I feel so alone and have sighs in my heart as usual!

India
March 19, 2013 4:42am CST
it is almost from last night, I talked to my husband about why he is so greedy to me and our child, I mean he pays for himself and friend, for $ex outside and when I ask to send some chips and bisuits for our kid, the first word he says is I have no money, I wonder how he has money for daily alohocol but not for healthy things which a human needs to eat. even when I talk soft and smooth with him, he shout at me and has stoped talking to me and behave bad from yesterday, he used to behave like that and harressing me with that kind of behave as he sees I am far from my all family and live in his country. sometimes tears come badly and I wish him that God break his heart and feel the same feelings which he gives me here. sometimes when he go out of home, I really wish to God if he could never come back again, then How fortunate I could be!
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10 responses
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
You need to get away from that man as soon as possible.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Mar 13
I think you should ask yourself that if you really want to get away and divorce or you want to stay with him and has to decide yourself. Which country are you from?
@Aja103654 (5644)
• Philippines
22 Mar 13
So he raped you so he wouldn't leave you? If he treats you like that, why is he so angry about getting divorced? Is he mad?
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• India
21 Mar 13
from the firsst day i could know his reality i wanted to leave him when i asked for divorce he come to beat me and put belt aroung my neck he all time says if you want divorce see in your dream i will murder you but not divorce you and he gave me force child as he was afraid if i leave him, his friedn teach him that give her child that for child she will not be able to leave you or say a word on what you do. so i really wish for divorce but becuawe he is not giving me that and now i have a kid, then i jsut pray to become widow by God.. I really wish for that, and trully that is the only way in my life.
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@thanks1961 (7035)
• India
19 Mar 13
It's something like a 5 star hotel cooks and serves well and when he come back his own home, he starves as there is no food for him to eat! I don't know, whether you undersootd what I mean, if yes, well, otherwise, sorry.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 Mar 13
Evil never wins. Good always wins. Devil never wins battle. God always win. It is the testing time and God will carry you in His arms. God will always there to wipe your tears.
• India
19 Mar 13
I am sure that you are got cornored or got jamed from all the 4 sides. But now, by reading all, my blood just boiling up and if I get a chance to meet him somewhere, I will first give him a slap and then only I will talk. As you think, not all Indians are like him and believe or not, you really trapped into into the wrong person. Eveywhere there are people like him. Not only India, but everywhere. Even in your place also such people are there, but you are not aware of it. We cannot predict about a nation or a country considering a single person's nature or habit. As from your words, he is really a cruel creature and don't deserve to call as a man! But please understand you never seen the good people from India and probably didn't get a chance for the same. I am not arguing, but it is a fact. I think there are topics to come and we will discuss more in detail over there.
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• India
19 Mar 13
Well, I know that good and bad are everywhere, but what I have experienced here is that I wrote. I even have seen many times that, while of being pregnant and beaten up by him, I asked help for a scarf to cover myself in the cold winter but any indian ladies did not give me even a scarf to cover myself and I spend a cold night behind the door as he was drunk and I was afraid. I still did not see humanity here. but these sort of thing, in anothre country, at least in my country people are too much better and have so much feeling for another. even there, people are more kind to the one who is stranger and they help more and shoe more hospitality but here, it is opposite.
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@r0ck_r0ck (1952)
• India
20 Mar 13
Maybe it is time for a divorce, if you haven't already. Divorce him, sue him for harassing and you can live off the alimony and child support. Jerks, like that should be taught a lesson and to be honest, being sorry for yourself and feeling helpless would not get you anywhere. Know your rights woman and act accordingly. Good luck.
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• Philippines
19 Mar 13
Sometimes, love can be really really blind. I don't know anything about your situation, but if you think this can still be fixed, do whatever it is to fix this. Hire an expert in relationships or something. Attend some counseling or something. However, if you think that whatever he's doing is enough, then learn how to stand your ground and end the relationship. Don't be blinded by what you're feeling.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 Mar 13
Good and bad is inside every people. Most probably he still might have some good that have not finished and I pray that the Good gets better of the bad inside him.
• India
21 Mar 13
I do hope so.
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• India
19 Mar 13
Thank you for you advice but he is wilder than to understand that we can not live and we should be seperate, he is just ready to murder me by that becuaes he says you have to live with me becuase of my image in front of my friends circles.... he is from so poor culture and mind, day by day I understand more how wild people they are. if i could close my eyes for my kid, then there was no problem at all but I can not leave my child and for that I have force to live till my daugter grow up and then if till that time I am alive then I will leave him.
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@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
20 Mar 13
Why waste your life with that man. We are now living in a modern world where everyone's rights is respected. I think, it's time for you to fight for that right. You should file a case against your husband for battering you and neglect of responsibility. I don't know about the cultures there but I hope there's a law that protects wife from their husband's maltreatment. Stand up for your right.
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• India
21 Mar 13
here in India getting divorce as an foreigner who have nobody here, is equal to run and waste money and time for whole the life... and what is wonder is to murder a one you will be in jail for seven years but if you want to divorce it is a l ong and harrasing program for life...... laws are too weak here. and some men are too wild, they murder their wife but they never divorce
• United States
19 Mar 13
to get money for the kid youi can go to his boss if he is working, and they wiii give you part of his money if your are legaly married. Live in is not so good. but he should still support his child. he doesnot sound like a good guy. dump him
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• India
19 Mar 13
Thank you. Yes, I am legally married and no, he does not have boss, he is a businessman and for that even I do not know anything about his income,, he hide it always and pays somewhere else with friends and going hotels with ladies. Well, I really wish him that whatever he take from right of me and our kid for his enjoyment, God thousand of that give him desease.
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@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Mar 13
I pray that his mind changes and he gives enough money to support you and your child.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
19 Mar 13
I am sorry to hear about your life and I hope everything changes for you. I pray to God that brings happiness to you. God loves you and loves you like His own child. No condition is permanent in life. Like season changes life do changes a lot. As time goes on, life will bring happiness to your. Like two sides of coins, you will also see the other side of the coin. Nature changes and there would be never one condition like sadness for one person all the time. Wait for the right time and good things will happen for you. May God bless you.
@ajithlal (14716)
• India
20 Mar 13
If you are in tears God will wipe your tars. I think pray that every things get well for you.
• India
21 Mar 13
thank you.
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@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
19 Mar 13
If you are not happily married and he is not supporting you and your kid, you can always file a case against your husband. but I am not sure if there is a law in your area regarding this matter.
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• India
21 Mar 13
is there any law in india ? i do not think so.
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@roshigo58 (4859)
• Pune, India
19 Mar 13
Hi, I feel very sorry for your difficult situation. Your husband is really cruel. He is taking advantage of your helpless situation. You have a child so you have to tolerate all this. It is very difficult to give advice. But you should be strong for your daughter. Whenever your husband is not in the home try to give love to your daughter. She also going under mental stress.
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• India
21 Mar 13
thank you so much for your advice.
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@Raine38 (12391)
• United States
19 Mar 13
What, wait, did you say he pays for $ex from other women? That is just so wrong! He's got you, why would he need to do that? And as his wife, you should have your share in his salary, or earnings. You have a right to half of it especially that you have a kid.
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• India
21 Mar 13
I know that i have the right but who is giving me that right? he or his law less country?
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