also need to open our hearts to forgiveness and understanding because no one is perfect.

I think are two kinds of hurting our loved ones. One is when we are imposing our hurtness and bad energies on them, when we were hurt by other people. I've done this, sometimes, but later I apologized, and I explained what happened... most of the times my beloved understood me, because those sutff hapenning were really bad. And then there's the time when I'm hurting them when they hurt me and I fight back. my family seems to hurt me when I don't deserve it, just because it's in their nature, and I'm like what I get is what you get, sooo... we have pretty big fights at home. But later we all apologize, because in these cases, both of thw parties usually make mistakes.

Yes, even though the last thing we want to do is hurt those we love, I think that in one way or another, it is necessary. Like as much as we want to help our loved ones, if we think that it is not helping them in the long run they are just being dependent, we are leave with no choice but to say No to them. Sometimes, we hurt the ones we love to save ourselves from getting hurt more. Like what happened to me in the past. I was in a relationship for seven long years back then, but felt like if I continue with it I will eventually lose myself. I wanted to tell myself that I have to stay because I love him but the fact is I am only there for security. In a way, I have also saved him to be trapped in a relationship that is not meant to be.

Yes, a couple of times and it wasn't easy to overcome knowing its coming from someone they love. Sometimes it comes as a result of transferred aggression or simply to put some records straight.