A little story..

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When I was pregnant with my first son I knew this couple that helped me out immensely. I was still very young, single, and living with my mother who was losing her eye sight during my pregnancy. She went on disability and times were hard. This couple did everything for me. They fed me, bought clothes for the baby, threw me a baby shower. They even gave me a job cleaning their house once a week and they'd pay me with dinner, a case of diapers and a case of baby wipes. So I made them my son's Godparents. A year later they divorced. The man moved away and lost contact with us. But I remained friends with the wife, Lisa. But then things started getting weird. I didn't necessarily like who she became. First she was hanging out with a guy half her age.. then eventually she started seeing a married man.. and I didn't agree with that at all. But that would have been fine if not for the rest of it.. She was there during the pregnancy and birth of my twins. When it came time to have the twins, I had to deliver in the operating room in case of problems.. though everything went smoothly. Only my husband was allowed to come to the OR with me, and Lisa was upset about that.. she'd been there when my first was born, watched the whole thing. I think she felt she deserved to be there for the twins birth also. After the twins were born and I was back in the regular delivery room, the nurse gave me one twin, and the other she gave to my husband. Lisa made my husband feel uncomfortable, so he handed his twin to her.. I didn't like that, he's the dad, you know? But my husband is like that, he doesn't like when people are upset. Her actions bothered him through the whole thing. He felt she didn't have a right to be upset.. but she was anyway. About a week later she came by the house to visit, and brought her married man with her.. to my house! I wasn't happy. To make matters worse, she hands him one of my newborn twins, and you could tell he didn't have kids.. he had no idea how to hold a baby. He held her at arms length on flat palms. If she'd twitched he would have dropped her on the floor! I quickly took her back away from him.. and was livid with Lisa for handing one of my children to him in the first place! These are my kids, not hers! The nerve! Still not the worst of it... She used to take my oldest out a lot.. bring him to hockey games or out to eat, or just over to her house. It got to a point he didn't want to go anymore. He never told me why.. he'd just get upset if I asked him if he wanted to go with Aunt Lisa, and he'd say no and start crying. I never pushed him to go if he didn't want to.. but she'd be upset. One summer I signed my son up for baseball. I asked Lisa if she'd help me bring him to his practices and stuff.. so I wouldn't have to drag the twins out. She agreed.. but then only offered to bring him to games, not practices. I did not want to miss his games! When she'd call to bring him to a game, I'd tell her I was going too.. so then suddenly she wouldn't want to go. She never told me why.. I started to feel like she wanted to be alone with my son.. without me. It was weird. So I started distancing myself from her. The last time I spoke to her was when I found out I was pregnant with my 4th child.. which was completely by accident. We decided at the time hubby would get a vasectomy. I e-mailed her to let her know about the pregnancy and the vasectomy. Her response was simply "Ouch, how are you going to afford that?". I knew she was talking about the pregnancy.. but I responded with "You'd better mean the vasectomy!" and that was the end of it.. we haven't spoken since. I've looked her up on Facebook a few times, but never found her. I did find her ex-husband.. he's remarried with a couple of kids and seems happy. Last I knew of Lisa she adopted a little Chinese girl..