I will never understand why people moan about things that they

Hi jugsjugs!! Ohhhhhh, so true! I can think of so many people like that. If they were just a wee bit smarter about their financial choices, they wouldn't be in the money pit they put themselves in. I also will never understand how people will complain so much about their situations but they yap more about it than be productive in turning their situations around.

Responsibility goes a long way as does ownership. The choices we make impacts our life, either immediately or sometime in the future, but while we're waiting, we have to live. There is time between goals and deadlines. I get what you're saying and I agree. I might be further ahead if I didn't rent movies for the kids to watch or buy certain brands or types of foods, but I remember I want to have a little fun between the here and now and it helps me to stick to my longterm plans just that much better. All work and no play makes Jack a very dull boy (or maybe even depressed).

That's very true and one of the hardest things for people to see. I used to advise people professionally who wanted to get out of debt. They wanted some magic pill kind of answer, not to be told they would have to stop spending so much money. When I would point out that they had created their own debt, they couldn't (or didn't want to) see it. They always had an excuse as to why they spent the money and it often was someone else's fault (so they said).

Their priorities are twisted. No money, no decent car, etc. It's the priorities they have. And it is normal for them to blame everyone but themselves for their woes. They are immature and need a look at reality. They live in a dream world and should have been taught in childhood how to cope and deal with their responsibilities.

I'm too before. I can't understand why and I fee to hate them. If we want to have a comfortable life, we must think how to improve it. We must work hard. Right? We don't have any benefits if we only sit and moan about the bad things of life. But now, I feel more comfortable when I meet these people. Everybody have power to choose how we live. So, you don't need to think about them.

I pay people like this not attention, I was sitting in the doctor office, and these old women talking about how they, waste their money at the casino, now these are women that get a check every month, and they have nothing better to do, with their money but blow it at the casino,and then they want some body to, give them money after they wasted their money, I don't feel sorry for people like this, and I don't give them anything either.

There is always a temptation to get disgusted with people since many times it seems they got what they deserve: so to say. But, I wouldn't want people judging me in a way that is harsh.. I try to see that maybe they can't help it..and maybe even their moaning has become a perpetual illness.. it's a thing to pity rather than judge.. I know where you are coming from.. but really people become so much in a habit of things that they don't even realize what they are doing.. someone along the line said nothing to them about such ways and now it's a habit or disease

I agree with you they should take the blame of thier actions on them selves

It shows lack of control and a weakness in character. People go by their impulses and act for the moment; once the resources are not there they crib.You 'cannot have the cake and eat it too.'

nobody wants to be at fault for their own problems... Actually the people you are talking about are the ones who never learn from their mistakes.

I hear this all the time! Most of the people who do this have money.some don't but spend on things they don't need. Going to bars and drinking is another reason were the money goes! People are idiots! They don't want to face the truth so they take it out on others! Common sense,like with money,is no where to be seen nowadays! With my problem is I pay my bills but never save money ahead of time for things,like car repairs and other things. I just have not taught myself this! I am trying now but it is hard to think differently after all these years! Then there are the idiots who think they know what they are doing with their money and really don't! I know a couple who is always in money problems! The husband is the problem! He has done alot of different jobs,done some bad investing in bars/resturants places and now he just started his own realastate business! He thinks he is a money genius but is really stupid with money! Thanks to his investing blunders they have gottan deep in crap and almost lost their house! I can see the reality business being a disater,in the future,too! I wish the wife would wake up and leave him! I hope she does someday!

I know of a few people like that. They complain they don't have any money, but the money they do have they drink or gamble away. I know of one woman that is always broke, but she buys gifts for everyone she knows. and every holiday, not just Christmas and birthdays. That is nice to do if you can afford it, but don't complain that there is no money if you can't.

This goes with my disdain for people's sense of entitlement. Some think that the world owe them for having to go through hardship. Hardship, which in the first place, they've created themselves. And then they moan about life being unfair. And then the drinking comes...

This goes with my disdain for people's sense of entitlement. Some think that the world owe them for having to go through hardship. Hardship, which in the first place, they've created themselves. And then they moan about life being unfair. And then the drinking comes...

Yes, friend you are very right. Some of our problems are just a matter of how we choose to use the resources we have. If we choose to be wasteful and foolish then we have no one to blame but ourself.

Is pretty normal if you ask me. People are all different and often things we do does not coincide with others. EspecialI when itcomes to dealing with life's proble. But yeahitcan beannoying to see someone who Alwaysblame othersfor b what hasbecome of their lives. It is their own doing and they shoshouldn'tblame it on others. When Idon't have anythingor when Idon't know how to go about something I just work on it and I don't go allover the place whiningand yakking about itt. I try to find ways.

'no money' seems to be a popular phrase that comes out from people's mouth unconsciously. My mother used to tell me not to utter these words as it will be a curse in itself. Think positive or think rich and will always be happy with what ever little money we have.

I guess it's human nature to have somebody or something to put the blame to whenever something goes south. Blaming one's self is usually last in the option, or in some cases not available at all. So, maybe, just maybe, it can't be helped at all.

Overall I feel the same way and for many years I have helped people in these situations when I had more money but now that I am going through my financial woes, I can barely get any help at all from these people. At first I was angry and felt like they were doing me wrong. Then I began to change my focus and ask myself the hard questions.....What did I do to contribute to this? What could I have done differently? Some savings maybe? Setting reasonable limits by saying no sometimes? What can I do now to make things better? It is hard facing our own contribution to our problems but I believe that is the best way to resolve them. For me it's much harder as I am older with health issues that slow me down, but I learning not to rely on others to help and that I may have to crawl before I can walk again. It keeps me humble and every day I try just a little bit harder but mostly I hold myself accountable to get back on my feet.

I try not to judge what other people do with their money as I don`t like anyone to judge what I do with mine. Yet I Don`t like those people that moan, as you say, behaving like victims of destiny. Even when life is not as we wish, even when there`s pain inside us, we must try to learn to count our blessings. To put it in a light tone: Those people that drank their money should remember how happy they were when drinking