Selfish behavior

The most important question you have to ask yourself, is what is my need in attracting a "selfish" partner into my life?

I have only had 1 encounter with a selfish boyfriend, but you know what I didn't have to set him straight about the way that he was. My "big brother" who is a legendary wrestler, paid him a visit after I told him what was going on at the gym the night before. He stopped being selfish at that point, because he surely wouldn't have changed if I said anything. Most of the time men will respond to being sat down and you pooring out your emotion to them. But if he isn't one of those guys you might have to go a little higher on the food chain than yourself; get in good with his mother and if he is any kind of man he will surely listen if his mother sits him down and talks to him about being selfish with you.

I feel bad about it. But instead of starting a fight over it, I try to understand his reason behind it. It is hard to deal with it really, especially if it involves the family. I just try to avoid arguments.

In my opinion, we should choose our partner really carefully. This is because if you choose the wrong person to be with you, you may just find yourself yearning to be free and single again due to certain negative personalities that you might not be able to stand. I have to admit that we are generally selfish to a certain degree. But if a person's selfishness bridges the level that we can accept, it will really hurts the relationship a lot. So think wise and do something about it.

I would suggest you to, try to understand the situation and then think whatever you are thinking is right or wrong? Be sure you are missunderstanding him? because most of the fights and arguments happen just because of missunderstanding. Put yourself in his shoes and try to understand. If you still think he is selfish them communicate with him and make him understand. Get help of friends or family members.

Yeah, you are right. I remember, one time, when I and my boyfriend had an argument and fighting, he told me I was a selfish one just because I did not do what he want. And I was hurt for it. And so, as a reply I told him what was I all did for him for him to reveal that I am a selfish and he realized he was so stupid to tell that to me.

That is easy, dump him as quick as you possibly can and get away from him as far as possible. His selfish behavior will go very far, nothing you can do to reverse the course.

You need to be generous and you did right.We need to talk about when facing problems we met.Thus things can be settled well i think.I can't tolerate and thus it become complicated.So communicating would really be a good way for me.

Yeah I agree with you. I feel that my husband's selfishness is leading me to strongly consider separation/divorce. It gets old when a person continues to be selfish for years and doesn't make any changes. It's like with him he knows I will do everything so he doesn't try to help out at all or give me a break. And unfortunately the only way for him to really appreciate me is to live without me.

In my views if you have clear communication then there is no such chance of selfishness