Sometimes Pain is the only teacher people will listen to...

May be if someone has no failure he will never understand what real success is.This is the natural way of learning and getting wisdom.Some kind of curiosity to feel and experience something by yourself not listening to the warnings of the others.Nobody can prevent us from the lessons of life.

Your discussion is like an arrow to the heart. I have experienced that pain way too many times, it's the most potent way for us learn although it takes quite a long time to heal and sometimes people don't heal at all and become twisted.

Hi chiyosan, I believe that we do this because from our childhood our parents, teachers and relatives taught us to be ourselves, to do what we like, that life will be hard and we need to handle difficult situations in our life. We want to live our life the way we want and deal with challenges, we don't know how it will end, and even if we heard someone's story we say:"that won't happen to me" If there was a book of life maybe we have learned it but life is only one and it's so short, we don't have time to learn, we need to live it the way we want, even if we'll get hurt.

I think this is because of our freedom or power to choose. we are responsible to the result of our own actions and I think it is but Justice to practice this freedom without being influenced by anyone. the sad part though is when you say, "i should have listened to your warning" :-(

As the old saying goes. People learn from mistakes, the smart ones learn from others mistakes. Unfortunately with some people you can give them advice until you are blue in the face and they wont listen. Those ones just let them go on about their business and let them learn from their own mistakes so you can save your breath for someone who will listen. That is my opinion :)

Not all people experience pain and being hurt learn of what they did...Like for example in the relationship some people hold on to their feelings and try to fix everything although they know it is not worth it..They get hurt from it but still they did not learn..to be hurt is normal, we get lesson from it..If we are not going to be hurt, no more challenge in life.

I think that there are not too many statements that are more true than the statement that you've made here. What I'm saying is that there were a lot of times that my mother told me that I shouldn't make certain decisions in my life because I would only end up hurt. Well, I didn't listen to her and the end result of those decisions that I'd made were that I ended up getting hurt by other people and it was only after that happened to me that I was able to say to her that she was right in what she'd told me.

Yes, it's true but it could be a sort of a challenge too, because by being hurt we could become stronger. Sometimes we need to feel the pain before we learned something from that experienced. I think too that through pain we become more stronger the next time around.

It's part of human nature, I guess, that they need to really experience it before realizing that it was something that they should have avoided and have listened to the warnings told by family or friends. We always get the thinking that if a certain thing came out bad to another person, we think that we might not have the same experience and always hope that a good thing would happen instead.

I have always believed in what you just said. Though I think it's not only pain, perhaps some punishment will be able to make people realize their mistake and grow up. Everybody have their own opinion and view of things. Most of them wrong but they still want to act on their belief. Eventually they will fall and suffer. Only these suffering will have the chance to change them for the better.

right same with me attitude in the past but now i am so okey to really listen, as i want to avoid silly pain. ahmmmmmmmm

maybe because each of us are indivijual in the way of thinking and experience of what others they say or maybe it is becuase those ones do not believe they will hurt and think they can do that better than others and they will nerer fail. my husband is one of those, whatever they say to him this is wrong he would never listen and think that there is no power in the world who is able to hurt him. he fails even but never care, then he blame on strange things.

if you do not want to get hurt, do not do wrong. but his name alive, even though everything is good and true, yet we certainly will not hurt.

Pain is the mother of all lessons. But the only way people learn lessons is by felling it in first person... most won't repeat it again, hopefully. But some love to indulge in it over and over again...!