Have you ever experience relief from therapy,support group, or friends?
By Dominique25
@Dominique25 (9464)
United States
March 14, 2013 12:14pm CST
I would say for the last three years in particular times have been really hard. My marriage has been falling apart, and I have been working very hard to do everything right to keep it together, and I had our daughter in the midst of all of this. I know for a lot of people the pregnancy stage is a great part of their life and it strengthens the bond between many couples. Unfortunately for me it was not a very happy time for me. My husband just played video games all the time so much so that when I was pregnant I took the tv myself (since it was mine anyway) to a second hand store and donated.
To make a long story short Lately I have been talking with others, and reading different books that have made me feel so much better. Almost everyone I know has told me to stay in this relation even though it is bad. So I have just stopped talking about my feelings because i have been made to feel as if it is a horrible thing to want to leave this marriage. I have felt so alone in this whole ordeal until recently. I feel that I can really get through this hard time and start my life over. Have you ever felt really good about some type of advice you have been given or by experiences that others have shared with you.
6 responses
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
14 Mar 13
I have been through what you are facing right now.
I have stayed in a marriage life for the sake of our kids- but still we parted ways in the end.
I never regretted spending my 12 years in my married life- my kids are my joy and happiness.
My kids keep me alive all through those years.
My ex never lifted a finger on me- but he hurt me emotionally so badly.
He is a womanizer- and keep on saying he loves me... (duh)
Until one day I found myself feeling empty and all I need is my freedom.
So, 7 years ago....I gain my freedom and I can say that I did the right choice.
I am alone- not actually alone because my kids lives with me.
I am happy with my life- without worries (well, parenting issues is always there)
But I am contented with my life now....no string attached- free as a bird.
I am not saying that you should give up.
However- what's the use of saving a relationship if love and respect is not already there.
What is the use of wasting your life/time staying in a relationship that seems hopeless right from the start.
Live your life the way you want...NO ONE OWNS YOU (BUT GOD ALONE)
So, think now....
@Brijeshprajapati (163)
• India
14 Mar 13
i experience it all the time , my group is a big group of guys and girls and we share all our experiences and help each other specially in studies where i need a lot of support from my friends and i have never felt lonely , never in my life.
@jenny1015 (13366)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
Hello, Dominique! I am not sure if you remember me saying that we are both in the same situation, the only difference is I have been married for 19 years.
It is hard to be in a relationship wherein only you are the one who sees that there is something that needs to be done or changed. You take all the responsibility at home and yet never appreciated. Most of the people who knew about my situation have told me to leave my husband and start anew. Even my parents support me with that which shocked me. It might be the best so that I can finally have my peace of mind, but I realize that I wouldn't find myself any happier outside my marriage.
And just like you, I have stopped complaining about my situation to people who know my problem coz I feel that they might be thinking exactly what your friends might be thinking. So I say, just hold on, pray for strength and guidance. And as the saying goes, "IF YOU CAN'T BEAT Them, JOIN THEM". It might be just the key to keep our sanity intact.
@teotimoponcerosacena (1551)
• Philippines
15 Mar 13
As long as he don't hurt you physically and you have your daily needs with you keep it up be strong just think of it as trials in marriage life. In your stage this the part wherein most couple separate. In your part you are open to temptations you will never know that in your situation somebody will take advantage and proposed for illicit relations with you. It will be hard for you to resist for you are emotionally weak for the moment
@extremefun4fun (2908)
• India
15 Mar 13
I suffer too much about my husband and being alone, I also did not like my pregnancy as that was a force by my husband and now even force of living with him becuse of our daughter is between us.
I try to continue this life, with sometimes good affirmation and reading some positive things about power of affirmation and thought to change the life.
it makes me some hope, and energize me for some time.
