Does life ever get normal again

Hi, Your are lucky that your has been cancer free. So you don't have to worry about it. Your hubant must be depressed by taking painful treatment of cancer. We can't understand the pains which the cancer patient has to go through. You should encourage him and try to make him happy with motivating words. It will take some time to get out of the fear of cancer. I wish everything will be normal as before.

This would suggest that he is probably a little depressed. This may just come and go after surgery and chemo etc. He went through a life chanhing experience and is proabably trying to make sense of it all. Life will get better from probably not the normal that you knew but it could be a beter normal. I had terrible depression after the two open heart surgeries last year and I am not back to whatever normal is. It is still a struggle but I just keep on going. he may say now - in a depresed state - that he would never have treatment again - but he probably would

I'm sorry. We are just now going through chemo with my dad and he's taking it well. He gets down a bit here and there but he's trying. Today he went for a 6 block walk. Says he wants to build his energy back up so he can go on a fishing trip with my brother. I think that gave him something to look forward too really. Not sure what else to say here, but hope he comes around.

I guess, by the mere concept of being a 'survivor' suggests that life wouldn't ever be normal again. It'll always be something that your husband would carry with him for the rest of his life. It is scary to think that he made this declaration. I hope and pray that he (and your family) doesn't have to go through that ever again.

dear Dorannmwin sorry you still have such a hard time in spite of the fact the cancer is gone. Maybe you remember that my best friend suffered from cancer but didnt survive when it came round for the second time. When it had returned she didnt have classical chemo but something else and she also said that she would stop if it drained her out like it had done the first time. It was a 30 day treatment and during that time I sent her flowers several times and a small letter of encouragement every day so she wont give up.

Sorry to hear that. My mom also had cancer 4 5 years here. She never got back to normal. Only the pains went away.

I am so sorry hon, all I can say is you have to make a new normal now, a normal that is based on day to day. I hope he continues to be in remission. I will pray for you and him.

Each body is different. I have a friend who won this battle 3 years ago and she is still tired easily. This also goes for his mental attitude, each of us is different. The best you can do is stay supportive and let him heal at his own pace. Blessings

I'm happy to hear that he has been cancer free for over a year. I believe he is most likely scared that it could come back and that is why he is feeling the way he does. If he is still feeling weak it is very hard to have any type of normalcy in ones life. Dealing with cancer and the treatment had to take a toll on his body and mind and its going to take time for him to bounce back. I believe once he is in the two to three year mark of cancer free he will be bouncing back to normal it just takes time and you have to find the patients to deal with it. I will pray that it all happens sooner for him though. God Bless!

No matter how you may look at it cancer is a horrible disease that changes lives forever. I don't believe that life canve back to tt same normalcy that we enjoyd. Yet I do believe that life can go on and can be much better as we strive to make the most of it. We find new respect and enjoyment once we conquer the cancer obstacle.

First of all, l want to give you both applaud for staying together with each other through this bad phase of life. You both have couragedly faced this time. Just tell your husband to do regular walking, if he can in early morning's and after that give him a cup of tea made in boiled water of little mixture of fennel seeds and bishop weed. First boil them both in water then put tea, sugar and milk. It will be good for him as it will keep his digestive system well and no disease will come near him.

I didn't know. that your husband was a survivor from that disease. And I can understand why he will refuse to go to such a treatment again. I imagine that such treatments are terrible for the people suffering that illness. I think, he is feeling tired, due the process he has followed to become healthy. I can only expect that he keeps healthy. Have a nice day.

Hi dorannmwin, I am so sorry for you both as this has to be hard on you both, even thoa your husband went through the difficult part of just knowing he had cancer and had chemo, it sounds like you have went through it with him. I personally have had a scare of cancer a few years ago I was lucky I only had to have a full hysterectomy, which was major enough, but for me I feel different and I look at life a lot different now. I was also blessed with a very patient husband and I thank God everyday for that. I know it is hard for you but when you have been as sick as your husband has, 6 monthes really isnt that long. For both of you take one day at a time, and watch for signs of depression,(for both of you) if you are able to keep the communication going on both ends and remind each other how much you love one another. Take care

In my opinion, it wouldn't be the same.. but there will always be a new beginning, a new start... for i know in life there's always hope... hope for a better life even though we struggle in life, there will always a hope. For i know hope makes all things bright. In addition to that put also some faith. For faith makes all things possible... But as they say the greatest is Love... Put them all together... it would be a good life...and with God beside you... He will never forsake you nor leave you as your Helper... God bless you... and Goodluck =)

hi dorannmwin yes I can imagine that after all your husband has been thought its had to change him a lot. the only thing I can suggest iks that he has some depression but I hope in time it will clear up.This is something I know we worked through after my husband had colon cancer.And it did take much longer than J wolu ld have imagine fo him to get back to his old self in fact since he had a colostomy he had to adjust to that so he never really did get back to his old self. But he copp[ed like we all dol eventually I hope it will be faster and easier for your husband but remember both of you to be eternally graterfulk for a cure..

hi there! I am so sorry to hear what you are going through....it must be tough for you and the whole family. Your husband is going through a whole lot and this is affecting him so much. What stuff like cancer do to someone can have two effects, 1. make him a better man 2. make him a pessimist, introvert etc. I bet there are times that your hubby is scared he would relapse and the fear of dying is inevitable. There is also the uncertainty of what the future may bring for you and the whole family as a result of him being sick or dying. Bills, loans, mortgages etc. stuff that a man of the house would think about especially if you are not financially prepared. What I suggest you do to help him out is "encouragement" help him see the best things in daily life that are far precious than money. Help him see the beauty of the trials that you are going through but first you must see that too and learn to appreciate that as well. Next is assurance. Assure him that no matter what, you will go through stuff together whether good or bad. Remind him that you love him every single day while you still can.

it is just a time and after the diagnosis over,you can revert back to normal shape with proper diets

I am very sorry to hear that your husband is a cancer patient. Pray to the God or his fast recovery.

well I did not know about your husband or i missed the post and I know from my cancer it has taken me 2 years to fully recover to be back to my old self so don't give up hope