I quarreled with my boyfriend tonight

Why do you want to marry this guy? There is no real love between you. He is a chauvinist and therefore, you are prepared to be walked over and treated like dirt because that's how chauvinists treat their women. He will own you and expect you to do as you're told because you are a lesser person to him. Is that what you want? Maybe it is. You obviously have no self esteem, maybe you enjoy being unhappy and miserable. If so then go for it.

Try to talk to him and tell him about your feelings. Love is understanding each other and communication is the best way to have a strong relationship. Open up your mind, maybe he doesn't know your likes and dislikes.

Relationship between a boy and a girl is based on trust an understanding. Only then it can last eternally. If it is based on unilateral which is one way then it will be bound to breakup. It must have a two-way traffic. Your boy friend apparently wants to control you. He is a MCP. For a couple to stay in different houses it is common to phone each other and talk on the phone as they miss each other. This is love.

I am amazed that you tolerated his chauvinistic personality. I could never stay or marry someone who doesn't consider me an equal. If he doesn't treat you well, then you might have to separate from him. Just control yourself and consider his reason why you can't call him every night. If there is good reason that you should not call him(maybe he has work to do) then you have to adjust. Also, he needs to be more considerate about you.

You like to give him a call every night but he does not like to talk on the phone? It may be quite disturbing emotionally at that moment but it is just a small matter if we look at it from a bigger perspective. Your boy friend might just not be in the mood to talk that night. I am sure that he did talk to you on the phone before even though he said he does not like to talk on the phone. It is just a small thunder inside a tea cup.

I think it's a normal thing to argue sometimes in a relationship. I can relate with you. Sometimes, I do quarrel my boyfriend because he can stand to not call me even three days up to a week. I asked him why and he said that he was just waiting for me to call him. He is not doing the move sometimes and it annoys me. But lately, he had change. He often called me already and check me. I think it is better to voice out your sentiments with him. It's healthy in a relationship.

I think it is normal to get quarrel with people we love. I think one should make sure that the argument does not last very long. I think it should never last more than a day. I think most probably one need to hear what other has to say as well.

If you are still unsure with your boyfriend, why jump into marriage? Learn to know more about him. And think if you can handle all the things that you have discovered about him. here may be a lot of differences between a couple, but all it takes is a good communication.

Yeah I understand what you mean. It is important that you learn these things before you get married. You really have to evaluate your relationship and what you want out of life. You have to ask yourself are the faults he has, can you live with those things only a daily basis for the rest of your life? It is a big question. But trust me you do not want to end up in an unhappy marriage. And he has to want to change for himself otherwise he will just resent you down the road.

hi, elenaliu. As they say, men should be loved less and be understood more. I suggest if he doesn't want a daily call, so be it. Don't make yourself always available to him. You might be focusing on him too much that he gets tired of it. I once had a struggle with my own relationship with my boyfriend. I want us to meet everyday which felt more of a responsibility to him than a pleasure. He explained to me, in plain words, that we don't have to see each other everyday, to keep the spark alive. And so that is what we did. Thank God we will be on our 7th year this coming May. good luck to your relationship, dear. God bless!

Hi elenaliu. Sorry to hear that but having miscommunication in a relationship is normal. Have you met his family and friends? In that way you can understand where he is coming from. Fighting too much though is not healthy for both of you. You can read some tips online from people who have been happily married since you're going that way soon. Being in a relationship is accepting and respecting the differences between you two. You both must learn to compromise and comprehend what you want or expect in your relationship. You must also have fun and not take the relationship too serious as it will be very boring. Don't forget your individuality as well. By the way, what's the cause of the fight (If you don't mind sharing it)?

talking does go both ways if your both in love with each other you have to learn to talk to each other and hear each other now I know it is hard to not call and hear the person that you love but as it bothers him so much to talk on the phone every day ask him if you can call every other day and just remember if you do get married you will be talking to each other every day for the rest of your life

this is sad story about you.i like to suggest to you you must find what is the wrong.some time he is in misunderstand for you. i hope he wiil come to you and he request to you please sorry for me.

In a relationship there should be a give and take process. You guys should have a good communication. Try to improve it so you will understand each other. And also listen to each other.

Sounds to me that you are having serious doubts about him and your compatibility, in any relationship there has to be communication on both sides, you both have to be honest with each other and more importantly with yourselves, do you really think he is going to change once you marry him? If he is a male chauvinist then straight away that should be ringing alarm bells, ask yourself do you want to be tied to him for the rest of your life? It is far easier to back out now before you get in too deep and marry him!

Well that is good to know that you have realized you both need to Give and take. That is what compromise is all about. Relationships work in many ways and it includes both people in the relationship to work it out together. Relationships do not work when only voice is heard. It will fail and the other person will eventually get tired of the situation. Have you already tried to take about your issues in person? For me in reality there is really nothing wrong with you talking about your problems over the phone but taking in person would help s lot and talking face to face would eliminate some more doubts. I am also sure you love him and you are thinking of this now because you are angry. Calm down and relax a bit. You need to decide when you are thinking clearly. Remember that he is soon to be your life time partner or not depending on your decision. So this would change your life. Decide wisely and think of it carefully.

Don't you have to worry. If both of you are meant for each other everything will go back to normal. He always think to be superior that's why he act like that.. Don't worry about your marriage just pray and think positive. For sure he loves you and all be alright..

If you're having doubts, maybe you should think about marrying this guy a little more before committing. All relationships are based on communication, give and take, and our own needs to be our "own person." Compromise is a big thing for me, and remember we all need our own time to learn and grow. Differences can be worked around if this guy is really important to you and if you are important to him (love) you will find a way to make it work.

Well you feel there is a problem in your relationship, my first thing to suggest is to ask him if he all wants to have a relationship with you if not then it may be time to break up. However if you love him and he says he loves you then i would suggest talking to a counselor and try to work thru your problems. Give it some time and really try to work it out. I hope this helps.

well, you just give the answer or your own question. If you love someone you have to ynderstand him and his problem also you should tell him about your problem and try to find solution together.