Good friends or No?

@barehugs (8973)

Canada

March 12, 2013 2:56pm CST

I've been writing on myLot for almost 6 years, and have many mylot friends. At least I'd like to think of them that way! Have you ever met someone whom you thought of as a friend, waved or spoke but received no acknowledgement, even though the person was not distracted? It kinda sets you back a bit doesn't it? Ok, so a few of my friends on myLot do this routinely, that is they do not reply to their responders. Perhaps they are just too busy to acknowledge their friends. I hope you are not one of these inconsiderate birds!

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@borgieboy7 (72)

• Philippines

13 Mar 13

In a way, they must be busy doing some other stuff here in this site or other website. Since you are active in mylot for 6 years, you know that some other people here are aiming for some thing, and one of that is earning online. It's such a pleasure if you happen to met someone whom always reply with the thread you post. But, of course, be considerate that sometimes they're busy doing also with their stuff.

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

Yes you have that right! They are so busy trying to make a hundred posts in a day they entirely forget that they need friends to respond to their posts. Why don't they get a real job?

@natliegleb (5175)

• India

13 Mar 13

because you cant judge people just like that based on petty things and it is so bad to get distracted like this for sure

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

I know what you are saying, but would a real friend do something as cheap as this to a friend? After 6 years I thought I knew who my friends were! Yes, I am distracted, but to me this is not just a petty thing!

@kprofgames (3091)

• United States

13 Mar 13

I've seen that where responders go unanswered and it kind of disturbs me. I mean if you post a discussion, then you would expect interaction from it. So if a person doesn't respond back to anyone then why did they start the discussion? I think if someone is going to put the time into it they should be acknowledged for it. I know notifications don't work all the time, but it's still common courtesy. Right?

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

Its hard to imagine anyone starting a discussion, and then never going back to check it out. Makes one wonder what makes a person like that tick? A newbie perhaps, but a seasoned user would not depend on Notifications when there is money to be made by going back and responding to your friends comments!

@maurya83 (923)

• India

13 Mar 13

I have so many such friends but i dont take it personally. Its okay, sometimes it gets difficult to respond so many online friends..I have so many good friends here who respond back on almost every discussion of mine but i hardly participate in their discussions because i get tired while commenting back in my discussions..I hope they would not take it personally too..

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

I'm thinking of doing much the same! If they ignore my responses, perhaps I might not bother to respond to their Posts. myLot is so big I'm sure I can find friends who are more courteous.

@srisahara (4508)

• Indonesia

13 Mar 13

Wow... you have been for 6 years being mylot member? It is so boast. of course you have many mylot friends. I know you excited have many friends but you should not disappointed to them if most of them do not respect to you, because there are many mylot member that leave this site for other business that make them enjoy. Yes, everyone has problem to solve that why they can respect to you. Stand up and don,t have negative thinking to them...okay?

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

Yes this is a matter of 'respect!' If you are a person who would ignore a friend who waves and says, "Hello" then you would also ignore your friends responses!

@heathermay29 (3)

• Mexico

13 Mar 13

If these people really thought of themselves as your friends they would answer you no matter the situation. every time i receive a message from my friends on face i always answer them back because that is what friends do. I hope that things start working out for you.

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

13 Mar 13

Thank you for your thoughts on this discussion! I'm hoping that more friends like you can be my friends too! Have a happy time on myLot!

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@chiyosan (30183)

• Philippines

13 Mar 13

i admit to having no "time" to respond to discussions i create. I do not have a notification on my mail of responses received in mylot and actually i am just trying to reply not to the comments in discussions i created. ;) Its just that we often expect a lot from people and this would be frustrating. I feel that those who do not find time to respond are not totally inconsiderate. they are here to work on the site, have friends, yes... and respond to discussions... often its not easy to keep track of all the discussions you reply to, thus it being "ignored".

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

13 Mar 13

OK!Please read my previous comments. I stand by them! myLot cannot exist with no discussion, because mylot is a discussion forum! A Post with no responses is not a discussion! This is not a lot to expect from the person who wrote the Post. If you write a Post and get some response's for God's sake take the time to at least say, "Thank You!"

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@ajithlal (14716)

• India

13 Mar 13

I have so many friends. But I know almost all my friends are not good friends. Few friends are real & good friends

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

I'm going to give everyone another chance! If they respond to my responses they are friends, if they don't, they won't be on my friends list, and I'll not bother with them anymore!

@MsTickle (25180)

• Australia

19 Mar 13

I always comment back to my responders. Haven't seen you for ages...hope things are going OK for you.

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

19 Mar 13

Yes MsTickle we are old friends, and I've noticed your comments to your responders. This is what makes myLot such a wonderful discussion venue that we are still having fun with it, after all these years. Thanks for the comment and have a Great summer!

@MoonGypsy (4606)

• United States

12 Mar 13

i don't think that i would take so personally. i think people are just busy trying to get as many post and replies in as possible.

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

12 Mar 13

Perhaps so, but its like a slap in the face, and against myLot rules as well. Would this site be here if no-one ever responded to a Post?

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@Dominique25 (9464)

• United States

12 Mar 13

Yeah perhaps they are busy or haven't received notifications. I know that I still am not receiving notifications of responses. Which may mean that I can miss some. I do agree that I do view a lot of mylotters here as my friends. I have gained a great support group that I'm happy to consider friends.

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

12 Mar 13

Sadly though, its costing them money. A good discussion, like a hot fire, needs fuel. This (fuel) response is money coming to the Poster as well as to the Responder!

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@mrswhitfield (2044)

• Indonesia

13 Mar 13

I barely made a discussion, mostly I post the respond to others discussion. Yes sometimes I don't receive respond back from the discussion owner but it does not bother me. May be they are too busy, positive thinking

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

13 Mar 13

Well,thanks for your response anyway! I guess you know that there can be no discussion if there are no response's. I know this sounds kinda like the end of myLot, but that's the way it is!

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@Raine38 (12391)

• United States

12 Mar 13

There could be a of reasons why a friend would seem to be ignoring you. I don't like to jump into conclusions and think of the worse immediately. For all I know, they either have something else going on in their mind or they simply didn't notice me. Unless I have actually spoken to the person and confirmed that the friend doesn't wanna talk to me anymore, I will still give them the benefit of the doubt.

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

13 Mar 13

It's not as simple as you are making it sound! You responded to this friends Post. If no one had responded this friend would have posted for Nothing! Therefore this friend owes you one! The onus is on this friend (the Poster) to respond, and if he/she doesn't (I can't say it any stronger) he/she is a piece of Crap!

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@tanvirnabi123 (126)

•

13 Mar 13

Hello barehugs, Thanks for your emotional writing, I say the word emotional because I feel your spontaneous urge others to respond. It is good as it is a discussion forum where need more and more interaction. Things are different here and many do not take it personally.Many of them are engaged to different site to use their precious time profitably. But I personally agree to your point as it is a discussion platform, we need more interactions.

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@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

Thanks for your comments, and yes I am emotional about this! myLot will not be a better discussion platform as long as this greedy practice continues!

@jonastabuena (2307)

• Philippines

13 Mar 13

There are really some cases that some of our friends don't reply, i understand it maybe they are just to busy to reply, but me myself i see to it that i can reply any message from my friends even though my reply is delay, i still reply, just to know my friends that i received their message.

@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

You are to be commended for your attention to your friends! myLot would be a much better place if we had more members such as you! Thanks for that!

@savypat (20216)

• United States

13 Mar 13

I do not respond to my responders unless they have introduce an interssting issue or asked a question. I do read all my responses and rate them all. Time is my problem, not will.

working on my lot

@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

Perhaps if you had the will, you could find the time! How can we know that your responders will not have a question or an interesting issue,when responding to your response? When there is a will, there is a way!

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@joanamarienieva (160)

• Philippines

13 Mar 13

Maybe they're just busy that's why they can't afford to reply. Or maybe they don't know that there's a respond in their post. Like my friend. He's posting everyday but he didn't make any reply because he didn't knew that there's someone who replied on his post. He said, he was not notified by mylot. I said, yes, mylot will not notify you on this site but try to check your email, you will be notified through email and when he opened his email, it was there a lot response in his post hahaha...

@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

Yes those rude myLot members are too busy. They think they can have it both ways! Make money by ignoring their friends who responded to their posts. This might work for a while but in the long run people will catch on, and pass by on the other side!

@meumeu25 (917)

• United Arab Emirates

15 Mar 13

I admit that there are discussions where I havn't responded to all the people who replied, I don't have much time sometimes but I atleast give them a positive rate on their responses. When I am back again, I just don't bother because it's already old. I don't also bother if I respond to a discussion and doesn't get a reply, although I will also like to know what they think but I agree that you are right the discussion won't be a discussion if nobody discusses at all. That's why now, I just respond to other mylotters' discussions, to avoid incidents like this. But I don't agree that because the poster did not respond to a discussion they started, they are already not a good friend or inconsiderate, I think it's different in a real life situation than online.

@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

When you have been a myLot member for years instead of months you will feel differently about myLot friends. When you respond to a friend of 5 or more years, who totally ignores the service you have done for him/her, its like a slap in the face. It hurts so much you may never again respond to this person's post! This is a real life situation! This is for real!

@meumeu25 (917)

• United Arab Emirates

16 Mar 13

Well now I understand your sentiments, you obviously had developed a bond with those friends of yours. I will certainly feel the same if a friend does that to me. But here in mylot I don't have close friends yet, I really like some people here and even though we are not really tight to each other, I can feel a mutual respect from them. And I understand if there are times that they don't respond to me, because I have no idea what they do in their lives, what makes them busy, it's not a big deal for me. I'll be happy if they will remember me and I won't have a grudge if they don't. And to be honest, and this might sound odd, I myself lost interest in some of my own discussions sometimes, I even wonder why I posted them and would have delete it if not because of the other members that responded on them.

@Angelpink (4034)

• Philippines

13 Mar 13

Hi there ! Each and everyone are so busy with daily stuff but that doesn't mean that they already forget friends , it would always be there ! Our friends have also their own lives , sometimes we need to give them space . Don't worry so many people in the world , so many friends you have . Ignore those who don't respond to you , others are waiting for you. Anyways if this friend misses and needs you , she'll find a way to connect . Cheers !

@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

There is a time and place for everything, and everything in it's place. If you have time to make a post you should have time to respond to your responders!!

@Mavic123456 (21893)

• Thailand

13 Mar 13

hmmm.. maybe not good friends .. there should be no time and distance issues between friends. just kidding.. maybe they are just busy... don't feel offended... sometimes people are just afraid to assume that you are still friends, the feeling "awkwardness" seeing again for the first time.

@barehugs (8973)

• Canada

15 Mar 13

After reading their posts over the years, one gets to feel that you know these people very well, and then to have your comments ignored is like a slap in the face! What can I say, except that I am exceedingly disappointed!

@Mavic123456 (21893)

• Thailand

16 Mar 13

sorry bare... I hope I can extend my hands to you and hug you.. so you won't feel bad. we learned mistakes a hard way sometimes same as knowing who your real friends are. painful as it is but that's life.. stand up and move on