Do you prefer Good or Bad to happen for the one who hurts you alot in the life?

Do not you believe on any power which is upper than our power? why you are so anti pray and religions? I mean, prays effects, but has time to work. do not believe in karma or something like that?

Yes, I beelieve in the higher power authority. But not the way how people sees it. There is a super energy which controles everything. I used to visualise it and even enjoy it. But our prays and has no relation to it. If we prays, we get relief and we get relaxed, assuming that our prays have heard by someone. That is why I said, all are inter-related with our pshychological relations. It is really a complicated circle and we cannot easily ditach and think separately. Whenever feel free and being out of everything, just think or imagin little bit freely regardless of everything (religion and all such things) we can see the power or the essential eternal essense within ourself and around us. And this visualisation will make you happy. But we are getting annoyed by the situations around and many other factors and not our concepts.

so, that power you believe is not that pchichological relation too? Finally, all of us, we believe in something which is super nature. right? the power you confess too, is the power which has connected every thing to another thing like a chain. then how to say praying is not a part of that? In my idea, when we pray, our energy connect to that super energy and if we would be able to see that energy, we will see how that increases and connect strongly to that super energy, and that is the time, we feel fresh and think yes, somebody heared me and respondes to me.

you are absolutely right. forgiveness is the best way.

My mother used to give me the exact same advice

Yes, from the time I increase my hate to that person, I just suffer with high blood pressure which is so uncommon in my family. so from the time I changed the way of my hate, to pray and leave him to hand of God and ask God to forgive and give him knowlege and right way of life, then I feel much better. I hope that I will be able to make good changes in my destiny which changed with a lie and force of that personn in my life, I have no way, except, accept and forgiveness and leaving all thing to hand of God and rest in God, I hope that it will work for my better life and make some good changes to that one.

I experience somthing in my life, there was a time in my life, that when somebody hurt me I used to pray to God, cry hiddenly and ask God to forgive that one for his or her ignorance and show him or her the right way. that time, after some months, or years, I saw the punishment that God has given to that person by his way and language. But from the time that I have started to complain and ask God like command to do this and that with the one who hurts me, ask bad wishes for him and want bad things happen to him, it has worked totally opposite for me, I mean it is like all of that bad wishes happen to me more and that one is becoming more happy. so I have learn now that we are not permitted to ask bad things for anybody, as that person, good or bad, is one of God's creator and God loves all of his human. so I left him to God and I say to God you know better. I leave him for you, you are the only Almighty to know what to do with that one, I just rest in you, you hear and see everything, you read whatever is passing from hearts and minds of your human. so this way, work better.

Yes, I feel better and Thanks to God for everything, from the time that I stoped asking bad wishes to the one who hurts me and replacing that with good wishes, I feel that now at least God look at me and listen to my pray. I hope that I will be able to forgive that person from my heart, I am still not able to do that, I try , I have been just started to stop bad things happen for him, and just wish him that God show him right way of life and humanity, give him knowlege of being good becuase that is the only way he will understand the taste of pain that he gave to me or others. so I leave him to hand of God, because God is the only one and has power to do anything from nothing. God knows better what to do, and I leave everything for him and his time.

I am agree with you, as while as asking God to punish the one who hurts me, I saw that day by day, bad things happen to me and my family more. now I am learning to forgive and ask God to show that person right way of life, the way of humanity and love. so for that I feel that while I pray, God is so kind to me.

well, you are lucky that you have been removed that person from your life, maybe that is the reason you were able to forgive him.

Thank you so much, I really agree with you. we have to leave the one who hurt us to hand of God, he is the only one to know the best what to do and what to not do. God knows what is good or bad for us better than all of us. so these days I have stoped complaining against my husband to God, I just with the words of God, you see and hear everything,I rest in you, and I ask help just from you, has made some pease within me to believe that now God is kind to me and make me more faith that like this karma work better for that person.

That is becuase I saw all the bad I want for the one who hurts me come back to me. so I saw that I have to stop that. I should not ask bad for anybody to happen, because, God is able to forgive or giving him punishment. so I just left him for God and asked forgiveness from God that he is your creator, I leave him for you to forgive or punish. hlep me to come over.