Assuming your boyfriend or girlfriend can come
By 911Ricki
@911Ricki (13588)
Canada
March 17, 2013 1:53pm CST
Now I know with all my ex's they knew if I asked they were invited, if not they weren't invited.
If say I was invited somewhere I would ask can so and so come.
My sisters boyfriend, and my younger brother girlfriend just assume they are invited to things. They never show up for any family functions,unless they are getting something for example Christmas they each get $400 so they funny thing shows up. My Grandma's birthday, parents birthday, or anytime of function they never show up.
The last time other than Christmas time (when they get something), my sisters boyfriend hasn't shown up in 7 years, my younger brothers girlfriend will say she is coming, then not show up she has done this since they have started dating.
We are planning some day with my Grandmother and of course my grandmother is paying. So of course my brother and sister assume their tag alongs can come. I would never in my life assume my boyfriend could come without asking (especially with my grandmother paying - it's a day out with her grandchild not moochers).
They will say they can come, we will stand outside the restaurent or stores waiting, nd they never show up, or late by a few hours.
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4 responses
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
19 Mar 13
With our family it has always been assumed that when one person is invited, their significant other is invited as well as long as the relationship with the significant other is a committed relationship.
However, this has meant that our tag-alongs have been submitted to attending several events where they are not receiving anything.
However in the situation that you've described here, I don't think that your siblings should assume that their significant other is invited, except for any spouses.
@911Ricki (13588)
• Canada
19 Mar 13
I can see if being married, but my brother and his girlfriend break up constantly, they never see each other it's been 3 months yet they are still supposeable dating. She assume she was going on vacation with the family, and invited to holidays. She comes over long enough to get something then leaves, same with my sisters boyfriend. Threy are here an hour, then gone.
@MoonGypsy (4606)
• United States
17 Mar 13
ha ha! it would be funny if your grandma just let them come along and then announce that they would have to pay their own way as soon as they got there. that would serve them right.
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Mar 13
hi ricki I never ev
er assumed my boyfriend or husband could come but always asked as often if he could not come I did not really want to go either. I really hate it when friends and relatives say they will come than do not show up and don't even take the courtesy to phone and explain why they did not come,
er assumed my boyfriend or husband could come but always asked as often if he could not come I did not really want to go either. I really hate it when friends and relatives say they will come than do not show up and don't even take the courtesy to phone and explain why they did not come,
