Forgive the guy who made us heart-broken
By jricky1
@jricky1 (6800)
China
8 responses
@cherigucchi (14876)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
Time can heal all wounds, I believe in this. I have forgiven someone who had caused me heart break a very long time ago and it felt good to be released by that kind of feeling.
@fearlessgara (1113)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
that is true. and we always learn from that. I just stick to my mind that there is a reason for everything and or there is a purpose why this thing happens. So i learn to accept it for I become more better person because of such heartache.
@BeeWeezer (18)
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21 May 23
@fearlessgara 100% correct. Everything happens for a reason. We may not see it now but believe me, sooner or later, you would be thankful such event in your life happened which has made you a better and a stronger being.
@whitneysquirrel (224)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
For me, the important thing with forgiveness is to do it sincerely. If I force myself to do it even if I am not ready, I feel like I am just pretending and the hatred is still there. I fell the same way with moving on. Sometimes I insist that I am already over something when I am not yet truly recovered. So I just give myself a break and, although I am seeking relief, I still prefer what's real and not just wishful thinking.
@whitneysquirrel (224)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
I do that a lot too, travel. To be honest, in my case, I think it is just avoidance. You feel good for that little bit of time when you're away, but one can't travel forever, and when I come back I still feel bad about it. So since I am not really confrontational, I just try to deal with stuff as they come, not really avoiding them but also not really confronting them really.
@fearlessgara (1113)
• Philippines
16 Mar 13
yous said it very well. that is the right decision that I myself too did or i may say is doing.for it is in teaching of God to forgive someone for He always forgive us too. if we don't Forgive someone God will also not forgive us in our sin.and it is also hard in feelings keeping anger with someone. so forgiving set us free. and give us peace of mind.
@BeeWeezer (18)
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21 May 23
Usually, the initial outcome of anger is hate. I mean, we are not robots controlled by some push buttons like one for hatred and another one for forgiveness. It goes through a process. There is the denial, bargaining, hatred, acceptance and finally the forgiveness. But, we need to remember that we differ in tolerance. Probably with you, it will just take a few months while for the others, a year or more. The most important thing is that you free yourself from a heavy heart. That is the only way of winning your life back.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
17 Mar 13
I agree with you. Hatred is such a negative feeling and it will only drown you out if you would refuse to let it go. unlike those people who have been hurt and is able to forgive and let go, they would be able to face their lives better with so much hope. when one remains in the shadow of the hurt and the pain and hatred, they will only want revenge, and they would just be dragging themselves down even more.
@Sherryrob1 (126)
• United States
18 Mar 13
I agree forgiveness is hard but forgiving is the only way you can move past a situation. It takes time to both heal and forgive but the great thing is once you're over it, you're over it. To put it plainly, forgiveness is actually for yourself not for the other person. It aids in healing.
