I am not the only one or am I?

a fool learns from their own mistakes. A wise man learns from the mistakes of others.

My point is why are humans made that way. Why do we feel relieved when others also have similar problems. It stinks, if you ask me, even though I am one of them!

We are certainly not happy with the problems of other people allknowing because what happens to others is none of our business.But we are able to go take a decision or something in a given situation by taking lessons from similar experiences. I feel it is cause for concern only if we are happy with another person's misery; I feel we will be looking only at their solution. For e.g. if you have an illness or exploitative people around you and if you think of other people with similar situations what would be your reaction? If this'other' person has been unsuccessful in treatment or handling wicked people would you give second thought to them? Or would you feel happy ? No.

As I had written in the earlier response, we are not happy about other people's problems allknowing. Our school did not teach us such sense of values.You are suddenly getting too introspective for your own good and are confused. ] Do you rejoice at other people's suffering?--No 2] Do you want to see other people suffer the same way or undergo what you are going through/-No 3] Are you glad that there are others sailing in the same boat—No. 4] Are you relieved that there are others sailing in the same boat? —Do you feel there is hope for you --yes—. 5] When in a difficult situation, you think of some other person and just imagine that this person is worse than you and you have been fortunate to be however you are—Yes. Why?—because there are millions of people who are worse off than what we ourselves are and we should take solace from the thought. It is a, positive attitude. — So, what is wrong?

Can we not convert this attitude into a situation where we thank God atleast others are not in that state?. Is that so difficult kala? The more I delve into the kind of human beings we are, the more I get disillusioned. I have yet to meet any one in my circle who has this attitude where he/she would not want others to have the problem whatever that is they are having.

If the one suffering saw every one else was having a great time I doubt if that would be considered an ideal situation by the one who is suffering.Just saying.

We don't live just for ourselves and by ourselves. The consolation we get is a way for us to go on with life. Without these facts, we have nothing look forward and look back at.

I did not say that we should not live for others. What I said was taking consolation from the fact that others too are having problems will not make us strong. We will not solve our problems in the manner they should be.

It would be great if we humans were able to face our problems without having to look around and get consolation from the fact that others too are in the same boat.

I was not talking of 'why only me' in all my responses so far. If it were this I would have straightaway said that it ought not to be there and if it is we will have to consciously fight against it. With some training and mind control one will be able to achieve this. I am sure it is there with you because you would not have come back fighting after that traumatic accident of yours.

That is a positive outlook. But the thought 'why only me' also gets entertainment many a time and this thinking is what I am concerned about. Why are human beings made that way?

When the world population is running into crores what is a million!

We all feel the same but would it not be nice that we become strong enough to face whatever that bothers us without having to look around for consolation?