Will you allow your sibling to live on your new house even if you have not

I don't want to sound mean to your younger sister but she seems to want to pass on to you guys her responsibility completely. I hope that she does realize that you have your own lives and all you can do as a sister is help in your own way. But putting up with 5 of them is too much.

Jenny1015. That's how we feel as well ever since. We hoped she change but we really don't have control of her attitude in life. Yap, we also have our own lives to deal with, we also have problems and responsibilities. I am only older to her by 1 year. I also chose to be single for a while since I want to save for my future family to be while dealing with my huge cyst. She messaged me a while ago and did not even bother to say sorry for not showing up few days ago because she said she will visit and check the new house. I did not take a project on article writing just to accommodate her. I just pray for her because I don't want to have any arguments as she will not listen as always and will fight with me or anyone. I've learned to just lift up everything to God because it will only worsen my health condition if I get stressed.

Hi jenny. I hope everything will be okay for the both of them. My younger sister did not reply to my elder sister's condition and same goes with mine. She first mentioned she planned to live with me here with her family. When I told her, they're welcome anytime just make sure they'll help out with the bills (Whatever they'll consume) since I only work online and I have serious health condition (I am for urgent surgery). I think she's not willing for those conditions. It's really hard when people don't cooperate. I cannot shoulder all the expenses for them since there are 5 of them. All my income online is only good for one person and I always see to it that I conserve energy, water to able to pay my bills on time without limiting myself on food (My diet is limited as I am not allowed to eat meats, only veggies/fruits). I hope she understands me and my elder sister for setting some conditions. Have a great day!

We have a 6 bedroom house with one unused at the moment.

We love our siblings too that's why we allow her with her family to live with us. In reality we also have our own family and it's not advisable to live in one house if that's the case for us to have privacy. And having a small house with just 2 bedrooms is just another issue. c",)

Hi mimiang. Yap, nowadays there are crimes all over the world. Even an occupied house is being robbed anytime of the day. It's better that my younger sister will be the one to live in the new house while my elder sister is still preparing to come home for good. I've mentioned that to my elder sister looking on the brighter side of it. It will also help my younger sister save on renting a house. But we hope that she transfers to a nearer workplace as well. We are still waiting for her response so we can visit the house and update my elder sister. I'll pray for the best of them. Have a lovely day ahead!

Hi luisadannointed. Our family is independent yet helpful to one another. She married young and got 3 kids that's why she's having problems in term of finance but she's a good mom to her kids. That is the reason why she plans to transfer to my sister's house because she can't pay rent anymore and wants to prioritize her kids' tuition fees. Anyways, yes, they should be working harder to raise their family as much as they can. I already suggested that they should be both working but they have their own personal reasons. She did not move to my sister's house anymore because she can't shoulder fees like transportation (Being far away from her workplace), etc.

Hehe. She told me that she's worried that her kids might damage some part of the house like painting on walls, break glass, etc. She lives far away from that house. The best decision will still be to live in a place near her work so she can save cash from traveling/transportation. She already decided not to transfer home.

Hi akingh. My sister already decided not to live on my new sister's house since she's afraid that her kids might damage some part of the house. It's her decision anyways. We are here to help here when she needs it.

Hi maximax8. Yes you are right. I think most people will think the same way you did. My elder sister and I also wonder why she did not agree with the conditions since it's normal. If you want to live on someone's house that is not your husband, wife or kids, you should be responsible enough in taking care of the house and paying all the bills for the utilities that you consumed. Keep it well maintained like what the real owner will do, as if it is also your house that you worked hard for before you got the chance to live there. My younger sister is still not communicating with me and my elder sister. She has changing minds. Thank you for sharing your opinion. Mwah!

I agree with that. That is also my concern and my elder sister's. It might cause problem between them in the future. We know our family well. To give the trust will depend on what she or he has been doing before and recently. We also wonder why she did not accept the condition since it's understandable. Anyways, it's between the two of them. I just don't want them to have a fight because of property issue. Thank you for sharing your opinion.

Hi sishy! Happy to hear that you have good communication and bonding with your direct family. I agree with that. Some families have stronger relationships. Sorry to hear about your spouse's family. That's what we don't like to happen as it have higher chances of happening in the future. It will tear all our hearts and it's not healthy to fight over property's issue. My sister worked very hard for several years of her life abroad and almost don't have enough sleep just to save and be able to buy that house. She sacrificed not having a family of her own yet as she planned to build a house first before having children. My younger sister got her own family very early. I hope all the concerns will be settled soonest for both of them. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Have a cool day ahead.

Hi Aries, That's nice. I think we older sister will opt for that decision and condition. My younger sister still did not make any commitment about that. I think she needs more time to decide whether she's willing to abide by the rules or not. We all grew up very independent but that did not become a barrier for us to help one another when the time arises. I hope all will turn out well for both of them. Have a nice day. Mwah!

Hi TheDemonicAngel. Thank you for sharing your thoughts about this. My elder sister and I will do the same. As long as the person like my younger sister is willing to follow the set conditions. As of now, I think she's having second thoughts about it. I really don't know what's her intention since it will be very hard for her to commute 3 hours or more a day from her work to the new house. It will also be more expensive and complicated for her family as well (The kids and her husband). Anyways, we are a family. So whatever will be the best for each one of us is what matters.

Hi TLilly12! Thank you for being honest. I thought it's not good to decide that way. But yes, it really did not sound right. My younger sister has a good paying job and is very few miles away from her house. It's just 1 ride. Unlike on the new house, that will be 5 or more rides in a day just to reach the place. If there's no traffic it will be 3 hours of commuting, but if there's rain or bad weather, it will have to take more. They are renting a house for few years already and the kids are studying nearby there place (Convenience to travel) then suddenly she made that plan to move on my elder sister's new house (Just finished constructing). We are still waiting for her to communicate after she ignored my elder sister's latest message to her. Have a lovely day!

Hi Scoffield127. Yes, it's good to help as well. I also mentioned that to my elder sister that it's better that my younger sister will stay there with her family since it will be left unoccupied not until my elder sister settles down here. Some stranger might live there and that will be a bigger problem. Some things like windows, water meter might get stolen as steels/metals can be sold to convert into instant cash. Thank you for bringing up that concern.