Did you have a bachelor or bachelorette party?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
United States
March 13, 2013 10:20am CST
My friend was invited to a bachelorette party, but will not be going because there will be male strippers there and her fiance is against that sort of thing.. not that she minds missing out on it.
This friend is also getting married in about a year.. but so far has not planned a bachelorette party.. or is that my job as the maid of honor? I suppose it is.. guess I'll need to start working on that.. thank goodness I have time! I know there certainly won't be male strippers.. just some drinks and some fun!
I didn't have my own bachelorette party, and my husband did not have a bachelor party. When we got married we'd already been committed to each other for quite awhile, living together, and even already had children. A bachelor or bachelorette party did not seem important.. and I still don't think it is. I don't regret not having one.
Did you have one? If not, do you wish you did?
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14 responses
• India
14 Mar 13
well I know some boys going on bachelor party before they married but I never heard about girls bachelor party.
@frankiecesca (2489)
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14 Mar 13
I had one and so did my husband and we had them on the same nigth and then he ended up meeting up with al the women and whatfew guys were left out as most of his friends and older family members went home early! Lol
I just had drinks and a nigth out in a club and we dressed up as Disney characters!It wasn't very wild but, good fun and I didn't have strippers, nor did he as neither of us like that kind of thing!
@lilybug (21107)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I am NOT married and I do not plan on getting married anytime soon. If I do ever get married I do not plan on having a bachelorette party. If my husband to be would like to have a bachelor party that's on him. I would not have a problem with that.
I do believe that the Maid of Honor is the 1 who is supposed to plan the bachelorette party. That is however nothing I have any experience with.
Good luck planning the bachelorette party it seems like you have plenty of time.
@katsmeow1213 (28716)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I will get some help from the bride's maid who is probably a lot more knowledgable about such things.
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Mar 13
I could not have borne it either. Not my thing or idea of fun
@cynthiann (18602)
• Jamaica
13 Mar 13
I did not have one and I have never missed having one either. It was not really popular in the U.K at the time although the men did their thing. I can't really remember if my husband had one or not. I think he went out with the Best Man and a few friends for a couple of drinks but not a party as such. To me it is not important. What is important is what ahppens the next day when the vows are exchanged
@doroffee (4222)
• Hungary
13 Mar 13
I'm not married yet, but I'm planning mine. I don't even have too many friends, so I'm not sure if there's gonna be a party (I wouldn't be too sad if there wasn't). If there is a party, no way I'm going to hire male strippers. For me, it's tacky and trashy, and I'm perfectly fine with looking at my fiancé only :D. So it's more gonna be like a friendly get-together, maybe with some tasteful fun tasks and challenges :).
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
15 Mar 13
I didn't have a bachelorette party, instead the night before my husband and I were to be married I spent the night with one of my closest friends and the two of us had a couple drinks and just had a good time catching up with each other (she'd moved out of state and we hadn't been spending a lot of time together).
My husband, on the other hand ended up being really treated by his friends and groomsmen the night before our wedding. He stayed out all night and they did all kinds of irresponsible things, but there were no strippers.
@sender621 (14893)
• United States
14 Mar 13
I did not care that much about having a bachelorette party so I did not have one before my wedding. The weddiceremony and the marriage were important to me than that. I don't think I really missed anything by not having one.
@LovingMyBabies (85288)
• Valdosta, Georgia
13 Mar 13
My sister is getting married next week and they did not have the parties either. They did not want the whole strippers and garbage (I cannot blame them). They both agreed that they were not going to do all of that mess.
My older sister had their party but we all went to the nail salon to get a day of pampering, it was fun! And the guys went bowling and they had fun too! That would be the way I would do things, rather than the stupidity of some of the parties people have.
I did not have a big wedding so we had no bachelorette party or anything. If I did one I would have done the salon thing for the girls and bowling for the guys. Innocent yet fun! =) I don't wish I had one. I do wish I had a bigger wedding but we did what we could afford at the time. We only had 8 guests there, no reception and no honeymoon. That is the only thing I wish would have been different, I would have liked a bigger wedding at least a little bit and I definitely wish we had a honeymoon...
@Raine38 (12389)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I didn't have my bachelorette party, but my husband got his bachelor's party. But they didn't have any strippers because I told them not to have one, lol! Well,it's just him and his friends, and my dad and uncle, all drinking, eating, watching games and doing karaoke. He I'd he received some interesting gifts. I never saw them, by the way. Now that I think of it, I do wish I had one. I wished I could have enjoyed one last night out with my girlfriends before I became officially off the market. It would have been fun, but then most of my friends back then were pregnant or have something else going on because we got married the day before a long holiday.
@TLilly12 (1229)
• United States
13 Mar 13
Yes I am married, my husband and I are separate now, no I didn't have bachelorette party, because my family didn't want me, to get married, it would have been a waste of time, any way my married only lasted a year, I am happy with my life just how it is today.
@blackrusty (3519)
• Mexico
14 Mar 13
No when I got married I did not have a party but I have been to one in my life
@dragonflygirl (15)
• United States
14 Mar 13
As a maid of honor it its your responsibility to do what the bride wants. Find out what she really wants and just to it. And as for your last question i did not have a bachelorette party nor did i want one. And i didn't regret not having one. But everyone has their own preference.
@MADAPAGMD (36)
• India
14 Mar 13
I think batcheler party is a good thing as we dont get to meet many of our those friend .... as we dont have time in such a hectic lifestyle but personaly i have never been as i havent stil not compleated my graduation