Its hard to belong to someone else when the right one comes along

This song is just good for somebody in a relationship other than marriage. It's really not nice to see or hear somebody married to say that. I somehow have related to this song before. I already had a boyfriend when I met my ex-bf who happens to be my husband now. From the first time we met, it felt like we knew each other long ago. We were officemates and we became the closest of friends. We do hangout with our group. We were together for almost 2 years. Then, he confessed he has feelings for me but he just can't make a move because I have a boyfriend then. He actually tried to stay away to avoid creating conflicts. But time just came when me and my boyfriend had issues and eventually broke up. When he heard about this, he came back to me again and asked if I can court him already. Well, I also just had to admit that I already liked him (but I didn't told him that fast). I had him waited for 4 months. And that is where our story started.

I don't think it's that black and white as you say. Some people just choose wrongly, and necessarily because they don't think all the future aspects of a relationship well ove,r but because they are not good at determining a person's true personality. There are a lot of people who would act in a whole different way after he/she finally officially gets the other one, because then they think, well, I already have her, no need for acting nice. I see this especially with men, who are all lovey-dovey and romantic in the beginning, but after marriage, especially after having a child and making a woman vulnerable exposed to them, would boss her around, hit her etc. Or, there are people who can't imagine how their life is going to change after childbirth. That can mean loads of changes in life and mentality. Sometimes we choose wrong, and there are people who get married, even if they truly don't match each other (it could be due to pink glasses rushed weddings, too, but also due to factors I've already written). Then finding someone better doesn't necessarily wreck the family. It's a lot worse for a kid, for example, to live in a family where mom and dad are shouting all day to each other, or to feel the tension, than to have their parents divorced... that could mean a calmer life as well. But also, there are people who are just bored and say they found another right one, when they just don't even know what to do in their good life... now those I condone,

Oh, I agree with you. I don't know why there are so many people who have that kind of thinking. If they are already married, they should do everything to save their marriage. We all have our ups and downs so if they always think that they married the wrong one, then all marriage will be destroyed.

Ouch! But you are definitely true. People should not be blinded with the possibility of knowing the the supposedly "right one". Coz if it was indeed the right one, he should have come to her life when she was still free. (this i have to make myself believe for a long time).

I cannot relate to this, because I married my true love. And I know in my heart that my husband is the right one for me because he brings out the best in me. He makes me feel good about myself and embrace everything in me including my weaknesses. And I feel the same for him. Of course we have problems, there wouldn't be a week without us having an argument. But it is nothing that cannot be fixed.

Oh how I love the song though i could not relate to it. But i know some friends who are caught in this trap. This is very sad because it is not only love that keeps the relationship work. It is also commitment. Love I believe, subsides as time goes by. But it is the commitment that keeps two people stay together especially if you have kids to protect. That's why we should always think a lot before we get into marriage thing. it is not that easy to get out once you get in...

I think it comes to those people who are not satisfied with their marriage.but if you are satisfied with your married life you dont have to worry if you found a more sexier or more goodlooking person in the future.

I think it comes to those people who are not satisfied with their marriage.but if you are satisfied with your married life you dont have to worry if you found a more sexier or more goodlooking person in the future.

There have been a lot of discussions about this and it really is irritating to me that people actually believe that they are justified in these 'loves' they find when they are 'with' another person. What you are saying is absolutely true. In reality, if a person loves another, they wouldn't look at anyone else. If they do, all they are really doing is playing house till something better comes along.

Thanks for this nice discussion, i agree to this; 'I agree with the song but it doesn't mean that we need to wreck a family to spend your life with the "right one". Maybe if we are not yet married, then its okay to continue looking for the right one, not when we are already married.' It is better to stick to one after marriage too.

whew! that song is seems really has a truthfulness within it. it happened because of many factors. yes, maybe at first of their relationship, one of the couple or both of them are are against with it but was just being forced by the people like their parents, or friends or whomsoever, so that is why their relationship turned to marriage. and the second factor may seems is that; the relationship is so perfect at first and the couple love each others so much. but then along the way, the ignite of each feelings were lost, maybe because girl or boy commit mistakes like taken each one for granted. this is really happened in a relationship because one persona may think that the partner is just there no matter what. so when a person would seek the thrill to another person to fulfill what he/she feels, here comes the crime and that song we hear entitled "Its hard to belong to someone else when the right one comes along" would hit us. so that is why?