Why is it that wives are often blamed for the husband's infedility?

This is the sad part of still being part of a patriarchal society despite this being the 21st century. Wives being blamed for what the husband does wrong is so very common here. This tendency to put the blame on the woman has been embedded and ingrained in the minds of men and even women from time immemorial, that if a problem occurs in the family, the woman must be directly or indirectly responsible. I do not know when or if at all this notion would be erased from the mindset of people. One who cheats will always cheat, no matter whether he has a loving wife or not. This flaw lies in the person's character and no matter how much his wife cares for him or loves him, he will end up cheating. Another instance of the sad reality. I really hate this as much as you.

Only an idiot will ask the wife in such a manner, it is not the problem of the wife when the husband is unfaithful to her. It could be the problem of the husband or both, you have every right to get angry at someone who said stupid thing like this in front of you. Just tell him to go fly kite and stop talking nonsense in front of your face, if he still doesn't get it, give him a punch to knock his teeth off if you can or just kick his b*ll hard to silent him.

I think we can't help but be bias, just like when we blame the other sibling when his/her sibling does something bad "Why didn't you watch him/her?". It's pretty normal to be blaming the husband or the wife when their partners have swayed their ways. I guess it's because we assume if we take good care of our partner, then they'll no longer need to find someone else. Though there are occasions when the wife is to be blamed, when she's too busy with her social life or the kids that she forgot the little boy in the man's body. However, it cannot be generalized with everyone. There are wives who you could compare as the "perfect wife" yet their husbands still look for another. Remember that we don't really know what's happening between them. We don't know their relationship as well as they do. I think they're the only ones who knows why those things happened. It's really sad when a relationship fails. I sincerely could relate to that. It's never fun to hear stories and situations when the husband regrets marrying the wife and the wife seems helpless about the whole circumstance. Whew!

I think it is unfair for someone to be blamed when they did not do the cheating. The one that cheated did something wrong, not the other person. If someone wants to cheat they will do it, whether they have it perfect at home or not. Cheating is wrong and people should place the blame where it belongs-on the person who did it!

I have heard just the same thing happened to certain household. I think that in many cases, both the husband and wife are responsible for anything bad such as affair occurred in the middle of their relationship. Yet, the person who committed the affair should be even more guilty as he or she could have done better to save the marriage. If there is really no way to solve an issue, they should lawfully end their relationship before going out with someone else.

Sounds weird though but there is a fact which should be understood; any woman that tries as much to provide her husbands basic needs at home, including food and making him happy would have succeeded in doing everything and the man wouldn't have any reason for cheating.

Maybe that was thought about in the 1900's but we aren't living back then are we. I've heard people talk like that too and have to shake my head at it. When was it the woman's job to keep him interested in his own home? That is like a person trying to keep a toddler constantly entertained so they don't get bored I agree with you, it's no excuse.

You are right whenever husband attract for other lady then everyone blames the wife may be you did or didnot do this etc etc.. I cant understand but really still most of the persons are not do the respect of women.

I blame either side for infidelity. In a closed monogamous marriage, if the husband cheats then even I as a woman would think it had something to do with the wife because they were missing that something at home. If the wife cheats, then I would blame the husband. If they hadn't addressed the problems before this, then it is both of their faults. If they did and the other cheated then obviously the problem wasn't solved. Men seem to cheat more and so more people look at the wives in that situation.