He's Really Mad At Me...

I also hope that he stops being mad at you. That would be a long trip if he's mad. You should try talking him into viewing it as a vacation. When you have to do something like that and spend a lot of money it's best to view it as a family vacation. It would be depressing though to know that you are spending money on another wedding compared to what you spent on your own. Perhaps you can do something nice for him to make him feel better about the trip. Maybe some type of small gift with a card. I hope he feels better and you as well.

And yet on the other hand he was quite willing to spend out money for a rabbit? Playing devil's advocate I can see it from both your sides, it's reaching that all important compromise. However being mad at you is not helping, it's not your fault that your sister's wedding is on Thursday, you could have put money aside if you have known about it for over a year, and yet maybe part of him feels a tad jealous of the wedding costing more than his. You could use this opportunity as a 'break' you certainly deserve one, after all that horrid business at Christmas and that horrid incident about the accusation against you and your husband. How often do you get to go on holiday, a break away? It will do you both the world of good, see it like that, as a holiday my friend. You both need to find time to sit down together and talk it out adult to adult, otherwise there is little point in going if he's going to be mad all the way there, that will spoil the atmosphere of a day that is meant to be happy! I hope he can calm down and talk it through rationally with you and you can both come to a compromise. I wish you all the best my friend.

Tell him if he can't get in the mood of the wedding , he doesn't have to go! You will go in a great dress and have a great time! I hope he gets over all of this. It is your sister's big day. You Have to be there!

Hi! Believe me I can understand that and having been a part of a wedding three years ago (mine), I remember being careful of what some may say to be frivolous expenses. What you can do is get in touch with the bride, mother of the bride, or perhaps the maid/matron of honor and see where there are some good deals there. Is there a group discount at one location? Print off some coupons if you find some for the area where the wedding will be. Also see if you can pay off a few small bills so he'll have one less thing to fret about. Men do get a bit frazzled about wedding costs but when he calms down and sees you making an effort...may help to diffuse the tension between you two.

Good luck with it, I have never known my dad to be that angry with my mother, it's always the other way around. So thats all I know, the female being angrier than the guy all the time, I grew up that way. I think your hubby is right in one way and not the other way. I'm just hoping you can find a halfway point that will make you both happy. Perhaps spend somewhat lesser on the wedding? I don't know what else to say except to compromise on both sides, you and him as well. Is he not talking to you or does or says mean things?

Sorry to hear that. Im sure if he sits and thinks about it. He will see its not your fault. Have a great time at the wedding.

It's a wedding so we really have to spend money whether we like it or not. Your sister is getting married so tell your husband that this day is such a special for your sister. She'll get married only once just like you & your husband. If we miss a special event, we can't get back to it. I hope your husband won't get angry at you anymore. If he is, then it's better not to go to your sister's wedding. Maybe it'll be a bad day for you and your husband.Goodluck. I hope you'll get that fixed as soon as possible.

That is really not good... Just hope and pray for him that he will be well... Just do something that will take out of his being mad at you... So that you will both enjoy your travel and the wedding that the money you spend for that wedding is worth a spend because you bonded and enjoyed it...

Money is hard to earn. I think we all know that. So, having to spent quite some amount of money on others will somehow affect one's mood. So I can totally understand your husband's feeling. Though since it's your sister's wedding, you have to attend somehow and this cannot be avoided. Perhaps you can try to help your husband save a little from here and there, if he notices your effort of helping him reduce the use of money on this trip, he will definitely feel better. Perhaps you can start with budget hotel?

Oh it's really hard when you're in between, right? But maybe try to explain your side and after that try asking his reasons why is he mad. I think you have to meet half way. Anyway, it's just a suggestion and I only based it on my parents' experience. I hope you will resolve your problem before the wedding so it will goes all well. :)

There's no reason for him to be angry at you or anyone. The only one he's hurting is himself so just let him sit in his anger and HAVE FUN! If you're going to spend money attending the wedding, you might as well have a blast! Let your husband be miserable if he wants, have some fun. Hope you have a nice time!

I wish you to enjoy the wedding. men all are mad, even my husband. recently was my cousin's wedding and for the first time he saw how we marry in my country and for that now he has sit in his place. lol

It's normal that he is worried about financial stuff because he is responsible for his family. Yet he also knows that he cannot let the wedding just pass especially it's for your sister...he just can't do anything at the moment but give him enough room to really reflect on it while he is also making ends meet :) He'll get over it. He's not mad at you per se, he's just showing you that he is at the moment just being anxious, all you can do is encourage him that things will be okay and everything will turn out great! Have a nice time at the wedding :) just enjoy yourselves!

It seems to me that men get madder over money than anything else. However, it also seems like if they want to buy a new technological object or something they don't think twice about spending it. Not all, but the ones I know. Have a wonderful time at the wedding and try not to let him bring you down. I'm sure your hubby will get over his mad. I mean it's your sister for god's sake.

I guess it's really about the spending. I mean I wouldn't be really excited as well to have to spend so much to attend something I cannot directly benefit or profit from, but it's a family occasion so I guess that's a different thing.

I'd be mad about having to spend the money too.. I'd probably find a way out of it... like drive back the same night instead of getting a hotel, and doing my own hair and nails.

Is he still alittle mad about the animal he wanted to get the kids? Maybe its a lot of things. I hope he stops being mad too. My ex used to have these expressions he would have when he was mad at me. They really bothered me.

Dear Loving, I am sorry your husband is mad at you. I hope that does not stop you from enjoying the wedding. Congratulations to your sister!

I have had memories from both of my sister's and brother's wedding. When my brother was married in 2004, of course, since I am part of the family, I was expected to be with my mom and sister to have our hair and make up done ahead of time. I was 5 months pregnant then. My husband made a big fuss about me having to leave the house early. As if he doesn't understand the whole situation. We argued about it. So what I did, I left the house on a taxi with my 3 year old son. Tagging along my gown and my son's clothes who happens to be the ring bearer. I was so furious about his attitude that I couldn't control my anger, I texted her sister and told her what happened. I was so mad at him. I never thought he would follow, but since almost all of his family were invited as well, he was forced to drive for his mom and dad. They knew what happened and was a bit ashamed of what their son did. The whole wedding, I was really not smiling. The pictures would tell how upset I was. My husband didn't join us when it was time for the family picture taken. In 2011, my sister had her wedding. My husband never showed interest in coming. I feel like strangling him to get back to his senses. It was very insulting in my part and a disrespect on my family. I never bothered to ask him to come. I slept on the sofa the night before the wedding. He never knew I went home the night before. I had all my children stay at my parents' house so I would not have problems with taking them to the hotel since there was a huge storm that day. I married a complete ba---rd and have to deal with him for life! Oops, sorry for the rant. But I jut can't stop myself from sharing my experience.

He is right to want to get ahead on the bills, maybe you can do your own hair, wear a dress you already have, and eat on the cheap. I know when we went to my husband's best friends wedding everything except for my dress, and our hotel were paid for, and the gas there and back.