Promises...are made to be broken or not...

I have been disappointed before with empty promises. Even as a kid, I was disappointed. But I understood because we were poor and didn't have a lot of extra money to buy wants, only needs. As a grown-up, I remember this incident very well and made it a point not to make promises. Ever.

Yes that is what some always says, when they have not kept what they had promised to someone. It's an easy way out for others because they would say many are doing it, anyway. But for me, the word promise is a very meaningful word. It's better not to promise if you are not really sure about it.

People have made promises to me and broke them...which is why I don't trust very easily. I never make promises unless I know for certain I can keep. A lot of people say 'promises are made to be broken' but that seems so stupid to me. Why make a promise you know you won't keep!

Hello and welcome to myot :D. I have broken a ton of promises, and a ton of promised that other people made to me were broken too. The way I see it is that when a promise is made it really depends on circumstances, and these change all the time. For example, let's say you promise to go out to the movies one day next week with someone, that promise not only depends on my desire to go to the movies with that person, but also in a bunch of factors beyond that. When I made the promise I was alive, I probably had enough money to go to the movies, I had the ability to physically get to the cinema, I had nothing else to do, etc. If any of these circumstances change (I die, I go bankrupt, I get run over by a stampede of horses and get sent to the hospital, terrorists take over my town, there's a fire in which I save a child but the parents die and the child doesn't let go of me ever, etc.) then I wouldn't be able to go to the movies. Not because my desire to go changed, but because the circumstances did. This applies to most of the promises one can make. Let's say I get married and say we will stay together forever, the circumstances on that promise say we love each other and we trust each other. If those circumstances change and we begin to hate each other or become jealous or suspicious to the point of madness, then keeping that promise would cause despair. That is why they say that promises are made to be broken, not because people plan to break them (most people anyway), but because things change and promises don't take into account that. Something that exist as an absolute without adapting will always be destroyed in the end.