I don't understand this, at all!
By echoforever
@echoforever (5180)
United States
March 13, 2013 2:05pm CST
I am a member of ally bank which is an all online bank. This is probably where this is coming from but it still makes absolutely no sense to me.
Sometimes I try to help out my dad with some things when he is low on cash. I can't get cash on hand very often as I have very little any way and I rarely go into town to do it. He won't let me help him. I just offered to give him a check so he can get gas in his truck and he acts like I just offered to give him the plague. I know its something to do with the bank i'm with or that it isn't real cash but a check. I've even offered to give him my card and my pin number so he can do that and he still says no. Which actually is better because at least he won't have the number. Its just really annoying though when I am trying to help him. It also really sucks because sometimes he will go into town for say things like.. doctor's appointments.. and I'll ask him to get me something and he won't for this same reason! I want to kick him. I don't understand, do you? 
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11 responses
@Laurenlynn (715)
• Canada
13 Mar 13
Hi echo, it could be your Dad is from the old school maybe he just likes hard cold cash.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
13 Mar 13
He does ask if I have "cash" sometimes but he uses his own bank card all the time without cash.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
13 Mar 13
Yes I suppose you could be right even though he doesn't show that...
I'm a woman though 
@Laurenlynn (715)
• Canada
13 Mar 13
Hi echo I am detecting that maybe your Dad is an independent type. It makes him feel funny when you want to help althoa you are a really good son for wanting to do this.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
13 Mar 13
Its with my dad not wanting to take my money when I try to help him. I just mentioned its an online bank because I'm pretty sure that's part of the reason.
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@Laurenlynn (715)
• Canada
13 Mar 13
Some generations are still having troubles accepting how everthing is getting high tech maybe this is why. Just a thought.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
13 Mar 13
Larenlynn I think that could be part of it, still, he's seen me use the card and knows I've only defaulted once on the account -$6. Its just like any other bank card, he uses his own. he won't even use my check. I don't understand it. If he's just trying to not use my money he sure doesn't seem like that is the reason when he responds in a sarcastic, jerk-like way.
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@KrauseHome (36447)
• United States
15 Mar 13
Wow!! Totally stubborn and independent. Feels if he does everything on his own, you should too. But what would be the harm with you helping him out like this from time to time? Guess his pride out weights everything.
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
15 Mar 13
Yes it really does out weigh everything. He has upset me today about some other factor and his pride. Its infuriating at times and other times like in this instance just irritating a bit.
@porwest (92463)
• United States
19 Jan
I applaud a guy like this honestly. He simply wants to feel independent and doesn't want to feel helpless or burden his children. He probably knows his struggles are his own fault and why should anyone pay the debts of his financial failures? He is admirable in my book.
@allknowing (137597)
• India
14 Mar 13
I got it! He does not want any one to know that it is your money!
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@echoforever (5180)
• United States
13 Mar 13
Its a good bank, no minimum needed to keep your checking account open. Its just completely online, there are no physical banks to go to. This may be a problem if something ever arose I would have to spend time on a phone to figure it out with customer support. I have had absolutely no problems so far though and I love it that I can have $0 balance in my checking when I can't earn online and still keep my account and my paypal is verified because of this account.
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@robspeakman (1700)
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13 Mar 13
Is it not just simply a case of PRIDE?
I think I would not take money or financial help from my Children in the future.
Male pride is stubborness under another name
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Yes probably. Why be so stubborn though.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Mar 13
hi echoforever I am thinking your dad knows cash and ordinary banks but like my friend he does not trust online banking. I know this is silly as I have had my online account for years and its truly safe but my friend claims it is not.Maybe your dad has that same hang up.Try getting the money in cash as older people do get stuck in their old habits then he will take it.Also to get gas he cannot give someone a check either at the gas pump so he needs a way to get the cash. I have some ideas of what older people might be thinking as I am in my
eighties myself..
eighties myself..@echoforever (5180)
• United States
13 Mar 13
I wish he would get over it then. Its pretty annoying when I need something too because he's going into town anyway and won't use the money I have. I can try to get cash on hand but usually since I make so little online - its the only source of income I have in the account, I spend it quickly and I don't have any of the cash. Oh well I guess I have to just live with it.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
How old is your dad? Maybe at his age now, he is getting more irritable. I have noticed that with mt father in law. He gets annoyed easily even for the smallest thing. He simply doesn't want to be bothered. he even got worse after he had stroke. It is as if you have another kid in the house who is as stubborn as a 5 year old child. he refuses to listen to the family's warnings about him going to the mall alone. Since he had emphysema, he often gets asthma attacks. Sometimes, even if he has difficulty in breathing, still he would insist on doing his ways. His hard-headedness has caused his children to stay away from him , so as the grandchildren.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
I guess there are just grumpy people, do you agree? My brother in law who is as old as I am is mostly grumpy. I hate it when I hear his voice, coz, he could be self-centered as well. If nobody wants to talk to him, he starts talking about his siblings and point out their failures and this could go on for hours.
I wasn't even spared with his grumpiness. But instead of just keeping quiet about it, I had to give him a piece of my mind!
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
15 Mar 13
Ouch! Yes I definetely agree there are grumpy people. I am glad you gave him back a piece of your mind and didn't take that from him.
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
14 Mar 13
My dad is 62 now. He has done the same through his ways, driving every one away except me mostly. And at times I want to do the same. He has a really bad temper and he's pretty vile to be around at times....
@natliegleb (5175)
• India
13 Mar 13
you will get it ,and the gas has totally run out i suppose,get a new one and keep moving
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@cmania (207)
• Portugal
14 Mar 13
what a stubbie daddy :3 I guess some parents just cna´ta ccept their little blossoms are trying to help the "big grown up ones" Sometimes they think thay are the heros even if they odn´t have much :3 It´s not a bad thing it´s some sorta of caring for us ?
I remember when i didn´t bought the most expensive ice cream with mom´s money because I dind´t want her to waste it and i even shared with her. She got mad xD I guess they can´t see their sprouts help with their personal economic life or whatever
c[= You can always put the money in his pocket with a note :D dad dont´be so stubborn I don´t mind you use some of what I have
ps: it´s forbidden to return it
@echoforever (5180)
• United States
14 Mar 13
You're close to the "100" mark where you get your star!! 
My mom was the same way, wanting me to have the best but I didn't want to waste it for little things too. I know its some sort of caring... I just don't know what kind it is! I hope one day he will accept my help when he needs it.